Got a baby shower invitation

Re: Got a baby shower invitation

• southernbelle82 member

  July 2014

  I would feel the same way...and do. Baby shower invites are starting to roll in and I just can't go. I'm so happy for my friends but it hurts too much that I'm not right there with them, should be 15 weeks on Saturday. I feel so guilty for not being able to be there for them. I'm a terrible friend

  DD 6/17/08, DD 6/9/10, DD 12/15/11

  BFP 5/24/13 - Natural MC 6/7/13

  BFP 8/13/13 - Natural MC 8/27/13

  Ovarian Mass = removal of left ovary & tube 9/13

  BFP 4/24/14 - Tubal Pregnancy 5/7/14

  Removal of  ruptured right tube 5/8/14

  IVF or adoption??

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• iheartsippycups2 member

  July 2014

  That sucks. I would rather go to the brewery with the guys...

  
  

  
  
  

  My History:
  Lots of BFN's & failed IUI's w/clomid and/or femara
  Finally BFP with femara & t.i.- son born 6/17/2010
  Started TTC again around when DS was 3ish
  Lots of BFN's with femara & t.i & ovidrel
  Tubes clear, S.A came back low motility but high count
  About to switch to injectables w/femara, did one last cycle with just femara & an IUI with ovidrel- stupid motility was fantastic in the sample, but count was 700,000 AFTER wash! Had to sign a paper to even still do IUI- BFFP (big fat freaking positive) Go figure!
  1st Beta 13dpiui 54, 2nd beta 48 hours later 115, 3rd beta 48 hours later 310, 4th beta 72 hours later 1748.
  

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• annibes member

  July 2014

  I'm sorry. I have been avoiding showers, too. Hopefully you either find a legit way out or end up having a blast!

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• sailorgal member

  July 2014

  annibes said:

  I'm sorry. I have been avoiding showers, too.
  

  haha I walked away from the computer for awhile after opening this window and when I sat back down to read this out of context I was like "wth, why are multiple people avoiding cleaning themselves?!"
  

  Me: 32, DH: 33
  DS #1: April 2010
  DS #2: July 2015 (preemie born at 31 weeks) - our little miracle conceived through ART - unexplained secondary infertility/adenomyosis
  

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• lawmom747 member

  July 2014

  During our struggles to conceive DD, I was invited to quite a few baby showers.  I really only went to the ones that I felt were absolutely necessary (which included my 17 y.o. knocked up cousin - sigh - that one was seriously rough).  The heartbreak was too much.  I couldn't even shop for a gift at Babies R Us without crying back then.  This time around I am at the age where not so many baby shower invites are rolling in (thank the heavens). 
  
  Good luck with whatever you decide - but ultimately you should do what makes you feel comfortable.
  

  Me: 35 DH: 35 - Married 10 years
  PCOS and MF
  Two failed rounds IUI in 2010
  IVF #1 in 2011 - BFP 8/5/11 - Our IVF miracle was born 4/8/12
  FET 9/23/13; BFP -Twins-10/3/13; EDD 6/10/14; MC 11/1/13; D&C 11/4/13
  FET 3/28/14; BFN - 4/7/14
  IVF #2 - Transfer 2 embryos 11/14/14; BFP 11/24/14 - Beta 265;
  11/26/14 - Beta 612; 11/28/14 - Beta 1263; 12/1/14 - Beta 3571;
  12/3/14 - first u/s - two gestational sacs; 12/17/14 - two healthy heartbeats (132 and 134)
  Our IVF miracles were born 7/16/15
  
  

  

  

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• topaz7777 member

  July 2014

  I have one to go to Saturday so I'm putting on a brave face and trying not to blame my misfortune on her good fortune.  I find I constantly have to check myself so I'm not being a jerk just because I'm jealous.  It's not her fault.    It still really sucks though.  I doubt I'll stay the whole time.

  Factor V Leiden Homozygous, Advanced Maternal Age

   

  TTC #1, 5 yrs, PCOS, Femera + Ovidrel.

  IUI#3 BFP, DD 5/31/2012

  

  TTC #2, 2 yrs, PCOS, Femera+Ovidrel

  IUI#2 BFP!

  

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• yarnymommy member

  July 2014

  Showers suck... There were two this past weekend.  Thankfully they were back in my hometown 1,000 miles away and I had a great reason for not going, but I still got the invitation and saw all the pics on Facebook.  My husband doesn't seem to understand why it bothers me... he's all, we have our son, why are you so upset?

  
  

  My happiness for others is always clouded by what we are unable to achieve on our own

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• Bananappeal145 member

  July 2014

  Oh the conflicted feels.  Sorry   It's a tough spot to be in.
  

  
  
  
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• Jodee37 member

  July 2014

  Ah yes, just another reminder of your struggle. Here's my two cents: you have to protect your heart. Which means that if it will be too much to bear don't go. If you are going to cry there, don't go. I have backed out of most baby shower invites because no one wants to see me force a smile and fight back tears, even though I sincerely am happy for that person. I know it's not healthy for me right now to go to them, and my fiends who matter will understand that. Hopefully you can come to a decision that you feel comfortable with. I'm sorry you are faced with it.

  Me: 36, DH: 36

  DH's SA = normal

  1 tube only wonder

  AFC 3-5, AMH 0.30

  
  

  BFP #1 3/29/11.  EDD 12/4/11... Missed m/c 5/9/11. Cytotec fail. D&C 5/17/11.

  BFP #2   7/5/11.  EDD 3/14/12... Our rainbow Kellen born 3/14/12 via c/s.

  BFP #3 5/30/13.  EDD 2/8/14...  6wk u/s HB 126. 8wk u/s lost HB. D&C 7/12/13.

  BFP #4 2/18/14.  EDD 10/30/14... Ruptured ectopic with L tube removed & D&C 3/7/14.

  BFP #5 7/27/14.  EDD 4/9/15...  m/c @ 5w4d.

  
  

  IVF #1    Oct 2014 - antagonist protocol: 9R, 7M, 5F. 3dt of 3 Grade 2 embies. BFN. 

  IVF #2    Jan 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.  Converted to IUI #1. BFFN

  IVF #2.1 March 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.
  
  

  BFP #6  (SUPRISE!) 3/19/15.  EDD 11/30/15...  CP at 4w2d.

  IUI #2:    Clomid + Follistim = 3 follies. BFN.

  IVF #2.2 May 2015 - horrible response to micro lupron flare protocol: 3R, 3M, 3F. 3dt of 2 Grade 3 embies. BFFN. 

  
  BFP #7 (beyond surprised again!) 4/26/16. EDD 1/5/17. beautiful betas!!!! and then near-fatal hemorrhagic corpus luteum. turns out baby was ectopic after all; another lap 5/6 (@24dpo).
  
  the universe can fuck off.

  
  

  
   "You are overly paranoid and delusional that every one is out to get you." -lastsliverofhope
  
  

  all AL welcome. TTC #2 for 43 44 months.

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