Delivery room

dianeg1017 · July 2014

So ladies who will you be having in the delivery room? I think my MIL wants to be in the room but still up in the air how I feel about this.

lionyloo32 · July 2014

Just the hubs.

hellopartyof5 · July 2014

lionyloo32 said:
Just the hubs.

Same. And we want time after to be alone with the baby.

JaymeeLH · July 2014

My mom will be in as she pleases for labor but it will be just H and I when it comes time to push, I want that to be a special time and memory for just us. MIL will not be allowed anywhere near L&D until after LO is born, I do not need the stress of her being around

dianeg1017 · July 2014

Are you ladies STM. It was just me and my hubby with our DD

CandEChicago · July 2014

DH and maybe a friend of mine (who is an OB). Not sure if I can handle my mom or MIL.

BdblZ · July 2014

Just DH. I may invite my mom in during the labor (pre-pushing time) if i'm feeling up for visitors or to give DH a break, but that's it. No way do I want my MIL there.

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nopegoat · July 2014

With my first I had my H and my sister. I loved having that extra person in there to take pictures.

With my second I had my H and my son. The person that was supposed to watch our first didn't make it in time.

This go around I'm hoping it's just me and H.

mrsrroberson · July 2014

Third C-section so just my hubs as well! Would love it if they would allow my photog. I'm going to try to keep it as family-centered as possible, they call it a natural c-Section, so I would love someone to capture the moment.

Mrw218 · July 2014

Just husband. Probs won't even tell ppl baby was born until I'm ready for visitors.

Manateearmz · July 2014

MIL, DH, BFF possibly SIL.

ETA: MIL was there durning the first birth and she was awesome the whole time. I was with BFF during her delivery and she wants to repay the favor.

allonsyalonso · July 2014

It was just DH last time and it will just be DH again this time. MIL wanted to be there, but um... there's no need for her to see my all my bits and pieces as I push out a baby. Just... no.

MaineMama · July 2014

mrsrroberson said:

Third C-section so just my hubs as well! Would love it if they would allow my photog. I'm going to try to keep it as family-centered as possible, they call it a natural c-Section, so I would love someone to capture the moment.

I've had all csections as well, and my hospital has no problems with non-flash photography. No photographer, only one support person allowed other than medical staff, but my H did a great job with taking pics! He was able to hold the camera over the blue sheet and take pics of the incision through till the end Once the baby is brought over we have a nurse or the anesthesiologist take a family pic.

It may help that I work at the super small hospital where I deliver, but the staff (unless there is a medical problem with you or baby) are really accommodating.

Eora3 · July 2014

MaineMama said:

mrsrroberson said:

Third C-section so just my hubs as well! Would love it if they would allow my photog. I'm going to try to keep it as family-centered as possible, they call it a natural c-Section, so I would love someone to capture the moment.

I've had all csections as well, and my hospital has no problems with non-flash photography. No photographer, only one support person allowed other than medical staff, but my H did a great job with taking pics! He was able to hold the camera over the blue sheet and take pics of the incision through till the end Once the baby is brought over we have a nurse or the anesthesiologist take a family pic.

It may help that I work at the super small hospital where I deliver, but the staff (unless there is a medical problem with you or baby) are really accommodating.

This will be my third cs as well. My DH took lots of pics on his phone during my previous two. No one said a thing and we got some amazing pics of the boys' first moments. Maybe bring it up to your OB and see if she/he would have a problem with it. The OB is pretty much in charge of what happens in the operating room no matter what hospital policy says.

AllTheTeaInChina · July 2014

Last time it was my mom and DH while I labored. For the actual delivery, my mom left and it was just DH, a nurse and the dr. This time I'm not sure if my mom will be watching DD. It might just be DH.

LadyRoarsome · July 2014

H and possibly my mom. She was there last time for everything. She's actually upset she won't be at the a/s.

lucymcgillicudy1010 · July 2014

Just my husband. I really on the fence about my mom being there. On the one hand it'd be nice to have her there for support, but I also love the idea of the birth being just something my husband and I experience together. Definitely no in laws though

marriedinaugust · July 2014

STM here, just DH last time and will be the same this time. We aren't sure who will watch DS if I go early so he may end up there too but I don't want him to stall my labor.

LeviJeans · July 2014

FTM here. I plan on only having my husband in the room. It does help that we just moved 2 states away from family, so their drive alone would take 15+ hours

We'll let them know when I'm a bit into labor, but not too soon so they don't show up before I"m ready for them

Sarah1253 · July 2014

My Husband is extremely nervous for the whole thing so I will probably have my Mom there as well because I need someone who can stay calm and help keep him calm.

caden1206 · July 2014

Other than the medical professionals I will have my SO and our birth photographer! I just committed to the photographer and am so excited.

ZAP12 · July 2014

I want just my husband. Last time my parents were keeping me company while hubby ran around and got our bags from the house. Everything progressed so quickly that my husband and parents were all there. At that point I didn't care at all who was there and it was nice that my dad could take pictures and hubby could be with the baby while they suctioned out her lungs and my mom made sure I was ok. This time we'll try for just the two of us, but in the end, I don't think I'll care so much.

MrsNash37212 · July 2014

Only DH this time. My mother was a nurse, so I told her she could be in the room as long as she did not say one word about my wanting to go natural. She kept quiet the entire time until I was pushing and she grabbed a leg and started counting. I don't know what it was, but it irritated the SH*T out of me and I screamed at her to "shut the f*ck up!!!!!" So, just DH this time.

And MIL will be 800 miles away, which isn't far enough.

Heorwig · July 2014

Definitely just DH. I'm also hoping to have some time with just us and the baby before we have visitors.

BrideLinds · July 2014

DH. I will be having a c section but last time as well I didn't allow people in there once I was really feeling the contractions.

agsgrrl · July 2014

Just fiancé.

weezy29 · July 2014

I would love to have the kind of relationship to allow my parents in the room(though my dad is no longer alive) but since I don't it will just be DH and I during the delivery. As for the actual labor, in laws and my mom can pop in until I get really far along.

BrideLinds · July 2014

kc295905 said:
Would like it to just be me and my husband, but pretty sure he will be passed out (can't handle anything medical, almost passed out during my last ultrasound!). So my mom will be there for support if he does

I thought my DH was going to pass out on me as well because he got a little hot and lightheaded during one of my exams. But he turned out to be a great coach! I recommend taking him to a birthing class.

frenchy816 · July 2014

Just me and hubs and the midwife/nurses. All parents are banned, especially my mom who is a LC at the hospital (on the floor) I'm delivering at, and my MIL who is CRAZY!

Eora3 · July 2014

I guess I didn't actually respond to OP. Sorry!!

I will only have DH at the hospital. My delivery for my older son (I was induced and ended up having a c-section), I had my DH and a doula. For me, the most important thing was to focus on my body and my baby. DH and the doula were there to support me and I didn't want to be distracted by other people. I didn't like the idea of people sitting around in the waiting area "waiting" on me to push out the baby. I knew it would bug me to have people "checking on my progress" and peeking through the door.

Post CS, my DH and I take some bonding time with the new baby. I also need time to get settled in the postpartum room and get my legs working again. I like to try to breastfeed and meet my nurses and discuss my care plan. THEN, I call family and friends and schedule visits.

If that means everyone comes by the next day, I am totally fine with that. I hate being rushed and you never get those first bonding moments back. I guess I am selfish and want to hold my own new baby for a while before he gets passed around.

BayCamp · July 2014

DH, my sister, my BFF, and any parent that happens to make it down in time (my parents live 20 hours away, his live 10) so I've told them they're allowed because it is VERY unlikely they'll make it. We're doing a birth center though so they're super welcoming of lots of family.

Cheekers2010 · July 2014

H and my doula. That's it. Well, and nurse and OB.

Jessie333 · July 2014

Last time it was my DH and my mom. I asked dh if he would like it to be just the two of us this time and he said he was fine if my mom was there again. It meant so much to her to be there when dd was born.

sbevann26 · July 2014

My husband and my mother. Two most important people in my life, I need them both beside me !

JunkieBrewster · July 2014

Just my husband. No one is even allowed to visit until we've had time to clean up, nurse and nap.

mightymango · July 2014

JaymeeLH said:

My mom will be in as she pleases for labor but it will be just H and I when it comes time to push, I want that to be a special time and memory for just us. MIL will not be allowed anywhere near L&D until after LO is born, I do not need the stress of her being around

THIS!

JulieSC81 · July 2014

Just SO! It was just me and SO (with doctors obv) with my DS and I wouldnt have it any other way. This time, we will also be waiting longer to have ANY visitors because I want time alone with LO and DS first.

RosieB0514 · July 2014

DH, my Mom, and SIL who is a nurse and my BFF. Those are my core people and I feel would each offer me different support.

katykat03 · July 2014

Just my husband. We both feel that its important that its just us.

Saintelizabeth · July 2014

FTM (this will probably be my only pregnancy) and I will have DH, my mom and my two sisters. I have no problem with my mom and sisters in the room, I'm actually pretty excited.

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