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Another sex post... anyone else having issues?

ErinE683ErinE683 member
in March 2014 Moms
I just made an appt with my OB for next Monday. We're about 4 months PP, and i got cleared at six weeks. I had a vaginal birth without complications, with some second degree tearing. We've tried to have sex probably 5 or 6 times, and I've had to stop each time because it's too painful. It's not too tight or dry... it's a burning type feeling deeper inside. UGH... I'm desperate to have sex with my husband!! My Dr gave me an Rx for a vaginal cream to help with moisture, but it made me physically super uncomfortable. I feel like this is not normal, since some of you have been having lots o' sex. I'm totally jealous!! So I guess this is kind of a dear diary, kind of a vent, and a question if anyone else is experiencing this...

Also, we EBF, and the Dr mentioned when I first called her that I would most likely experience dryness while breastfeeding. I want to BF at least six months, but hopefully a year. But I also can't handle the thought of not having sex with DH for a freaking year!!
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  • laurenann89laurenann89 member
    We've done it 3 times PP, and it was alright, but the longer we went and deeper positions made it painful sometimes. Though it was more of a stabbing pain, rather than a burning pain. Wish I could help! I will say it probably helps to be really worked up first.
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  • Hdhtk4Hdhtk4 member
    We've done it several times PP and it definitely hasn't felt good. I can't really say it's painful but is very uncomfortable. Kind of a less intense version of the burning feeling you describe. I've been wondering about making an appt with the OB as well. :(

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  • ErinE683ErinE683 member
    Unfortunately, I'm still having issues with plenty of foreplay and lube. You guys are making me glad I made an appointment... it's hopefully nothing major, but you're confirming that I should be back in the game by now! 
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  • parenthood4parenthood4 member
    I don't post very much, but this reminded me of after my first one. I had like a burning tugging feeling that made sex uncomfortable. I went to the doctor after he was six months. They said there was like a little loose flap of skin from tearing when he was born. They burned it off and it stung for a couple of days, but it totally fixed it! I wish I had gone in sooner. I didn't have anything like that this time, but maybe it's a simple fix like that? Good luck!
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  • LiFeIsAmIrAcLeLiFeIsAmIrAcLe member
    Sounds like my story :( I was cleared at 6 weeks pp but up to this point we have successfully had sex 1 time, which was just this past week. All the other attempts ended in an epic failure of me jacking him off because it was too painful for me. It hurts on the outside (I tore very very badly) and also deep inside (I'm wondering if I tore internally as well). This past week we tried me on top so I could control depth and intensity, and it worked better although it was still painful.
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  • ErinE683ErinE683 member
    @LiFeIsAmIrAcLe‌ , I'm glad you're making progress! Have you gone back to the dr? I'll let you know if I learn anything interesting on my visit!
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  • LaurenAsh23LaurenAsh23 member
    We are in a simialr boat, but I do have to say that it seems to get better if I just get through the initial pain at the beginning. I don't know if sex either feels better after baby or if I just haven't had it in so long that it feels so good haha
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  • Sanibel21Sanibel21 member
    I have an internal pain, like a burning at the beginning of sex. If I push through it goes away and I enjoy myself. I thought it was the condoms so we bought new ones. It still happens but not as bad so I'm not sure if it was the condoms or just time. I'm hoping eventually it will go away altogether! 

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  • LiFeIsAmIrAcLeLiFeIsAmIrAcLe member
    @ErinE683  no I have not been back to the doctor.  I just figured that with time it would get better.  :-S I hope the doctor has good news for you! 
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  • coreyelizcoreyeliz member
    I have an internal burning sensation too and believe it or not I've been seeing a physical therapist for it. I have exercises that I do in the shower (insert finger, manipulate muscles beneath vaginal walls) and she helps me work on it once a week during our appointments. I had NO idea you could do PT for your vag, but you can. Apparently the muscles in that area are spasming a bit, which I'm told is common post birth. Long story short, it's really helping and the burning is going away. Just something to consider. Side note: I got checked for an infection too, but don't have one.
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  • myfriendscallmemegmyfriendscallmemeg member
    Just in case any of you wanted an update on my lady bits....they're no longer allergic to semen.

    Not worth it's own thread, but cloooose enough to the topic of this threat to interject!

    I've found rear entry basically impossible PP. Me on top is (and was) our go-to position. I can get both of us super lube-y & wet & then control depth of penetration. Usually ends extremely well for me.
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