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groovygrl
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not sure how to address this situation w/ a meeting...
groovygrl
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So I met someone at an external meeting who told me she wanted to go into the field I work in (she is about a year out of a bachelor's degree, I am probably about 15 yrs older than her). We chatted for a bit about programs she could do, and how I had gotten into it, etc before the meeting & I told her if she ever wanted to have lunch & talk about different options, I'd be happy to talk to her. She said she would definitely like that. I spoke with her on the phone the other day about a follow up thing & told her to let me know if she'd still like to have lunch regardless of what happens w/t he work stuff. She said she would actually like to do that soon b/c she is considering some different options So I asked what day might work & then where we should meet...we work not far from each other but not walking distance, and both work in places where there is no free parking available. My thought was we would both drive somewhere that had parking for lunch, as I was not going to ask her to come to me b/c of the parking situation. Instead she suggests a number of places right by her office. I was kind of surprised- basically she wanted me to come to her, find street or garage parking, pay to park, etc while she walks to meet me so that she wouldn't have to leave & get her car & drive elsewhere. I didn't really know what to say, as I can suck up a couple bucks for a parking meter but it just seemed really odd to me. I told her I would try and think of somewhere close by where we could both park for free and she said ok... but seemed almost like annoyed that she might have to drive somewhere.
Am I being weird here, and if not, any tips on how to approach this? It reminds me a bit of the time I had someone ask me to write reference letters for graduate school and then she applied to 12 schools and wanted me to write the letter, print it, get my own envelopes and address, stamp & mail them...but I was close enough to that person that I explained that when you ask someone to do something like that for so many places, you typically provide those things (of course this predates online applications
)... I was more worried she was asking a number of ppl to do the same thing & wanted to give her the heads up about it. This person I don't know very well & don't want to be too rigid but also kind of want her to realize that you shouldn't really ask someone to help you w/ career and education advice and then expect them to come to you to do it....
Thoughts?
Am I being weird here, and if not, any tips on how to approach this? It reminds me a bit of the time I had someone ask me to write reference letters for graduate school and then she applied to 12 schools and wanted me to write the letter, print it, get my own envelopes and address, stamp & mail them...but I was close enough to that person that I explained that when you ask someone to do something like that for so many places, you typically provide those things (of course this predates online applications
)... I was more worried she was asking a number of ppl to do the same thing & wanted to give her the heads up about it. This person I don't know very well & don't want to be too rigid but also kind of want her to realize that you shouldn't really ask someone to help you w/ career and education advice and then expect them to come to you to do it.... Thoughts?
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