Rude pregnancy comments bitch thread

mommy5point0 · July 2014

We are probably due from things I've seen on other threads.

I'll go first. One of my very closest and normally tactful friends said to me yesterday:

"Are you serious. You're having more?" "Can you carry twins for me?" "Damn 18 kids and counting" "Aren't you worried your shit will fall to the floor" etc etc

All direct quotes.

She's 40, never married, no kids, laments both. She admits she spent too much time on losers and feels that ship has sailed. I don't want to be mean or obvious and assume it's jealousy but geez. I'm so hurt.

Your turn.

angelg3134 · July 2014

When I told my boss she said "wow. you wasted no time." Um yeah BITCH, I did not. That's what happens when you're TRYING to have a baby. Go fuck yourself.

kefttsc · July 2014

My next door neighbor asked what I was going to do with my dogs once the babies were born. Really old man? Just because your family cycles through dogs like underwear......

lizjennings81 · July 2014

We're still in secret mode, but I'm waiting for a few friends to smugly say, "See? I knew it." (We were undecided on kids for many years.) Yes, because our decision to have a family is completely attributable to you, friend.

Who the hell else knows what'll happen. People have no filter with pregnant women – you become public property when you're pregnant, it seems.

psychobutthead · July 2014

I haven't told anyone other than family about this pregnancy yet, but last time I got "Are you sure there is only one in there?" a lot and "Wow, thats going to be a big baby".

The very worst one was a day after DD was born (by Csection) a friend called to tell me she was so sorry that I wasn't able to give birth to my own child. That one shocked me!

wow i didnt know csections don't count as giving birth. amazing how ignorant people can be.

MrsTucker2011 · July 2014

Last pregnancy, I was already in a grouchy mood when a young coworker asked me, "Sooo, how much weight have you gained so far?" I quickly responded before my work filter turned on, "I don't know. How much weight have you gained, bitch?"

She was shocked into silence. Don't think she'll be asking any questions like that again! Oops! Haha

ems0523 · July 2014

@MrsTucker2011‌ hahahahaha that is AWESOME

selly08 · July 2014

OMG !! How can people be so insensitive. We have chose to remain shut about this until 14 weeks. But Yikess if I get such remarks, God bless those people!

MommyOfAMiracle · July 2014

An acquaintance saw me last week and said, "congratulations!!! Are you pregnant?" I said yes, thinking a friend of ours had already told her. Then she proceeded to say, "I KNEW that's why you had a shotgun wedding! I was wondering why I didn't get an invite!"

I responded with, "uhm we married because Jesse's (DH) dad was DYING and that was his LAST wish being he's is only son. We married in the hospital, bedside, in May. We didn't know we were pregnant until June."

She says, "oh I didn't know".

"Obviously, he passed 4 days later."

She walked away. Dumb broad.

lilybug319 · July 2014

I was 19 when I got pregnant the first time so someone at work said "wow you're not even old enough to drink or rent a car but you're having a kid? Good luck kiddo!" I just looked at him, smiled and told him to go fuck himself. He left me alone the rest of my pregnancy.

When I called my dad to tell him (both my parents live in a different state) he said "What a whore. You couldn't keep your legs closed long enough to finish college first?" Also my first pregnancy.

When I was at work a customer said "I'd still do you. Fat and all."

When I went to visit my mom for our birthdays we went to an IHOP for breakfast and they had some lady going around blowing up balloon animals. She came to our table and made me a hat that said 'happy 20th birthday' and then asked if baby was planned or an oops. She said either way that would suck to have a baby at only 20 and she was glad it wasn't her.

TornadoTime · July 2014

We haven't told anyone yet, but I had to tell my dental hygienist, so she wouldn't do an x-ray. She then proceeded to talk about it throughout the visit, like it was the perfect fodder for small talk. And I was like NONE of this is your business. Her best comment was about me working two jobs. "But you'll definitely quit one once the baby comes right?" No actually, some of us don't have that luxury. And I happen to love my jobs, and my husband will be the one to stay home. So there. At least that's what I should have said, but I was just so completely shocked into silence. I think I just made a noise in response.

williamandrachelray · July 2014

These aren't related to my actual pregnancy but an acquaintance (barely know her) guessed that I was pregnant and I confirmed. Then in the same conversation I got both "do you not HAVE to work?" (I have a very specific degree and since moving to AK with the Air Force I've had some trouble finding a job that is in my degree) And "you built a house? How much does your husband MAKE?". I searched for a polite answer and all I could come up with was "we have good credit".

Darivila2012 · July 2014

I had someone I LOVE say "OK so you're pregnant" and I answer yes and told her how it just kinda happened (3rd one) and she's like "oh so you do know how to use birth control" I replied nicely but I was a little mad later. She was one of the many people that said after I had only one, don't have any more, or quit while you're ahead. When I knew I was pregnant this time like 5 people in one day said one of those insensitive idiotic things to me. Grrrr

jmevol · July 2014

psychobutthead said:

miniwheat10 said:
I haven't told anyone other than family about this pregnancy yet, but last time I got "Are you sure there is only one in there?" a lot and "Wow, thats going to be a big baby".

The very worst one was a day after DD was born (by Csection) a friend called to tell me she was so sorry that I wasn't able to give birth to my own child. That one shocked me!
wow i didnt kniw csections dont count as giving birth. amazing how ignorant people can be.

Omg, this reminds me a while back on one of the other boards here (I cant remember which one, sorry) one lady had the gall to post a UO saying she didn't think c-sections counted as real birth and that they should all be referred to as surgical extractions.

Yeah that went over real well on here. I don't know if you can search and find it but it created quite a stir!

Edited bc words are hard sometimes.

rhapsody11 · July 2014

We had friends over for dinner last night and they asked if we were thinking about having kids and we just kind of looked at each other and said "well yeah we're thinking real soon!" They were excited, but then the husband proceeded to talk about how your assh*le rips when you have a baby and how there will only be one hole where two used to be. I was so horrified I left the table and pretended to clean something.

thegoodpotato · July 2014

When we told our family, my brother's response was, "you know you can have that 'taken care of', right?"

I mean, this one was a big whoops, and really inconvenient for us... but by no means is that grounds for termination. (I've mentioned before - my brother is an emotionless robot, and I'm not even exaggerating)

I also had a friend (warning me that it was a harsh question) ask me if I was keeping it.

Holy moly. Two accidental pregnancies isn't the sky falling!

jaymo517 · July 2014

Maybe this one isn't that bad, but I can't stand when people say "well for being pregnant you look pretty good". Is that supposed to be a complement? Thanks but no thanks lol

Mandig990 · July 2014

I'm a pretty serious feminist and most of my friends are as well. As a feminist I support abortion. As soon as they told them "why didn't you get an abortion?? Blah blah how can you support something you're too afraid of?" These bitches actually called me cowardly. I didn't abort the pregnancy because maybe I WANNA BE A MUM. I was so shocked at them....

psychobutthead · July 2014

Mandig990 said:

I'm a pretty serious feminist and most of my friends are as well. As a feminist I support abortion. As soon as they told them "why didn't you get an abortion?? Blah blah how can you support something you're too afraid of?" These bitches actually called me cowardly. I didn't abort the pregnancy because maybe I WANNA BE A MUM. I was so shocked at them....

I don't think people realize that by supporting abortion and being pro-choice doesn't mean you want to terminate all or any of your pregnancies or think everyone should terminate their pregnancies.

So far nothing rude has been said to me. Only the comments "that was fast" by pretty much everyone including the nurse as my OB's office. Which I think is funny.

My 2nd pregnancy was the one where everyone kept asking if it was planned and I flat out told anyone who asked YES we tried like crazy! If anyone asks now I'm just going to say nah we don't have cable had to stay amused somehow.

BeckyP005 · July 2014

Hmm can't wait until more people find out. I am sure there will be some comment..even if joking about me being close to 47 when baby is born. Yep I'm sure of it! I had one already say I was crazy

jennjilljo · July 2014

I had a co-worker ask if DS was an accident and then lots of people were interested in my weight gain often commenting "are you sure there aren't twins in there?". One guy even mentioned that I must know how to stay fun in the winter and out of anger I responded "no but I guarantee that my thanksgiving was a lot more fun than yours". That topic never came up again.

Mrsgclark81 · July 2014

I just saw one of my bffs the other day and she said "wow if you are _____lbs now, then by the time you are due" and then she just starts laughing. That stung a little, but if she was skinny I probably would have punched her!

Angeldcf · July 2014

With DS, I had been laid off during the financial industry crisis around '08. I was doing pre-reqs for a career change, and we were actively TTC. Given my degrees and prior work history, I kept hearing "you're overqualified." I finally got a cashier job making $8.50/hr at Target. Worked until 38wks.

While checking out a customer, I overheard the mom telling her teen daughter the importance of staying in school, getting a good education and waiting so she wouldn't end up pg and working as a cashier. I looked at her saying "While that's good advice, you never know what life will throw at you. I actually have a bachelors AND a masters, worked at a major company managing a $5MM budget, traveling all over the country making almost 6 figures at 27. The economy is bad right now, and my job was eliminated. My DH and I aggressively saved so we're doing fine on his salary. Jobs are scarce, this was a huge paycut, but it's still providing an income." She paid and left.

Seriously?! I didn't realize cashier was such a horrible job or "beneath" somebody. Argh.

abc313 · July 2014

No one's been rude yet but when I told my dad he said "I'm glad one of my kids finally did it right!". I have two half brothers that both have kids and I'm ashamed to say they're not exactly apart or their lives.

TornadoTime · July 2014

Angeldcf said:

With DS, I had been laid off during the financial industry crisis around '08. I was doing pre-reqs for a career change, and we were actively TTC. Given my degrees and prior work history, I kept hearing "you're overqualified." I finally got a cashier job making $8.50/hr at Target. Worked until 38wks.
While checking out a customer, I overheard the mom telling her teen daughter the importance of staying in school, getting a good education and waiting so she wouldn't end up pg and working as a cashier. I looked at her saying "While that's good advice, you never know what life will throw at you. I actually have a bachelors AND a masters, worked at a major company managing a $5MM budget, traveling all over the country making almost 6 figures at 27. The economy is bad right now, and my job was eliminated. My DH and I aggressively saved so we're doing fine on his salary. Jobs are scarce, this was a huge paycut, but it's still providing an income." She paid and left.
Seriously?! I didn't realize cashier was such a horrible job or "beneath" somebody. Argh.

That's horrible!! I'm so glad you said something

Mrsgclark81 · July 2014

Angeldcf said:
With DS, I had been laid off during the financial industry crisis around '08. I was doing pre-reqs for a career change, and we were actively TTC. Given my degrees and prior work history, I kept hearing "you're overqualified." I finally got a cashier job making $8.50/hr at Target. Worked until 38wks.
While checking out a customer, I overheard the mom telling her teen daughter the importance of staying in school, getting a good education and waiting so she wouldn't end up pg and working as a cashier. I looked at her saying "While that's good advice, you never know what life will throw at you. I actually have a bachelors AND a masters, worked at a major company managing a $5MM budget, traveling all over the country making almost 6 figures at 27. The economy is bad right now, and my job was eliminated. My DH and I aggressively saved so we're doing fine on his salary. Jobs are scarce, this was a huge paycut, but it's still providing an income." She paid and left.
Seriously?! I didn't realize cashier was such a horrible job or "beneath" somebody. Argh.
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You responded very diplomatically. When I worked as a cashier while in school for my Masters degree people made assumptions about me to. I didnt have on my name tag one day and this customer gets in my line and decides he is going to name me Shenika! I told him that wasnt my name and corrected his ignorant assumption. It took a lot not to curse out some of the rude customers.

mommy510 · July 2014

Blockquote class="Quote" rel="rhapsody11">We had friends over for dinner last night and they asked if we wisn't thinking about having kids and we just kind of looked at each other and said "well yeah we're thinking real soon!" They were excited, but then the husband proceeded to talk about how your assh*le rips when you have a baby and how there will only be one hole where two used to be. I was so horrified I left the table and pretended to clean something.

That's horrible! If you have a 3rd or 4th degree tear it will split you open, but that is pretty rare. It isn't as if it stays that way though. The only girl I know who had this problem delivered a huge baby at 42 weeks. My dr wouldn't even let me go that late.

alyssamskeens · July 2014

thegoodpotato said:
When we told our family, my brother's response was, "you know you can have that 'taken care of', right?"
I mean, this one was a big whoops, and really inconvenient for us... but by no means is that grounds for termination. (I've mentioned before - my brother is an emotionless robot, and I'm not even exaggerating)
I also had a friend (warning me that it was a harsh question) ask me if I was keeping it.
Holy moly. Two accidental pregnancies isn't the sky falling!

OMG @thegoodpotato‌ - how are you not strangling these people with your bare hands?!!

bbergman · July 2014

"You guys are like the Duggars from WI".

BTW- I'm having #3. Not 13.

summerandmatt · July 2014

Upon hearing that DH and I were expecting our 3rd, my moms bf clipped an article about the financial difficulties of having children (college, cars, etc). I stared at the clip, then him, and all I could sputter was "we live well within our means." He mumbled something along the lines of "keep having kids though...." I was shocked. And my mom said NOTHING. I'm still trying to figure out how to handle this situation, as he said something similar shortly after we had DD2 and I told my mom we wanted another. Boundaries, mom. He's your bf, not my father! And even so, none of their business.

jadempyre1 · July 2014

When I told my parents we decided to try for a third my mom replied "don't do it, your body can't handle another, plus life is so much harder with three!" She proceeded to tell me all the reasons why I shouldn't have another child ( mind you my husband and I both have high paying jobs and we own our home. She kept saying "what if your husband leaves you, then you will be stuck with three kids". That's what happened to her so of course it will happen to me too. Needless to say I haven't told her yet...........

krispy83 · July 2014

Wow.. some of these are insane. And I'm impressed with the restraint that a lot of you ladies have shown!

I haven't gotten comments yet. But has anyone seen Pregnant Chicken's clever pregnancy comment responses yet? There's 3 parts plus a separate post for multiples and I'm armed and ready :P

https://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2011/1/15/clever-pregnancy-comebacks-part-one.html

lilrubberduckie · July 2014

krispy83 said:
Wow.. some of these are insane. And I'm impressed with the restraint that a lot of you ladies have shown!

I haven't gotten comments yet. But has anyone seen Pregnant Chicken's clever pregnancy comment responses yet? There's 3 parts plus a separate post for multiples and I'm armed and ready :P

https://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2011/1/15/clever-pregnancy-comebacks-part-one.html

Love pregnant chicken. So funny. I am also prepared after reading her ideas

mommy5point0 · July 2014

Mandig990 said:
I'm a pretty serious feminist and most of my friends are as well. As a feminist I support abortion. As soon as they told them "why didn't you get an abortion?? Blah blah how can you support something you're too afraid of?" These bitches actually called me cowardly. I didn't abort the pregnancy because maybe I WANNA BE A MUM. I was so shocked at them....

OMG ... So rude. You support CHOICE. Your choice is to have a baby. People are fucking stupid.

My DS was a surprise to say the least. My sister asked me when he was born "so what, are you pro life now?" I said "Nope. Still pro choice. I just made the choice that was right for me and want others to be able to do the same." Twat.

alyssamskeens · July 2014

@krispy83‌ wow, thanks for sharing Pregnant Chicken- had not seen this before! Now I'm laying here eating pop tarts perusing this site!!

LadybugMomma18 · July 2014

We've only shared with a close small circle of family. My only living Grandparent, my Grandmother yelled with excitement over the phone when I told her. She had been waiting as I'm the first grandchild. I was happy to hear her response until she said "it's just too bad that you couldn't lose a little weight before you got pregnant". 80years old. That's the only reason she gets a pass.

mels823 · July 2014

rhapsody11 said:
We had friends over for dinner last night and they asked if we were thinking about having kids and we just kind of looked at each other and said "well yeah we're thinking real soon!" They were excited, but then the husband proceeded to talk about how your assh*le rips when you have a baby and how there will only be one hole where two used to be. I was so horrified I left the table and pretended to clean something.

Yup. My SIL always says things like this to me and she knows I am pregnant. Makes me so mad. I told her I know plenty of people who had great pregnancies and deliveries so why feel the need to only tell me horror stories? People are such turds.

mom2xover2002 · July 2014

With both the DS & DD I got the "you couldn't wait? You know what causes that right?" comments. Ex husband and I got pg with DS on our honeymoon and DD was born 11 months later. With this peanut my new DH & I have gotten the "starting all over aren't you? There goes being kid free before you're 40" comments for me (I'm 32 & DH is 28) or there's the lovely "well at least you have built in baby-sitters" ummm no they are not built in baby-sitters, they are siblings and I'm the parent.

Carrie0225 · July 2014

thegoodpotato said:
When we told our mmkfamily, my brother's response was, "you know you can have that 'taken care of', right?"
I mean, this one was a big whoops, and really inconvenient for us... but by no means is that grounds for termination. (I've mentioned before - my brother is an emotionless robot, and I'm not even exaggerating)
I also had a friend (warning me that it was a harsh question) ask me if I was keeping it.
Holy moly. Two accidental pregnancies isn't the sky falling!

I told one of my very close friends and she says, "I have the money, you just have to make the appointment and we can get this handled." It didn't really surprise me because she's anti-pregnancy and she wants nothing to do with children!!

katieki · July 2014

My sister said you can't handle more than one kid...

katieki · July 2014

miniwheat10 said:
I haven't told anyone other than family about this pregnancy yet, but last time I got "Are you sure there is only one in there?" a lot and "Wow, thats going to be a big baby".

The very worst one was a day after DD was born (by Csection) a friend called to tell me she was so sorry that I wasn't able to give birth to my own child. That one shocked me!

Whoa! I can't believe someone would say that.

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