Anyone w/FB NOT announcing?

mommy5point0 · July 2014

I was talking to my friend yesterday and discussing how our impending 60 mile move is under wraps until escrow is done & we have keys. I said "I expect family to be even more miffed that we didn't say anything about the pregnancy until I'm about 4 months. I wonder if i should share both at the same time? Maybe a pic of DH & the kids & me in front of the new house?" She said "Maybe just share that you're homeowners but not mention the pregnancy over social networking and let people figure it out."

I suppose some can argue FB is a big meme fest (DH shares that sentiment) but what's the less odd of the two? Announcing or not? I'm curious how others weigh in on this.

thegoodpotato · July 2014

I didn't announce with my second until after the anatomy scan. My family knew, but no one else did.

WA1215 · July 2014

I don't plan on announcing my pg on Facebook at all, or posting any pics of me with a bump.

Izzy0927 · July 2014

I don't think I'll ever really announce on FB. I'll tell my family and friends in person/by phone, and if it gets mentioned on FB, I'm not going to lose my shit, but I'm not going to go out of my way to make a big announcement there. I'll probably post a pic with baby in the hospital as a "reveal."

Mrsgclark81 · July 2014

lol I probably won't announce to Facebook until after I have the baby in my arms, but that's just me.

chicagojackie · July 2014

Maybe the anatomy scan. That's what we did with dd. I don't think it's weird to leave it off of fb.

mh269650 · July 2014

I think it depends on the person. I check Facebook every day but don't post that often. I plan to put something up after the anatomy scan.

michelle142 · July 2014

My family will know, but I'm not putting anything on FB because of work.

WanderingA · July 2014

I am still not decided if we will announce on FB or yet. I tend to find that a lot of FB announcements toe the line of being cheesy. I plan on telling everyone I can in person. I'm sure there will probably be posts on Facebook that give it away eventually.

Nvywife · July 2014

We announced to FB that we are expecting. But we are a little different situation, DH is military and our friends and family are scattered around the world. So it's not like you just eventually see everyone around town. We use Facebook as a tool to keep in touch, we don't have a large amount of people on our pages and our pages are private. But if it's information you can't scream from the roof tops and tell everyone you meet stranger or not it doesn't belong on FB.

Nvywife · July 2014

Oh and congrats on the house very exciting!

mahalo3 · July 2014

We have told our families and close friends. Basically everyone we care to tell. I don't really want to post anything on FB until maybe the baby is born. We have sworn the family to FB secrecy, as there are still a few people we want to tell in person, and I don't want them to find out because my grandma's friend in Hawaii decided to post something on my wall. I just assume people will find out as they find out otherwise.

autumnshuffle · July 2014

Sure will after I personally inform my family and close friends. Since I've lived abroad and coast to coast, and love how I use my timeline as a way to look back in time, will definitely share the news and enjoy it again in the years to come. :0)

JsRib · July 2014

I was all about posting an announcement on FB for #2 because I loved doing it or #1. However, after 3 loses I'm not announcing jack on FB.

agm04 · July 2014

I don't really care one way or another. My mom is a FB over user so I know she will want to announce it once we give the ok (if we do). Maybe I'll just let her.

My BFF is in the middle of a 2nd attempt at IVF right now. If it doesn't work out for them, I think I will ask that it not be announced. I just can't bear that thought of hurting her. (Not saying I won't tell her, just that I won't plaster it all over FB.)

kefttsc · July 2014

I'm excited to share on FB. I will see a LOT of my out of town friends (at a national championship dog competition) during my 13th week so they will all be wise to my belly at that point. I'm announcing it just before we leave for that trip. That is just over two weeks from now. SHEESH!!!!!

junebugjam · July 2014

After announcing with my first and then having the worst happen, I'm not really eager to share on FB this time. If we do at all, it won't be until much, much later.

MissEm15 · July 2014

I will probably wait until I know the sexes to announce.. I might feel safe w/ the pregnancy by then.

Bensmom13 · July 2014

I don't announce on fb at all. Last time I put up a pic of DS and DH in the hospital when he's born. That's enough for me! Everyone I care about knowing I call and tell. Although I'm a bridesmaid in sept so I'm sure pics will make it to Facebook then!

mamabisme · July 2014

I am not planning an official Facebook announcement. We will tell our family and friends in person as we see them (or by phone if out of town) beginning in second tri. The way I see it, if I don't speak to or see someone even once in 6+ months, they probably don't know me well enough to care. Personally, I don't have a problem with people that announce on fb, it's just not my style. I do find it rather odd when people post the gory details or update about the state of their cervix during labor.

JNettie73 · July 2014

I am torn on what to do. I have an extremely large extended family and would like to post so they can stay in the loop with what is going on. Plus I have some friends from HS and college who I don't speak to regularly but would like them to know as well. But I do have a ex-friend from HS who stalks me through mutual acquaintances even though we have not spoken in over 3 years. The day after I found out I was pregnant she sent me a message through FB (I have her blocked from emailing, texting or calling me, Apparently I forgot to block her via FB) asking me if I was pregnant because a mutual friend saw me and said I was. I really don't appreciate her trying to be all up in my business considering we are not friends. If I do post I may just have it set so only people I choose, family and close friends, are the only ones who can view my information.

cinderella4282 · July 2014

our family is very spread out, so I will probably announce around 20 months or so........but by then all the close family will have been told by me and DH directly.

It's not weird to leave it off though....

Frugal11 · July 2014

Hubby has asked one thing: no facebook announcement! I am also one of those silent stalkers, but don't post much lol

Nlavender13 · July 2014

We have been very open about our IF journey over the last 4years on FB. I have always felt the need to make sure any of my friends going through it knew they were not alone and had someone to talk to. So we will let everyone know after the 12th week. I have many friends going through the same things we did and 3 in the last few weeks with a mc. I have told all of them in person already and not a single one was not thrilled for us. I will not be posting baby bump and content pregnancy complaints knowing first had how hard it is to see that all the time. I will however post something to let everyone know we are finally pregnant. It was always encouraging to see success stories from friends going through IF. I also have family and friends spread throughout the world that would like to hear the news:)

kittyj25 · July 2014

I did - my fb is only family and close friends.

ConstanceGoodspeed · July 2014

I didn't announce on fb, just shared a pic when he was born. I'm doing the same thing this time.

SC1977 · July 2014

I'm not announcing on FB this time. Instead I'll post a picture of the baby after he or she is born. For some reason, I'm super paranoid this time around and would rather wait until I have a baby in my arms. Plus I'm not super active on FB and I'd feel like a big AW coming out with a random pregnancy announcement.

Biscotto · July 2014

I'll annouce on FB, but I'm not sure when. SO and I live far away from everyone we know, so it's not like we'll be seeing anyone in person to tell them.

HeyStVincent · July 2014

I'm not doing an FB announcement. I'm also not doing any bump-centric pictures. I figure eventually a picture of me looking pregnant will wind up on FB and people will put two and two together. At least *I hope* eventually a picture of me looking pregnant will wind up on FB. Still praying that this little amoeba sticks.

ksgsmu · July 2014

Nope no Facebook! After years of infertility and loss I don't feel comfortable doing it. I have many friends struggling and also want to be careful of their feelings. After the babies are born ill post an announcement - maybe! I locked down my wall so no one could post on it.

CatLadyTX · July 2014

We announced for our first, and will again this time. I do have lots of friends who haven't said anything on FB until after the birth.

freegiraffe · July 2014

I haven't decided if I'd like to do a FB announcement yet. Maybe after the AS, or maybe nothing until the baby is born.

biaher16 · July 2014

I won't announce on fb or anything I'm not sure if ill really post anything about it till the baby is born and a bit older I'm very private but I honestly can't wait to show off my cutie pie but when I'm ready .also can't wait to take professional pictures with the whole family including my stepkids♡♥ill show those off as well burt in due time.

smcniff · July 2014

flutterfly88 said:
I haven't decided yet if I will announce on FB or not. After my miscarriage, it was REALLY painful to see other people post their pregnancy announcements. So I don't want to do that to someone else how may be in the same situation as what I went through. Although it would be fun to do some sort of announcement so I don't know.

This. However, I was always ultimately glad that they posted. I personally haven't decided yet if I am going to post.

fancefpp · July 2014

I didn't announce with 1 or 2 so I'm not announcing with 3 either

Allie429 · July 2014

I think we are waiting until we find out if it is a boy or girl first.

nrejanes · July 2014

We have been quietly sharing with family and friends in person and assume the word is spreading. I don't like the idea of posting an announcement on FB for a number of reasons. I have less than 200 people on my friends list (friends and family) so if someone posts on my wall, I don't really mind. Most people just call or text us to congratulate us though.

I'm not judgmental, so I really do feel that people are entitled to announce their happiness however they wish!

LilTiger15 · July 2014

I love Facebook, I have family and friends all over the country and world actually, so it has been an amazing way to keep in touch with so many people. I shared on FB a couple days ago and it was so encouraging to read all the wonderful thoughts from people--helped me get through another day of bad nausea. My SIL never shared anything about her pregnancy on FB and I personally thought that was weird, I thought it came across as if she wasn't excited about her pregnancy, but that might just be me since I use FB so frequently.

SNail312` · July 2014

One of the reasons my mother and I aren't on good terms right now is that minutes after I told her she posted three separate times in Facebook without my permission!!!! I'm not anywhere near the safe zone and it doesn't need to go anywhere near Facebook anytime soon! She's got an unhealthy attachment to that website anyway. Ugh!! Rant over- no, the pregnancy probably won't go on there until at least the third trimester.