WTF Wednesday, yes?

conradraging · July 2014

MrsLaLaBug · July 2014

I shall not waver.

nienot · July 2014

JudyBlume14 said:
I can add a "WTF, DH??"

When I tell you I had a big weight-gain month, the appropriate response is "aw, I'm sure the scale at the doctors office is totally broken" and NOT "yeah, you look huge!" Um, ouch?

As with most of the SOs described in this thread, he's pretty swell in every other way, he just can't grasp that gaining weight is a sore spot. He genuinely thinks "getting huge!" = a compliment, because it means baby girl is growing. But man, he won't grasp that you can't say that!!!

Ahh...same. DH finds it adorable to tell me when we get in bed and he puts his arms around me "you're feeling awfully pregnant this evening, and I love it"

I know he is just trying to be sweet, but it sort of bugs me.

Marchie1214 · July 2014

WTF coworker? Please keep your wonderful opinions of my pregnancy to yourself. When you tell me I've dropped and any day now, when I just told you I have 7 weeks left is redic. It's still July and I'd like to keep this baby cooking longer.

bumpuser10199668 · July 2014

JudyBlume14 said:

I can add a "WTF, DH??" When I tell you I had a big weight-gain month, the appropriate response is "aw, I'm sure the scale at the doctors office is totally broken" and NOT "yeah, you look huge!" Um, ouch? As with most of the SOs described in this thread, he's pretty swell in every other way, he just can't grasp that gaining weight is a sore spot. He genuinely thinks "getting huge!" = a compliment, because it means baby girl is growing. But man, he won't grasp that you can't say that!!!

Ugh. Yeah, DH thinks it is 'adorable' to be gaining so much. That's because HE isn't the one walking around with almost 35 extra pounds on him. Oh, and then I bought plums at the grocery store and he commented how happy he was to see me eating fruit instead of junk. Screw you.

kmbk27 · July 2014

JudyBlume14 said:
I can add a "WTF, DH??"

When I tell you I had a big weight-gain month, the appropriate response is "aw, I'm sure the scale at the doctors office is totally broken" and NOT "yeah, you look huge!" Um, ouch?

As with most of the SOs described in this thread, he's pretty swell in every other way, he just can't grasp that gaining weight is a sore spot. He genuinely thinks "getting huge!" = a compliment, because it means baby girl is growing. But man, he won't grasp that you can't say that!!!

I hear ya! SO called me "large and in charge" the other day. WTF?! No, dear. Just NO.

Fishyhatch · July 2014

Big hugs to the mamas dealing with SO issues! My WTF goes to my BIL and SIL. In the 3 years since we left the midwest, they haven't visited us once. Whatever, we get that we live really far away and traveling isn't cheap. They are currently vacationing in Myrtle Beach, which just happens to be less than 3 hours from our house. So we suggested that on the day they check out, the drive up here for an evening so we can all get together and see them and our niece. Response: Yeah absolutely, we'll be there Thursday afternoon! My DH texts BIL to see what they would like to eat tomorrow, thinking we'd do a nice cookout for them. Surprise Surprise, they're not coming now. We knew there was a good possibility they'd flake (common behavior for them), but its still shitty all the same. If it wasn't going to work or you just didn't want to come, just say so! No reason to go through all the bullshit! All you have to say is, "hey I really appreciate the offer and would love to get together, I'm sorry it's just not going to work this time." Simple, honest, to the point.

portentosa · July 2014

@MMason12‌ You've already apologized so I won't pile on.

@trebekastan‌ I'm sorry that your H is making you feel this way. Men take longer to connect sometimes. I will take my H's hand and put it on my stomach and he'll sit there and continue to watch tv. I have to ask him if he felt the kicks, to which he'll nod without ever taking his eyes off the show. With DS he wasn't much better, but he at least talked to my bump a couple times... so it has really been bothering me lately too. Like some PPs said, watching your H bond with LO after they're here is really worth the wait. ((Hugs))

nilvero · July 2014

Lots of hugs to the people with DHs who don't share that enjoyment.

My WTF is really DH? I get that puttying (not a word but don't care!) is fun to you, but do you really have to put plaster over every minuscule hole you find in the nursery. Now you have to go and paint each one and all I want is to have the nursery finished. So close yet so far!

conradraging · July 2014

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12393374/bump-gods-this-is-really-effing-important/ that is all.

MMason12 · July 2014

tromboner said:

@MMason12‌ You've already apologized so I won't pile on.

I feel like I owe a much better apology. I feel horrible about how much my comment hurt the ladies struggling with issues and there is no acceptable reason I should have posted it here at all, so I do not even wish to try and defend posting it. I really do love the Sept ladies/board and I feel horrible that I am someone who caused pain to other posters. I 100% deserved to be flamed for the comment and more than likely make the "post-it". I just hope some know how truly sorry I am.

LifeofCat · July 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

WTF toddler. Why are you dipping toast in yogurt? You're killing me

Confession: toast w/ butter and a bit of blueberry or strawberry yogurt spread on it (ie one bite at a time, not spread all at once) is in fact pretty delicious...imo... WTF, BIL: he decides at 9:30pm last night that he's not going to stay overnight at his other brother's house as planned and is coming over to crash at our place. Not a big deal, I'm just not a big fan of last minute guests. BUT THEN this morning, before leaving (ie he left before we woke up), he left the fridge door and the back door open! Uhhhhhhhhhhh...

LifeofCat · July 2014

Conradgallagher said:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12393374/bump-gods-this-is-really-effing-important/ that is all.

Wait I need to read this whole thread pfffttt

anewadventure · July 2014

Conradgallagher said:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12393374/bump-gods-this-is-really-effing-important/ that is all.

ahhh stupid bump. conrad, i second your post. i can't manage to quote anything, edit, or otherwise participate with this effed up system right now.

brittneyandadam · July 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

WTF toddler. Why are you dipping toast in yogurt? You're killing me

At least it's not fish fingers and custard?

andthatmakes4 · July 2014

WTF with my AC going out and the shower drain backing up at the same time. Now I'm sitting here in a hot house waiting on a plumber with a 3 hour window that he should show up in. AC guy can't come until tomorrow. I just might get a hotel tonight. Even though its not as hot as usual right now, TX summers are not to be had without AC. I've endured 2 nights without AC already so I haven't slept well and am all around pissy because of it.

dinodna3 · July 2014

Hugs to all the ladies with DH/SO being less than stoked. My DH has super snappy at me when I cry. Like I can control it at this point. I've been quite stressed with moving and leaving my job and cry just happens. sorrynotsorry. WTF...coworker. I am filling in for the general cashier at our hotel while she is on vacation and her desk is nasty. There is so much dust and crumbs in the keyboard that the buttons stick. How do people work like this. Edit: Tried to add spacing but TB won't allow it today

anewadventure · July 2014

bahah, i clearly can't keep up. here i thought the post was genuinely complaining about the wacko bump box today. shit moves fast...

brittneyandadam · July 2014

I'm joining the WTF DH chorus. Why the eff do you need to stretch out on the couch and leave me half of a couch cushion? Do not roll your eyes when I tell you how uncomfortable I am or when I ask you to move. Don't sigh and side-eye me when I try to adjust and end up pushing your legs off the couch. It's not cute when you prop your heavy legs up on my lap or belly. Get. Off. Of. ME. ETA: You have no problem taking up my space on the couch, but when I want to snuggle or ask you to touch my belly, you act like it's the biggest burden ever. Just, no.

JustCricket · July 2014

another wtf. we have no food in this house.. I mean we have plenty of food.. just nothing I want to eat

dinodna3 · July 2014

@JustCricket‌ this happen to me all the time. It's the worst, I keep checking the fridge and pantry like what I want will magically appear.

bumpuser10199668 · July 2014

JustCricket said:

another wtf. we have no food in this house.. I mean we have plenty of food.. just nothing I want to eat

My MIL bought me the biggest bag of Doritos at Sam's yesterday. It is almost gone.....I'm ashamed.

JustCricket · July 2014

CarmAlarm said:

JustCricket said:

another wtf. we have no food in this house.. I mean we have plenty of food.. just nothing I want to eat

My MIL bought me the biggest bag of Doritos at Sam's yesterday. It is almost gone.....I'm ashamed.

chips.. now that's something we don't have in this house.. maybe that's why I'm complaining. lol

dinodna3 · July 2014

CarmAlarm said:

JustCricket said:

another wtf. we have no food in this house.. I mean we have plenty of food.. just nothing I want to eat

My MIL bought me the biggest bag of Doritos at Sam's yesterday. It is almost gone.....I'm ashamed.

there is no shame in that. AT ALL.

brittneyandadam · July 2014

steelersgirl83 said:

@brittneyandadam‌ Seriously girl, sectional L shaped couch. I have my part, and he has his. Total life saver. I will never go back to the share one couch thing.

We've totally looked at sectionals. The problem there is that we have completely opposite tastes. Somehow, he's still stuck in 1990's bachelor mode where everything must be upholstered in black leather and all shelving/tables must be a combination of black painted wood and glass. We're still using the furniture from his bachelor pad...so that's what all the living room furniture is now. I'm really tired of my ass getting all sweaty and sticking to the leather. Anyway...he wants a sectional in all black leather with the cushions resembling car seats and built in cupholders....I want something in a lighter fabric with a more organic shape.

MrsLaLaBug · July 2014

dinodna3 said:

@JustCricket‌ this happen to me all the time. It's the worst, I keep checking the fridge and pantry like what I want will magically appear.

I do this, too!

brittneyandadam · July 2014

@MermaidsMagic‌ @steelersgirl83‌ @Monicavickery‌ I just don't understand. I've told him that I don't like it b/c it makes me sweaty. I've told him that it belongs in a man cave, not in our living room. But, that's all he gravitates toward...he says he understands, but that all goes out the window when he sees the leather or the reclining seats. I think he's secretly sabotaging our shopping trips...like if he can't get what he wants in a sectional, then at least he'll still have his black leather couch.

Ciardasully · July 2014

trebekastan said:
WT actual F to DH. He is normally a really great guy but last night he was not. I have to constantly ask him if he wants to feel the baby and I usually get a one handed touch while he's on his phone or something. Well baby was going crazy and I asked him to use two hands. After literally 2 seconds he actually says to me, "Yeah, I get it. He moves around a lot". I lost my ever loving shit. He has made me cry maybe 2 other times in our 5 year marriage. Yesterday was one of those times. I don't know if he just isn't connected to him yet or what his deal is, but when I ask you to feel your son move, you better just keep your hands there and look awe-inspired until I tell you he's done.

I am so sorry. That is hurtful and I would feel the same way. :-(

LTMama · July 2014

My DH is also not that enthusiastic about feeling movement, it makes me sad. If I can actually get him to put his hand on my belly (sometimes he says, eh it's ok I don't need to - OMG dude), he pulls it away pretty fast and just kind of nods to acknowledge that he felt the baby. This is usually while we're watching TV, so he doesn't even look at my belly. Sometimes when I can get his hand, I hold onto it with both of mine and kind of make him keep it there for a while. Harrumph. *edited to add that he's been working late so much lately, I don't think he's even been available for me to snag his hand in like a month.

AR1of2 · July 2014

Djcieply said:

trebekastan said:

WT actual F to DH. He is normally a really great guy but last night he was not. I have to constantly ask him if he wants to feel the baby and I usually get a one handed touch while he's on his phone or something. Well baby was going crazy and I asked him to use two hands. After literally 2 seconds he actually says to me, "Yeah, I get it. He moves around a lot". I lost my ever loving shit. He has made me cry maybe 2 other times in our 5 year marriage. Yesterday was one of those times. I don't know if he just isn't connected to him yet or what his deal is, but when I ask you to feel your son move, you better just keep your hands there and look awe-inspired until I tell you he's done.

My DH is also like this, LO will be having a spasm in there and Ill be like here feel and you can tell he just is not interested in it. He was that way with DS also, I dont really get why they are like that, but it seems to be fairly common. I do think it is partly because they are not totally connected yet like we are, but as soon as DS came out DH was completely infatuated with him.

My H sucks at this too. He gets weirded out. The only nice story about it I have is from a week or so ago when we were both still waking up in the AM and my stomach was jumping like crazy with her movements. I didn't know he was paying attention til he exclaimed that he saw it. He cared in that tiny moment, but if I ask him to feel? He can't wait to have his hands back. Smh.

Eta...hm, quote fail.

LexiT88 · July 2014

WTF heartburn, already taken 4 tums today and apparently that's not cutting it...back to the medicine cabinet. PS Tums Chewy delights...you are not at all delightful.

wrightpalomo · July 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

WTF toddler. Why are you dipping toast in yogurt? You're killing me

----do quotes work yet?---- Um... because that shiz is deeeelicious! I highly recommend she dip that toast in her coffee when she's old enough because that is also awesome.

conradraging · July 2014

WTF bump why can't i figure out how to change my username >:P

conradraging · July 2014

Yuristar said:

Conradgallagher said:

WTF bump why can't i figure out how to change my username >:P

You need to email the BG, for me it took a few days for them to change it

thanks! thats more effort than i wanted. wah

kaleb87 · July 2014

shauna813 said:
JustCricket said:
another wtf. we have no food in this house.. I mean we have plenty of food.. just nothing I want to eat

STORY OF MY LIIIIIIIIFE

Dang it, you just got one direction stuck in my head with story of my life! Must admit not really a fan of that song but at least it is better than, because I'm happy.
%-( %-( %-(

ashaw512 · July 2014

I'm joining the wtf DH why won't you acknowledge my belly club. Every time it say something about my belly he's like yes amber there is a baby in there, or if I tell him to look he's like yea I already know and it really hurts my feelings. He's touched my belly maybe three times but only for about 10 seconds and if he feels the baby move he jerks his hand away like its a germ and he going to catch it. Asshole. But he she doesn't mind telling me how HUGE I'm getting but apparently like everyone else's SOs it's suppose to be a compliment on how the baby is growing. He likes to tell me how I don't eat and when I do he almost acts surprised, we'll DH where the hell do you think all the food in the house goes that you always bitch about, our 22 month old daughter isn't eating that much and your at work all day so how would you know anyway. With DD he did the same thing and he took it a step further and wouldn't even hold her until she was 3 months or older. I think he's realized how much if an ass he was after she was born but I think it will the same this time after this baby gets here. Ugh douche.

formerwigirl · July 2014

@Fishyhatch‌ We have the same issue. We live far away from DH's family and the only time they came down was for our wedding. He's lived here 8 years and they've been down 2 times. It sucks that we always have to be the ones to make the effort. My WTF is to my mom. I love her but lately she won't give up on the whole "I want to buy my plane ticket now." I've told her numerous times that I don't know when the baby will be born so I can't give her dates. I wish she didn't live 1300 miles away and I want her to be here for LO's birth. Unfortunately I just don't see that happening because of the distance, plus she is raising my sister's oldest child so she can't just jump on a plane when I go in to labor.

peanutbuttervibes · July 2014

@Conradgallagher‌ you also have to log out and log back in once you change it.

conradraging · July 2014

braybee said:

@Conradgallagher‌ you also have to log out and log back in once you change it.

lol i thought i broke it.

peanutbuttervibes · July 2014

conradraging said:

braybee said:

@Conradgallagher‌ you also have to log out and log back in once you change it.

lol i thought i broke it.

Haha yea it took me a minute to realize when I changed mine too!

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