I concur. FFTC my FIL is a motorcycle fan and I think they are death traps. They bought O a Harley powerwheels and Harley leather jacket for Xmas when he was 18 months old. I was pissed because my neighbor across the st died just a couple weeks before in a motorcycle accident and I make it well known how I will never let O on one as long as he's under my roof. I finally let him have powerwheels reluctantly this year but that jacket is still sitting in the closet with the tags on.
True. I can't believe it's not required in SC. Nevermind, sure I can. SC is super behind on everything.
It must not be required in the North East because my dumbass mom travels on bike with her dumbass boyfriend and they both go without helmet and no armor guard. They travel from CT to Vermont/New Hampshire and have gone as far as Maine. I feel kind of bad about the dumbass comment but I've voiced my concern and she doesn't give a fuck and I really think it's careless.
My FI wants a motorcycle and does not want to wear gear for it. At this point it's just a pipe dream but dude, wtf, you're going up against [comparatively] giant metal boxes and you're easily unnoticed. WHY WOULD YOU NOT WANT TO PROTECT YOURSELF?
Okay, I think I have a UO after all of this. I think it's selfish when you have a family to put certain preferences/wants/needs above the bigger picture. I'll roll with the helmet example, it's like putting yourself in a potentially devastating situation is fucked up when you are part of a UNIT. You do not stand alone anymore.
My FI wants a motorcycle and does not want to wear gear for it. At this point it's just a pipe dream but dude, wtf, you're going up against [comparatively] giant metal boxes and you're easily unnoticed. WHY WOULD YOU NOT WANT TO PROTECT YOURSELF?
Okay, I think I have a UO after all of this. I think it's selfish when you have a family to put certain preferences/wants/needs above the bigger picture. I'll roll with the helmet example, it's like putting yourself in a potentially devastating situation is fucked up when you are part of a UNIT. You do not stand alone anymore.
This. I also don't like motorcycles and DH wanted to get one when all of his friends in MD were doing it. We were engaged at the time and there was just no way for me. Bc we were essentially a family at that point, he never got one.
Like a week later, one of his friends wiped out and ended up in the hospital.
Disclaimer: I understand that motorcycles are not inherently dangerous if you are a responsible driver.
True. I can't believe it's not required in SC. Nevermind, sure I can. SC is super behind on everything.
It might not be because SC is behind, necessarily. Michigan just got rid of its helmet law. My dad is stoked, and we guilt him about it every time we see him riding without one on.
I think this is definitely going to be unpopular . I think motorcycles are just fine, and people who say no way no how are taking the good out with the bad. Why the all or nothing mentality? There are plenty of very responsible riders out there that use helmets and gear. Plus offroading on a bike is so.much.fun.
My FI wants a motorcycle and does not want to wear gear for it. At this point it's just a pipe dream but dude, wtf, you're going up against [comparatively] giant metal boxes and you're easily unnoticed. WHY WOULD YOU NOT WANT TO PROTECT YOURSELF?
Okay, I think I have a UO after all of this. I think it's selfish when you have a family to put certain preferences/wants/needs above the bigger picture. I'll roll with the helmet example, it's like putting yourself in a potentially devastating situation is fucked up when you are part of a UNIT. You do not stand alone anymore.
DH just put his motorcycle up for sale because, "I'm a dad now."
Not to say that dads can't have motorcycles. He put it that way because he has, in his opinion, better things to do and spend money on.
My FIL and MIL are both motorcycle maniacs and have taken my little nephews (ages 7 & 8) on rides around the neighborhood. The boys wore helmets, and I know it was just around the neighborhood, but I don't think children should be allowed to ride motorcycles at all. I think there should be an age minimum of like 16 to be able to even ride one.
I completely disagree with this. The younger you teach a boy to respect a piece of machinery, the better. The crazies out there think they are invincible. Teach a kid to respect that it is something that can hurt you if you are not careful, let them learn on dirt, let it be second nature. That is muuuch better than a wise ass 16 year old on a bike for the first time who thinks he knows everything.
I hate motorcycles. My mom's ex boyfriend took me on what was supposed to be a cruise. It turned out to be hell. He went 134 miles an hour. My helmet was trying to fly off and I broke 4 nails, from gripping on to his jacket so hard.
I have never been on one since.
That's really terrifying and irresponsible of him to do that. He is a true jerk.
I think it is just as tacky to attack a woman for throwing her own shower as it is for the woman throwing it. Especially if you were lucky to have someone spend the time to throw you a shower to then sit back and judge the fuck out of another less fortunate woman who just wants to experience the same thing you did.
MIL got in a motorcycle wreck the week I met H. It broke both her knees (she never got those fixed), she was in icu and unresponsive for weeks, went through rehab for everything, and then found out she had lung cancer when she did her labs for her double knee surgery. She ended up passing away 3 years later. H and I were her sole caretakers and ended up having her live with us for 2 months after we got married until she passed away. H still wants a motorcycle and I refuse to let him even dream of it because I refuse to go through that again. MIL had severe brain trauma (was wearing all protective gear) and dealing with her most days was like trying to explain everything to DS. It was total HELL but I loved that woman and I never knew her any other way.
I hate motorcycles so I totally agree with this UO.
I've ridden motorcycles and would be open to getting one for pleasure but I do not like to see, what I feel, is the MAJORITY of riders not protected. I think they are dumb. Not motorcycles, not responsible drivers. Safety is really important to me, in general.
I've ridden motorcycles and would be open to getting one for pleasure but I do not like to see, what I feel, is the MAJORITY of riders not protected. I think they are dumb. Not motorcycles, not responsible drivers. Safety is really important to me, in general.
I agree with this. I love motorcycles and I think they can be a great deal of fun, if you are careful about the safety precautions. And I have no issues with children riding on them. Apparently that's a UO, as seen above.
True. I can't believe it's not required in SC. Nevermind, sure I can. SC is super behind on everything.
It might not be because SC is behind, necessarily. Michigan just got rid of its helmet law. My dad is stoked, and we guilt him about it every time we see him riding without one on.
Wait, what? Michigan has actually travelled BACK in time?!? We should alert the authorities...
@skyla13 , I agree that it is possible to drive a motorcycle responsibly, and I have seen it done. Unfortunately, though, most people I see riding motorcycles are not doing that. When all of DHs 20-something-something-year-old male friends were buying motorcycles, it was not because they wanted to drive the speed limit on the main roads. They wanted the adrenaline rush that 20-something-year-old males live for.
I love more Instagram and FB friends... But I don't love finding out people's real names. I've created identities for you all in my head and some of you are bursting my bubble.
This! I feel like PinkDahlia is pretty and exotic, and my real name is disappointing *whomp whomp*
I get really irritated by bumper stickers about looking out for motorcycles. First of all, I look out for everyone. Car, truck, motorcycle, bike... I don't want to hit you, no matter what you are driving. Second, most (not all, but most) motorcyclists that I come across are zipping in and out of lanes, around cars, at extremely high rates of speed, which makes them very hard to look out for. It goes both ways. You be responsible and so will I.
I hate talking on the phone to customer service people at work. I MUCH prefer email. Have to explain why something got damaged in shipping and that we need a new part over the phone is excruciating. Maybe not an UO...but I feel like a lot of people prefer the phone.
True. I can't believe it's not required in SC. Nevermind, sure I can. SC is super behind on everything.
It might not be because SC is behind, necessarily. Michigan just got rid of its helmet law. My dad is stoked, and we guilt him about it every time we see him riding without one on.
Wait, what? Michigan has actually travelled BACK in time?!? We should alert the authorities...
@skyla13 , I agree that it is possible to drive a motorcycle responsibly, and I have seen it done. Unfortunately, though, most people I see riding motorcycles are not doing that. When all of DHs 20-something-something-year-old male friends were buying motorcycles, it was not because they wanted to drive the speed limit on the main roads. They wanted the adrenaline rush that 20-something-year-old males live for.
I think motorcycles are scary and dangerous, but I think there are really two groups of riders. First are the ones that ride the Harley/chopper types. The ones in this group seem to wear helmets more often (in my experience) and aren't doing stupid things on the road, like blowing by you at 90 mph on a street that is 50 mph, or weaving in and out of traffic. The people that do that are usually the ones on crotch rockets. If I see someone on a crotch rocket, I stay far away from them. I just don't trust them because 90% of the ones I've come across do incredibly stupid things that risk both their lives and mine.
I think it is just as tacky to attack a woman for throwing her own shower as it is for the woman throwing it. Especially if you were lucky to have someone spend the time to throw you a shower to then sit back and judge the fuck out of another less fortunate woman who just wants to experience the same thing you did.
I think it is just as tacky to attack a woman for throwing her own shower as it is for the woman throwing it. Especially if you were lucky to have someone spend the time to throw you a shower to then sit back and judge the fuck out of another less fortunate woman who just wants to experience the same thing you did.
#stillbitteratneverhavingababyshower
I will throw you a baby shower!!!
Maybe we can just photoshop my face into some generic shower pics so I can fill in that section of the baby book.
I think it is just as tacky to attack a woman for throwing her own shower as it is for the woman throwing it. Especially if you were lucky to have someone spend the time to throw you a shower to then sit back and judge the fuck out of another less fortunate woman who just wants to experience the same thing you did.
#stillbitteratneverhavingababyshower
I don't think it's tacky to throw one for yourself, I don't think it's tacky to host any party you choose. It's comical that "planning your own shower" is tacky but "planning your own wedding" isn't. Both imply guests should bring gifts and celebrate you. Both involve registries and wanting to share a big moment in your life with those you care about. I honestly can't see the difference.
If proper motorcycle safety gear is worn is that really going to help if someone slams into a car? Even with gear it is dangerous. You can't trust other people driving even if you are responsible and alert.
If proper motorcycle safety gear is worn is that really going to help if someone slams into a car? Even with gear it is dangerous. You can't trust other people driving even if you are responsible and alert.
I was just about to post the same thing. It's like, even if you are a responsible driver, many MANY people are not. I just feel like being inside a car is safer then being perched atop a motorcycle if I get hit.
If proper motorcycle safety gear is worn is that really going to help if someone slams into a car? Even with gear it is dangerous. You can't trust other people driving even if you are responsible and alert.
I was just about to post the same thing. It's like, even if you are a responsible driver, many MANY people are not. I just feel like being inside a car is safer then being perched atop a motorcycle if I get hit.
I could be wrong. I have never looked up stats.
But I don't think I'm wrong.
You're right, it doesn't eliminate the risk of accidents. Being alert can help you avoid accidents, wearing the gear can help save your life if you are in an accident. But nothing can guarantee that you will be safe. You just have to weigh to risks and decide if it's right for you.
Edit: Everything you do involves this risk/benefit analysis. Riding in cars, walking down the sidewalk, having a baby, riding a bicycle, etc., etc. Nothing is 100% safe unless you live in a bubble, and even then I believe you probably risk some sort of psychological damage lol
I don't like when people ride bikes on busy streets either. I'm scared for them. My DH used to do it all the time. I used to tell him he had to brig his license in case he got hit by a car and they needed to identify him. #morbid
If proper motorcycle safety gear is worn is that really going to help if someone slams into a car? Even with gear it is dangerous. You can't trust other people driving even if you are responsible and alert.
There is calculated risk with so many things so if someone is going to partake in riskier behavior or activities then at least they can counteract some of the risk by wearing proper gear, which I do believe is not only a necessity but it is worth it. GOOD motorcycle gear does greatly reduce your risk. It is made to do that.
I don't like when people ride bikes on busy streets either. I'm scared for them. My DH used to do it all the time. I used to tell him he had to brig his license in case he got hit by a car and they needed to identify him. #morbid
Cutting down the quote tree -
My DH rides his bike on the roads here. I'm all for cyclists having access to our roads, but there is a right and wrong time to ride. He rides on weekend mornings, at around 7:00. Totally safe time to be riding. Riding those same roads at 5:00 PM on a weekday? Nope, not safe.
I made him get a Road ID in case he did get hit. And we have life insurance and wills. Totally morbid as well but I'd rather be prepared.
Funny, I just watched a clip this morning of a bicyclist getting hit by a turning car. In his British accent he yelled "Fuck Off!" and ended up on the hood and slid right on his feet. BRILLIANT!!!
but really, though, bicyclists have it bad because people get annoyed by them but they have a right to be on the road and unfortunately (at least around here) there are not designated bike lanes. I think bike lanes should become a thing in the US.
I am also not a fan of motorcycles. I was behind two assholes the other day that decided they were going to do stunts on the thruway. People were slamming on their brakes and it was really dangerous. I know that's not the norm, but I was so angry.
This may be wildly unpopular, but I'm not sure. And maybe it's more of a FFTC. I could never be a SAHM because I'm too worried about what would happen to us if something did happen to DH. Like if he was killed, was in a serious accident, or got cancer/some other illness.
In my mind, me having a job is some sort of added stability that we (I) have. Some money would still be coming in, I wouldn't have to scramble to find a job or get LO into daycare, and we would have health insurance still.
Although I don't think DH and I would ever get divorced, I've thought about how I need to make sure I have an income in case LO and I need to get our own place and I need to support us. Obviously DH would help out, but I would still need a job and my own health insurance.
I am in no way taking a dig at SAHMs, or saying working moms are better off. My family has had some very unfortunate things happen to them and it has really opened my eyes to how quickly things can go south if you aren't prepared for them.
Re: UO
hmmm...I prefer iced coffee
*newborn through two-and-a-half to date.
I mean the 5k is fine but the 10k is too much.
Truth. Hopefully this is not a UO but in some circles it definitely is.
Like a week later, one of his friends wiped out and ended up in the hospital.
Disclaimer: I understand that motorcycles are not inherently dangerous if you are a responsible driver.
Edit : or girl!!! Didn't mean to sound sexist.
#stillbitteratneverhavingababyshower
I hate motorcycles so I totally agree with this UO.
It might not be because SC is behind, necessarily. Michigan just got rid of its helmet law. My dad is stoked, and we guilt him about it every time we see him riding without one on.
Wait, what? Michigan has actually travelled BACK in time?!? We should alert the authorities...
@skyla13 , I agree that it is possible to drive a motorcycle responsibly, and I have seen it done. Unfortunately, though, most people I see riding motorcycles are not doing that. When all of DHs 20-something-something-year-old male friends were buying motorcycles, it was not because they wanted to drive the speed limit on the main roads. They wanted the adrenaline rush that 20-something-year-old males live for.
LO then (2 days) and now (1 year)
I was just going to say this! I'll help!!
Maybe we can just photoshop my face into some generic shower pics so I can fill in that section of the baby book.
I don't think it's tacky to throw one for yourself, I don't think it's tacky to host any party you choose. It's comical that "planning your own shower" is tacky but "planning your own wedding" isn't. Both imply guests should bring gifts and celebrate you. Both involve registries and wanting to share a big moment in your life with those you care about. I honestly can't see the difference.
Eta: improper wording neither require gifts
I could be wrong. I have never looked up stats.
But I don't think I'm wrong.
I don't like when people ride bikes on busy streets either. I'm scared for them. My DH used to do it all the time. I used to tell him he had to brig his license in case he got hit by a car and they needed to identify him. #morbid
LO then (2 days) and now (1 year)
BFP: 1.19.2013 - EDD: 10.2.2013 - It's a girl! 9.25.13: Welcome Addison!
LO then (2 days) and now (1 year)