I'm high risk, to the point where they are still 50/50 if LO is going to make it. I'm currently 19 weeks, and this will be our first. I was very hesitant to buy anything for baby at first, but now I'm pretty much in "Freak out" mode because I don't have anything ready for baby. I'm expecting to be pre-term. I'm also expecting to be bed-rest at 24 weeks. I don't want to be picking stuff out that I can't look at in person, while on hospital bed rest. My SO is constantly telling me, "We have plenty of time. You won't be on bedrest. We're not going to have a premie". *sigh*
My "MIL" for lack of a better term, just bought us a glider thing. And I know I will be devastated if baby doesn't make it, and we have this glider hanging out at the house. We don't even have any essentials, and we have this glider waiting for us. On top of that, we aren't having a baby shower, and we only have 1 income bc of losing my job bc of preg. complications. *sigh*
I just wondered how everyone else is handling this whole buying stuff for baby phase that others are going through.
*Said goodbye to our angel baby July 30. 2014. only had him for 21 weeks in my belly, missing him every day*
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OP, i can't imagine what you're going through. The pregnancy stuff alone must be an awful burden, plus the financial worries must make it worse. it's not clear why you're not having a baby shower (i'm guessing you don't want to celebrate "just in case"), but i wanted to let you know that there is no rule that says you have to have the shower BEFORE baby is born. in our tradition (we're Jewish), there is a superstition against acquiring baby stuff and/or celebrating the baby before it has been born. we had our baby shower after baby was born and styled it as a "meet and welcome the baby" party. people brought gifts and it was a wonderful way for our friends and family to meet him all at once. you could consider doing the same. it could be a great way to celebrate this new life and all the hurdles you had to clear in order to get there.