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khayamum · July 2014

khayamum · July 2014

khayamum · July 2014

I've read the blog and everything

my partner and I have sex no less than every second day (not just to have a baby, because we want to) so I'm not worried about get the correct time in my cycle. I just wanted to hear other peoples stories because I'm feeling so much impatience for my own. Not really looking for advice but more inspiration haha
Thank you

LG2793 · July 2014

Sorry for your loss...

I don't have much inspiration to give, but I can tell you that I've never been pregnant and have been trying for 15 months now. Like the other ladies said, you've gotta chill. It might be a long road for you, maybe not. Impatience and stress will only make the waiting worse...trust me.

PrimRoseMama · July 2014

1) DD was a surprise & DS took 3 months of TTC

2) I'm not sure what my conception history can really do to "inspire" you?

3) I'm sorry for the loss of your baby.

katie0919 · July 2014

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, someone else's conception history has nothing to do with your own. Also, a single persons history can change. It took me two months of not trying, not preventing with my son, and with trying for a second baby I'm still not pregnant after 8 months of doing every single possible thing I can think of to get pregnant. (Charting, opk's, acupuncture, healthy diet & exercise, eod sex, ed sex, you name it, I've done it all). None of us can predict how long it will take you to get pregnant.

OnceInLoveWithAmy · July 2014

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I think the thing to remember is this message board is full of people still trying to conceive. Sure, there are some trying for a sibling, but for the most part I don't know how much inspiration you will get here

You will, however, get a lot of support from people who are in your similar situation if you stick around and participate.

...and this is a message board, not a blog. I mean that with no snark intended, but is a big pet peeve of mine.

CocoMcGee · July 2014

Sorry for your loss.

I got pregnant on my 7th cycle with my daughter. And as others have said, it can take up to a year, so just hold tight. Good luck!

dmsmth · July 2014

Took me 7 months and a m/c for my first dd. we were not preventing/ttc for the 2nd dd

Sorry for your loss. You may benefit from visiting ttc after a loss board. Your worries are normal and other woman who have gone through the same thing will better be able to understand your fears.

brettanomyces · July 2014

Have you noticed the daily "waiting to ovulate" and "two-week-wait" threads? They are a great way to get to know the other ladies here and part of the format to the posts is the number of cycles/months you've been TTC for. Have a look!

Sorry for your loss.

littlewest1 · July 2014

I am sorry for your loss. I imagine it must be very difficult for you.

Everyone is different but since you asked.... I got pregnant on month 2 and had an early MC, then got pregnant right afterwards with my daughter. This time I got pregnant on month 1 and had a CP. I am currently wating to O on month 2. Not sure how that helps you.

LisaG09 · July 2014

I'm incredibly interested in other people's stories also. I know that it doesn't have anything to do with my situation but I love reading them. My advice to you would be to type 'TTC Blog' into google. All sorts of stories will come up. You can even be more specific, 'TTC after 35 Blog' or 'TTC after loss blog'. Whatever you are interested in. I do it, like all the time.

I also lurk the pregnancy boards in search of intros. People usually give their entire history in their intro posts. Again, check out 'Pregnant after a Loss' or whatever you are interested in. I wouldn't recommend posting there really but I read their stories all the time.

You can also type those searches into youtube and watch TTC vlogs. Many of them start way before baby and end way after baby. Like I said I do this all the time, you'll find all kinds of stories without having to ask for them!

My story is short and not very inspiring. I started TTC in February 2014 and got my first BFP in February 2014. We lost the baby and had a D&C in April. Started trying again at the end of May and three cycles later, still waiting for another positive. Good luck and I'm so so sorry for your loss.

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khayamum · July 2014

SpartanChick88 · July 2014

I agree with the PPs on the fact that our stories won't affect yours at all. If you are looking for inspiration, you may want to visit the 2nd or 3rd tri boards as many of the ladies here have never been pregnant or may not have children at this time. You also need to be very careful about how you word things - while you may not see it, someone else may find some things offensive or cause them sadness. That's not ok and we will stand up for each other against unnecessary sadz.

Having said that, I will tell you that it took us 6 months to get pregnant the first time - that ended in an early loss. Another 6 months before we conceived DD. As mentioned already - it can take a healthy couple, under 35, up to a year to get pregnant. 3 months is not that long even though it feels like it... trust me, we are 3 months in TFAS and it feels like an eternity. Then again, I'm over 35 so it's a different ballgame for me.

Welcome to the boards. I would suggest you lurk for a bit, get to know the lay of the land and then participate. Remember that you need to give support to receive it.

OnceInLoveWithAmy · July 2014

khayamum said:

Like I said I'm new to this, I never do this sort of thing but I thought reaching out to the community for help would be therapeutic, but I'm feeling more judged than anything.

I don't think anyone is judging you, more just trying to let you know the vibe of this board. In your intro, you specifically asked for success stories, and there are a lot who haven't had success yet.

I've been trying for my second child for 12 months now with two miscarriages, and I find this board very therapeutic, especially when I am having a rough day . It's a great board full of giving and getting support. Stick around!

mamablue85 · July 2014

The first time I got pregnant, I had just gotton off birth control and had unprotected sex twice in my cycle. Just. Like. That. I couldn't believe it. So naturally, this time round, I thought I would get pregnant as easily. Nope! This is our third month too and no positives! I'm not worried though and neither should you be! I'm confident it will happen. But I admit the waiting sucks.

khayamum · July 2014

In my last comment I was clarifying about inspiration not having to come from only success stories because you were all pointing out my need for inspiration and how I apparently won't get it here. Even though every single word I have said has been individually broken down and interpreted in ways I didn't mean, I have found inspiration. Nothing I say from here on will please all of you. I'm sorry some people have taken offense, none was intended.

Apresmoi, I really appreciated your links to other boards, thank you.

Not all women that are trying to conceive are infertile or struggling, there would be women here who are trying for second, third and even fourth time around, and are on here maybe because it's taking longer this time. I am sorry for all of you and your struggles I wish all women could become mothers easily. But just because I have only been TTC for 3 months this time around, does not mean I haven't waited a very long time for children. I appreciate you all sticking up for each other. That's great, but please try not to read so deeply into things that are said. You didn't have to comment here if my post didn't apply to you.

I too find it offensive when people say to me 'oh it's just 3 months, you need to chill out'. I'm chilled. I'm just reaching out because every month that goes by is hard for every woman. No matter. Technically, my journey to motherhood started 6 years ago, only I've been trying again for 3 months.
Again, sorry, and I wish you all the happiness in the world. I'll say no more before I upset more people.

Good luck!!

URMySunshine77 · July 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that this experience TTC is different.

The PPs gave you some sage advice. I look forward to seeing you around the board. Recently I've started to use the WTO and 2WW threads to vent and become acquainted with others since this experience can be isolating.

pibsquared · July 2014

It really ranges. One of my friends it took 6 months (age 29, her first), another one was 3 months(age 33, her 2nd), and one of my relatives it took 9 months (age 35 her first but had a miscarriage at 10wks previously). They all delivered babies this spring. Good luck and I know it is hard to be patient but just keep doing what you are doing! Think about all the fun with sex you are having (because once that baby comes... nights will be long and tiring... :-D )!

khayamum · July 2014

Thanks very much pibsquared and URMySunshine77. Your comments made me feel more like my post wasn't a waste of time

Bless you

khayamum · July 2014

GhostMonkey your response is totally uncalled for. I haven't overreacted about anything at all. I have a right just as you do to talk to other people out there about my own situation and ask them about theirs. If this post doesn't apply to you, you don't need to comment. Some women here have given me the information I have needed and I have thanked them for it. I haven't once claimed my struggle is the end of the world, in fact I have stated many times that I'm aware that it isn't a long time in the world of conception. So I think you're the one that needs to pull yourself in line and stop abusing people.

khayamum · July 2014

GhostMonkey, I never once said that anyone wasn't a strong person. I can only refer to one group of people at a time. I'm not using people 'struggles' as inspiration. God. People on here seem to be so good at twisting words. You can think what you want. I hope it makes you feel content.

wickedsugar I'm sure when you started trying to have children every month that went by disheartened you as well, that doesn't mean I'm depressed or overreacting about it. I'm just speaking what's on my mind. It's an expression of words. The same as saying it feels like your birthday is ages away when it's next month. Geez. Again, if this thread doesn't apply to you, don't comment. Enough is enough. People need to learn to be kind to one another

khayamum · July 2014

That comment is directed at people who have a story to share. It isn't going to apply to all 6-7 billion people on the planet. Just stop.
You don't know what I've been through. You don't know my story and you don't know me. If you did you'd know that I'm not a bad person. So really, just stop.

khayamum · July 2014

No quote for that one? Makes sense, since I never said that. You need help. I hope you find what you're looking for. Goodnight. All the best for your future.

khayamum · July 2014

Strength comes from millions of different things and people, was I supposed to list every possible one to be politically correct? What is happening to all of you, that's awful, and my heart breaks for you. But I have never said that you aren't strong for what you have been through. Only that one specific set of people are strong. That doesn't exclude every other person from being strong.
I think you all need to take your negativity somewhere else. This was my post that you can choose to ignore if it's not relative to you.

You're all referencing 'pain Olympics' to a person that is doing nothing but defend themselves.

DarcyHermoine, we absolutely all struggle at some point or another. That doesn't mean we never talk about it.

khayamum · July 2014

No answers to like, only abuse.

I'll say it once more, as I don't speak with malice towards any of you; but I honestly wish you all the best in your path to conception or happiness or both. I hope the petty Internet bullying stops. For the sake of all the other new women that come here. You should try to find more time for peace than putting people that you don't know down.

Goodnight from where I am, cramcakes, since it's night time.

Best wishes to you all ✌️

khayamum · July 2014

GhostMonkey, for the record, I actually did apologise for the misunderstanding. Everything else that you just said was rubbish and not worth a reply.

khayamum · July 2014

khayamum · July 2014

False quotation.

gscoville · July 2014

OP, the reason others pointed out to you that this is not a blog but rather a forum is because that is a very important distinction. You're looking for inspiring stories, so looking at actual blogs might be more up your alley. Blogs are like journals, where people write regularly about their day, their experiences, their lives, without really expecting any back and forth other than maybe a comment on individual posts. This is not a 'journal' site, it's a forum, meaning it's a community and there is actual interaction, time spent getting to know the others here, and support being given almost more than it is taken. This is a 'give support to get support' kind of place. You don't seem to be at all interested in participating in a forum in the way in which it's intended, you just want to take inspiration from others' stories without contributing back. Clearly this board is not for you. In all seriousness, go find yourself a blog, you don't have to interact with actual humans there and can just read to your heart's content without having to be accountable for your offensive words or actions.

ETA clarity

eevieemariee · July 2014

GDI!!! Mobile WILL NOT let me view the first page! All I can read is p 3.

OP, do you know how HARD it is to click on a "." On mobile!?! Have some respect for your fxck up and let the world see your true colours.

OnceInLoveWithAmy · July 2014

khayamum said:

. God. People on here seem to be so good at twisting words.

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WE are twisting words? Let me run this down for you again:

You: Hey! TTC for 3 months. Tell me your success stories!
Us: NBD, but this is a trying to get pregnant board. You might not get a lot of success stories here.
You: OMG you guys, stop judging me! I just want some inspiration! Any story will do!
Us: ... wut?

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