Not Doing A "Cake Smash"?

trackgirlparis · July 2014

So, I know the popular thing to do these days is a "cake smash" for LOs birthday. I think people typically do them before their birthday party and with a photographer.

How many of you are not doing one of these? I guess I just don't see the point of them? I'm going to give LO a cupcake or something at her party and take photos but I'm not going to do something beforehand. Seems like a waste of money and takes the fun out of her party being the first time she gets cake.

Tell me I'm not alone?!

tashad18 · July 2014

With DS1, on his actual birthday, we had family over and a small cake. He smashed and we took pictures that are so hilarious, but it wasn't formal. We didn't do a smash at the first birthday party.

We are having his first birthday photos and a photographer at his party so she can capture the smash there. She is my friend's younger sister and is pretty much doing the photography for little to nothing with all rights ours so it isn't really a waste of money for us.

trackgirlparis · July 2014

beernifer said:
We are just doing a cake smash at the party. I am getting so excited!

That's what I plan on doing too. I just don't understand when people plan a whole different day to set up a shoot and have LO cake smash with a photographer lol

sooner1981 · July 2014

We didn't do a cake smash before the party. We just gave her a cupcake at the party and let her explore. Some kids don't like the taste, others love it.

I would rather have a less "perfect" picture that actually commemorates the first birthday and the first bite of cake, rather than a beautiful "posed" picture that I know was taken in a studio and didn't have family/friends around, was before the birthday, etc.

But it is totally one of those "to each, their own" decisions for me!

Inn2 · July 2014

Nope. And QM stole my gif

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We are doing 1 year shots but no cake smash and completely separate from his party. He'll have a small cake to play with and informal shots taken at that.

lefnc82 · July 2014

No cake smash here either. He will have some cake on his birthday and we can take pictures of him making a mess with it then, I don't see the need for a separate photo shoot.

catycate · July 2014

Yeah we just did the smash cake at DS's party. The pics we took were great and that way everyone got to see his toes curl at the first taste of chocolate. Poor dd won't get the same effect. Because, second child and all. She's already had tastes of sweets.

trackgirlparis · July 2014

@sooner1981‌ you spoke every word I was thinking! And @baconface‌ yeah, the consensus I've gathered is people doing. It beforehand. But maybe it's just these weird Canadians up here

muffyvonmuff · July 2014

Not beforehand. But my friends love playing with their fancy cameras so they will take some great pics of him smashing it at the party. I don't think Im going with the highchair either, I like more of a walk over and get into type of thing. Like this but in my back yard. I have a huge roll of white paper to lay out.

Gatorsgirl731 · July 2014

Nope. And I'm going to suck the joy right out of the party and not give her her own cake to make a mess with. We will do our party at a park it will be a nightmare to have cake everywhere, and she's not a fan of getting food all over her hands. But I also had the UO a while back that said I didn't find those pictures cute. Like the above picture, cute kid great picture, but the mess gives me the twitches.

#nofunmum

cvjoyner · July 2014

No cake smash. Just imagining the mess gives me anxiety. I would hate to clean all of that up. She'll have a small cake at her party that she will not put her hands on. If I do any kind of "smash", it'll be me giving her one of the small cupcakes at her party and letting her play with it.

tashad18 · July 2014

DS1 definitely made a huge mess with his cake on his actual birthday with family. Cake all over him and my face as well. The party was less messy which was good because I didn't want to ruin the outfit or clean up the huge mess.

vvg28 · July 2014

No cake smash here. I am having a simple birthday party with family and friends. We will eat and have a good time. I will give DS a cupcake to play with/eat.

I am hiring a photographer to hang out at the party for a couple of hours to take candid shots so I can just relax. Plus I can actually be in the pics with DS! That is my "splurge" for his party. $150 for two hours, unlimited rights to 35 5x7 pictures and a 20 page picture brag book from the party.

chelseyestelle · July 2014

We will just do it at the party.

MtnChickaD · July 2014

We probably won't even have a party. I will make him a little cake but we don't have any family or friends in the state so we wouldn't have anyone to invite over.

Typing that just gave me the sads big time.

Kdanson · July 2014

@MtnChickaD love tit for support!

We will just take her outfit off and give DD her own little cake to make a mess with, and take our own pictures. Deft no seperate photoshoot, and we're in Canada

haha

Gatorsgirl731 · July 2014

@MtnChickaD‌

I'm sorry, big hugs. That gives me the sads and envy for you at the same time. I have the opposite problem. Practically my and DH's whole family live within driving distance. For our wedding we kept friends to the minimum because we wanted to keep it small. We invited just over 200 had 150 people show up and 130 were immediate family members. DH is the oldest grandchild in his family and this is his first born (even though he claims DS), and I am the youngest grandchild and DD will be the last of the great grandchildren. Plus we are a family over run with boys on both sides so everyone goes a little crazy when there is a girl involved. I'm having anxiety over the invites. I know there will be hurt feelings if I don't invite everyone, but I also want to enjoy the party and that many people sounds like a lot of work. My brothers family alone is 10 people!

txmom13 · July 2014

Dd is 10 months today--haven't even thought of the birthday party yet. I would love to get family pics since we haven't had any, but not really in relation to a party.

MtnChickaD · July 2014

Gatorsgirl731 said:
@MtnChickaD‌

I'm sorry, big hugs. That gives me the sads and envy for you at the same time. I have the opposite problem. Practically my and DH's whole family live within driving distance. For our wedding we kept friends to the minimum because we wanted to keep it small. We invited just over 200 had 150 people show up and 130 were immediate family members. DH is the oldest grandchild in his family and this is his first born (even though he claims DS), and I am the youngest grandchild and DD will be the last of the great grandchildren. Plus we are a family over run with boys on both sides so everyone goes a little crazy when there is a girl involved. I'm having anxiety over the invites. I know there will be hurt feelings if I don't invite everyone, but I also want to enjoy the party and that many people sounds like a lot of work. My brothers family alone is 10 people!

Omg, I would have no idea what to do with that many people! Plus how much it would cost, oh vey.

emmylou78 · July 2014

My friend just did something like this. I had to work the day of her party, but my other friends said they were so confused why they weren't letting her have cake at her party. Turns out it was bc they were doing it later that night.

Kinda takes the fun out of everyone getting to see them eat it.

cassey910 · July 2014

We are doing a cake smash for his party. If we did do a cake smash with professional pics it would be after his bday party. I'm still up in the air about it. I don't like the thought of him having all that sugar twice.

psychdoc12 · July 2014

crunchymama11 said:

No. I don't even do a cake smash. DD1 got a mini cupcake with the smallest smear of icing at her party and DD2 will get the same. My UO is that I don't see why a 1yo needs her own cake to begin with.

As a one-time treat for fun?

deedee1017 · July 2014

@Gatorsgirl731‌ same issue Here. We never get to include friends at our events because of so many people on the need-to-invite list. Im not doing that for dad's birthday though. For dh's family, we will do lunch and a cake at the pumpkin farm. At the house, we are going to invite the kids from daycare and a few others and have a kids' party.

ETA: Sorry, I just saw autocorrect changed dd's to dad's. I am not having a party for my dad.

skyla13 · July 2014

I'm kind of with @crunchymama11‌. I never had heard of babies getting their own cake before coming to TB. I was just planning on giving her a small slice of the cake I make. I figure that will be just as fun to watch her eat.

carawasa · July 2014

Our photographer actually provides the cake for the cake smash so that's why we are doing it.

psychdoc12 · July 2014

skyla13 said:

I'm kind of with @crunchymama11‌. I never had heard of babies getting their own cake before coming to TB. I was just planning on giving her a small slice of the cake I make. I figure that will be just as fun to watch her eat.

I'm not throwing a big party and I'm not sure if I'll do a slice of cake or a small cake or a cupcake. But I think a mini cupcake (I'm picturing those ones about the diameter of a half dollar) with only a smudge of icing isn't quite enough. You only get one first birthday. I want LO to at least have enough icing to smear on her face.

Phalaenopsis · July 2014

I'm not doing a staged session but I think cake smashes are cute. There's no way this kid is eating more than a few bites. Anyway, it's just for fun!

acethebase · July 2014

I'm not doing it either. I also don't see the point in giving them a full cake when they're just going to eat a little piece of it :-??

megs1409 · July 2014

We'll do something at the actual party - his own cupcake or something, and I'll take pictures. But no formal "cake smash" pictures beforehand.

trackgirlparis · July 2014

Well it sounds like I'm not crazy in thinking those are weird/waste of money! We aren't giving DD a whole cake of her own, but a cupcake. I couldn't handle the mess of a whole cake!

jennlin · July 2014

Dd got a cupcake, and she didn't even like it. I smeared it on her face myself. I don't blame her though-it was allergy friendly and tasted like poo, and ds will get one with even fewer ingredients.

mancila60 · July 2014

We are doing a very small cake smash at his party. We are doing first birthday pictures but those will be more of family pictures and there won't be a cake to smash.

shelley1002 · July 2014

Nope. Didn't with DS1 either. He will get a cupcake to do with as he pleases at his party after we sing 'Happy Birthday' to him and everyone else is eating cake and ice cream.

DS1 didn't really smash his. He had it all over his hands and face like he did with most foods then.

hlb622 · July 2014

I had no idea that a separate, staged photo shoot was a "thing" on first birthdays. I mean, I get giving the babe his own piece or a cupcake to eat/squish, but I guess I'm old and unhip. :-?? I want his first cake to be his first cake.

Gatorsgirl731 · July 2014

@deedee1017‌ it's insane. If I only invited grandparents, and our siblings with their kids it would be 28 people including us.

deedee1017 · July 2014

Gatorsgirl731 said:

@deedee1017‌ it's insane. If I only invited grandparents, and our siblings with their kids it would be 28 people including us.

Holy moly! Nuts!

Kdanson · July 2014

Gatorsgirl731 said:
@deedee1017‌ it's insane. If I only invited grandparents, and our siblings with their kids it would be 28 people including us.

This gives me anxiety.

Amjoy25 · July 2014

People do this beforehand? No. At the party. Like a normal person.

norbert5 · July 2014

We just do cake at the party.

We actually may not have the big party for E. We may just invite grandparents and aunts and uncles. The thought of planning a huge party makes me a little ill right now.

Gatorsgirl731 · July 2014

deedee1017 said:

Gatorsgirl731 said:

@deedee1017‌ it's insane. If I only invited grandparents, and our siblings with their kids it would be 28 people including us.

Holy moly! Nuts!

I left out 4 people. DH has a dipshit brother who doesn't come around. If he did add his family of 4 to make 32. I never thought we had a big family till I had to start counting people. I only have 1brother and 1stepbrother. DH has 1sister and 1brother. But everyone has two or more kids. My brother has 8!

TREDgirl · July 2014

We are doing 1 year professional pics but no cake smash until the party. And it may be a cupcake not sure yet.

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