Passing gas in early pregnancy in front of your partner

angiebee189 · July 2014

So I am almost 6 weeks pregnant and due on March 13, 2015. As many of you ladies are also probably experiencing: the dreadful gas. It's so bad and I don't like to pass gas in front of my hubby. I never have and never will unless one slips. He farts around me all the time. I know it's probably weird to some of you but my mom never farted in front of my dad and that's just how I was raised! So without passing judgement, is anybody else out there going thru hades trying to keep your gas in until you get to a restroom like me?!

CoozieInMyPurse · July 2014

I've always let them rip on front of DH and have no intention of stopping.

thejucheidea · July 2014

My husband and I have farting contests between us AND versus the dogs. I can't imagine ever holding in a fart around him. I just... no.

ETA: Also, I have celiac disease, so if I tried to hold back gluten farts, it would just be the end of me forever.

PuppyLove84 · July 2014

Unfortunately I'm very gassy by nature so there is no way I could survive without the occasional one slipping out! My H rolls his eyes but he's pretty used to it by now. The only time he gets mad is when I do it in bed.

FrecklesInside · July 2014

I think it is super weird that you can't pass gas in front of your husband. How is the whole birth thing where you most likely will shit while squeezing a baby out of your vagina gonna go?

2Swanns · July 2014

Good for you! That ship has sailed for me and there is no turning back at this point. It's going to be difficult for you, but I don't think he'll divorce you over a couple of stinkers.

4RingCircus · July 2014

I was the first one to let one rip back when we were dating. I have no shame. You probably won't either once you give birth.

sjep922 · July 2014

My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years and I think I have accidentally farted in front of him once. He has told me during pregnancy to just let them go if needed.

that's his way of being sweet and letting me pass has to be comfortable!

It is still awkward to get used to though and I do still try not to if possible.

angiebee189 · July 2014

Let me be clear: I certainly CAN fart in front of him I just choose not to. Why would I want my husband to see me as a farting smelly thing? Our sex life is amazing and I don't want him to see my body in any other way than just sexy! He told me the other day I'll probably shit on the table when I give birth and we just laughed about it. I'm sure they'll start slipping out sooner than later. Like jcar2 I think I'm going to let them rip and revert back to my f ways after the baby comes!!!! Hahaha I loved reading you ladies posts!

motherofdogs · July 2014

@angiebee189‌ oh gurl my mother farted around my dad all the time and in the back of my mind I knew it grossed him out... So I am not a farter. Having a weak stomach keeping these to myself is a no go. Some how by the grace of god (or who ever) I have made them into secret panty whispers that politely envelop my husband in a caring embrace. I think I have farted out loud 3 times in the time we have been together and it's him making a big deal about it and me turning red.... Oh well.

JennyP0222 · July 2014

I gotta say, I prefer not to fart in front of my husband (or anyone for that matter) but had no issues whatsoever with him being front and center during delivery. It's all good, he still has sex with me after that shitshow.

lhill88 · July 2014

I don't fart in front of my husband either. I'm due 3/14 and am definitely feeling the gas pains. I just try to hold it in...or squeeze it so tight it comes out with no sound

Also, @FrecklesInside, for as long as I can remember now (long before even getting married), what I've been most worried about in giving birth is pooping in the delivery room. I've come to terms now that it's probably going to happen...but that doesn't make the fear go away.

JennyP0222 · July 2014

You know, crapping on a delivery room table was one of my absolute greatest worries about labor and delivery. Shallow I know. I will tell you that some crazy biological wonderment goes down while in labor though. You suddenly do not have any fucks to give when it comes to who sees what! A lot of things are going to come on out from all over the place and you will be none the wiser.

lhill88 · July 2014

@JennyP0222 you're post made me LOL. It does make me feel better though. One of my best friend's just had a baby a few months ago and she told me the same thing!

angiebee189 · July 2014

I don't know if he would find me any less sexy or not but I would feel less sexy. To each his own

Hahaha I've developed this new thing where I spread my cheeks apart while sitting and they come out completely silent . Hahaha

motherofdogs · July 2014

@angiebee189‌ that my dear is a secret panty whisper.

angiebee189 · July 2014

Hahaha omg I love that term. Thank you bspazzer!

mholmes92 · July 2014

Yes, though I'm not sure why (bad childhood experience?? I've always been super embarrassed about bodily functions to the point where I would hold them all if we weren't at home until I was crying. I guess its actually more of a fear? Now its mostly poop and gas.) any way he has heard it slip 1 time and the other day I had to pee so bad I didn't have time to quietly shut the door (DD still sleeps in our room) ended up peeing with the door open I wanted to sleep on the sofa after that. I was SO embarrassed!!

FrecklesInside · July 2014

mholmes92 said:
Yes, though I'm not sure why (bad childhood experience?? I've always been super embarrassed about bodily functions to the point where I would hold them all if we weren't at home until I was crying. I guess its actually more of a fear? Now its mostly poop and gas.) any way he has heard it slip 1 time and the other day I had to pee so bad I didn't have time to quietly shut the door (DD still sleeps in our room) ended up peeing with the door open I wanted to sleep on the sofa after that. I was SO embarrassed!!

Seriously? ...we don't even close the bathroom door. If one of us needs something or even if we are mid conversation, we go in the bathroom while the other is using it. Number one or two. Whatever. Being uncomfortable with bodily functions in front of my H is a foreign concept to me. Then again, we have been together over 11 years.

mholmes92 · July 2014

FrecklesInside said:

Yes, though I'm not sure why (bad childhood experience?? I've always been super embarrassed about bodily functions to the point where I would hold them all if we weren't at home until I was crying. I guess its actually more of a fear? Now its mostly poop and gas.) any way he has heard it slip 1 time and the other day I had to pee so bad I didn't have time to quietly shut the door (DD still sleeps in our room) ended up peeing with the door open I wanted to sleep on the sofa after that. I was SO embarrassed!!
Seriously? ...we don't even close the bathroom door. If one of us needs something or even if we are mid conversation, we go in the bathroom while the other is using it. Number one or two. Whatever. Being uncomfortable with bodily functions in front of my H is a foreign concept to me. Then again, we have been together over 11 years.

It's not just my FH though, I pass gas in front of DD and that's it (and she's only 1) no one else.

ETA: I'm pretty sure my roommate of like a year/my best friend hasn't even heard me fart.

mholmes92 · July 2014

-snip-
I'm with you on this one
Hubs turns the water on or goes downstairs if he has to poop... I told him that's more obvious but he didn't care.

I do that too.

kschref · July 2014

Sometimes I make DH go use one of the guest bathrooms, but not because I'm embarrassed, just because he is stanky and my side of the bed is closer to the bathroom. On his side of the bed he was what we call the "poot candle". If he knows it's going to be stinky, he farts directly into the candle and is always afraid he's going to light his ass and/or the bed on fire.

And I 2nd @FrecklesInside - I was never particularly restrained with DH before I had DS, but that man held my right leg back during labor and the things he saw can't be unseen. His first comment may have been "I love you, but for the love of God, don't look down there for a while," but he still finds me sexy and and vice versa.

*Just a little PSA if anyone is actually concerned about the odor of their farts - I'm not but like I said DH is rancid - his doc recommend the "White Mountain" Bulgarian yogurt - it comes in a glass jar. DH says it tastes like shit and puts cinnamon in it, but on the days he eats it, he's not stinky.

mholmes92 · July 2014

kschref said:

Sometimes I make DH go use one of the guest bathrooms, but not because I'm embarrassed, just because he is stanky and my side of the bed is closer to the bathroom. On his side of the bed he was what we call the "poot candle". If he knows it's going to be stinky, he farts directly into the candle and is always afraid he's going to light his ass and/or the bed on fire.

And I 2nd @FrecklesInside - I was never particularly restrained with DH before I had DS, but that man held my right leg back during labor and the things he saw can't be unseen. His first comment may have been "I love you, but for the love of God, don't look down there for a while," but he still finds me sexy and and vice versa.

*Just a little PSA if anyone is actually concerned about the odor of their farts - I'm not but like I said DH is rancid - his doc recommend the "White Mountain" Bulgarian yogurt - it comes in a glass jar. DH says it tastes like shit and puts cinnamon in it, but on the days he eats it, he's not stinky.

ohhh where can I find that? That is probably the best thing I have ever heard. (ok not quite the best but its high on the list)

mamajack86 · July 2014

After the 6th year together I farted by accident and blamed it on something. Then it became a joke where if we farted we'd blame it on the most random thing even though we obviously know what's up. Now 10 years in and he has some lethal ones where as I rarely pass gas.

AshleighW13 · July 2014

@frecklesinside I'm with you I leave the door open, all the time. Pisses my husband off.

He came from a family where you had to be fully dressed at all time. He couldn't even walk around his house without a shirt on.

Me on the other hand, I came from a house with no shame. Last time I was at my mother's she farted in the laundry room then walked out and told my step-dad something back there smelled and she was afraid something might have gotten in. Hell my sisters don't put on shorts half the time and walk around in t-shirt and panties. My younger brother walked around in his boxers when he lived there. We just don't care, but my mom's a nurse and her theory is it's body parts and nothing to be ashamed of.

They do cover up and are decent when non-family is over

iliketurtles17 · July 2014

FrecklesInside said:
I think it is super weird that you can't pass gas in front of your husband. How is the whole birth thing where you most likely will shit while squeezing a baby out of your vagina gonna go?

I agree. Let them out. You know what they say, farts that are held in back up and turn into shitty ideas. Bahahaha jk. But seriously, get over it!

AshleighW13 · July 2014

@chrain a toast to those of us raised by hippies

AshleighW13 · July 2014

ToasterCat said:

@chrain we make exaggerated grunting sounds across the house at each other but I guess we're nasty

LOL DH would die if I did that. He so needs to loosen up

kschref · July 2014

@mholmes92 - we have it at our local grocery store. Doc said it's pretty much the only one that comes in a glass jar.

angiebee189 · July 2014

Hahaha y'all are cracking me up. I don't think I'll ever get over this. I don't even fart in front of my best friend and were like sisters, known each other for 22 years. And helllllll no I don't shit on the same floor as my hubby either. I always go away from him. It irritates the shit out if me (no pun intended ) when he follows me to that level of the house when I have to go

aesf · July 2014

Just saying....

Devabales · July 2014

We do not gender segregate in our house, that includes (but not limited to?) taking out the trash, doing laundry, washing dishes, etc. Despite my husband's best efforts, he is out of town 85% of the time right now.

motherofdogs · July 2014

Pooping is a whole other story.... I swear I (used to be) the fasted pooper in all the land. (Before the hemmies came and now I cry softly every time please go away) but my husband poops multiple times religiously. I don't mind talking to him while he is in there but I draw the line at wiping. I do not want to see the brown sludge that comes off of your anus. I've always had a good sniffer but now it's worse so I'm training him to do curtesy flushes. So far so good. I should reward him with cookies. We did build a toilet room in our master bathroom just to keep things private.

okayestmom12 · July 2014

I've been farting and pooping in front of hubby since before we got married. That ship of "leave some mystery" sailed many, many years ago. The man has cleaned up my vom (first preg + stomach bug = hot mess), helped me change the dressing on my c/s incision, helped me wipe... Modesty, schmodesty.

chaysefaith · July 2014

Devabales said:
We do not gender segregate in our house, that includes (but not limited to?) taking out the trash, doing laundry, washing dishes, etc. Despite my husband's best efforts, he is out of town 85% of the time right now.

Huh?

ETA: I don't fart in front of my SO and it pisses me off when he just HAS to walk in on me while I'm pooping. I got over my insecurities over peeing in front of him during my last pregnancy. Baby steps, I guess.

ngolimento · July 2014

I try not to pass gas in front of others as a general rule, including my DH. But that's because it makes ME feel unsexy, not because I fear my DH will never touch me again (if a man is scared off by a natural body function, then he's a child, not a man).

As for the pregnancy gas, there is no way in hell I am letting my baby be unecessarily compressed because of some victorian notion about body functions. It's not just you that has to experience gas discomfort in there anymore. Poor kid.

nursestephanieee · July 2014

Don't bother holding it in - lol

There was a study recently saying the smell helps to prevent cancer hahahahaha

:-??

smfeuro · July 2014

Right. Why would you want to subject yourself to unnecessary stomach pains if you're holding them in all the time!? I've been farting in front of my DH for a very long time now (we've been together 7 years almost). At the beginning of our relationship I went on vacation with him and his family and I held in all my farts because we didnt know each other that well - oh dear, i was in so much pain at the end of that week! It was awful.

I don't hold them in anymore. I pee with the door open. Pooing is another story, he doesn't want to see it and neither do I. I dont think we will ever poop with the door open in our house. Plus when he does he STINKS... better to contain it then let the stench roam the house.

iliketurtles17 · July 2014

nursestephanieee said:

Don't bother holding it in - lol
There was a study recently saying the smell helps to prevent cancer hahahahaha
:-??

Ive heard that just recently. hahha

CoozieInMyPurse · July 2014

nursestephanieee said:

Don't bother holding it in - lol
There was a study recently saying the smell helps to prevent cancer hahahahaha
:-??

This is now DH's favorite thing to tell me. "You're preventing cancer, baby."

nursestephanieee · July 2014

beckyj2013 said:

I will fart in front of my husband all day, and pee with door open, but I will never shit in front of my husband (on purpose), or anyone else (...actually that is a lie. I have held my baby while pooping because he would scream if I put him down. But he's the only one to get that privilege )

And, I would probably punch my husband in the face if he tried to take a shit while I was in the bathroom. You have to draw the line somewhere...

Agree 100%

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