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November 2014 Moms
Monday Bitchfest
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Re: Monday Bitchfest
Hahaha! Basically just a continuation of their lack of respect/ acknowledgment of personal privacy/ recognizing social boundaries. They feel that they have the right to share anything and everything about us on FB - including pictures.
We have explicitly asked them not to post certain pictures on multiple occasions, but they do anyway because they took the picture or have otherwise been provided copies so believe they can do with them what they want.
We explicitly asked them not to mass-blast a pregnancy announcement. They acted appalled that we would think they would even consider such a thing, yet we began simultaneously receiving congratulatory text msgs and emails from extended family, old high school buddies, previous coworkers, etc. within an hour.
MIL was upset once that she couldn't check in any closer than a restaurant about a mile away and didn't understand why we didn't want our house tacked on their map (gee, maybe because you also post when we're out of town, for starters??? ...with loads of aforementioned pictures of our home).
You know, same ol' shit :P
We're going to be telling the gmas not to share pics but I will tag them in pics of the baby. MIL asked me to share a pic of my bump and I told her no. Felt weird to have my belly pic on her wall. It's my body, man!
We're going to be telling the gmas not to share pics but I will tag them in pics of the baby. MIL asked me to share a pic of my bump and I told her no. Felt weird to have my belly pic on her wall. It's my body, man!
------Oh mother quote fail-------
No doubt! ... but she's oblivious!
She mentioned to one of her friends that she saw on FB that she had moved to another city. Her friend told her (at a cookout, which is how I became privy to this information) that she hasn't really relocated, then went into this horrifying story of how she had recently been stalked. She was receiving harassing phone calls from a man that would describe her house, activities around it (like which day she cleaned the pool, mowed the grass, etc.), where she went on any given day, how long she stayed there, what clothes she had been wearing. Crazy scary shit! After she went on and on about it, she confessed that her posting that she moved to another city was just icing on her bluff to get the guy to back off (the cops couldn't/ wouldn't do anything about it because she hadn't been harmed and couldn't identify the man with any certainty)...
My MIL's response to her friend?
"Oh, I thought you moved."
Yep. O-fucking-blivious!
N14 Nov. Siggy: CELEBRATION!
N14 Nov. Siggy: CELEBRATION!
I don't know! So annoying. The worst part is that I had the bigger job of cleaning the rooms out, sorting and organizing all the crap etc. and I got that done no problem. He's not usually like this or maybe he's just been lucky and his last minute attempts have always worked. Maybe he'll learn....oh except he's a man and he won't.
My MIL's defense is that she only has about 7 Facebook friends, so what's the problem? She has no idea of the reach that her posts could potentially make.
I went to L&D over the weekend and didn't really get any answers. Hoping to see midwife this week, otherwise have an appt for next week on 7/22. They don't seem to have any answers. I'm just waiting for PTL after all my research... We shall see!!
Gah.... You are such a nice person....or maybe i'm that big of a B .. Cuz I would be calling them with each big incident .. Especially this new larger clot you experienced .... That can't be "normal" for them--- they need to be doing a level two or more in depth u/s to see where the bleeding is coming from. If your body is forming that big of a clot it means there's a lot of blood coming out of someplace... An if that big of a clot is coming out it means your cervix is quite open... Both two scary situations. Please start harassing them to take this situation more seriously.
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Thanks for your advice. I agree. I called this morning and got my next appt moved up to Thursday this week. I also spoke with a girlfriend who's mother - in-law works at the perinatology dept where my chart was sent for "review". She is going to try to help get me in for a scan ASAP. I've called the advice nurses/midwife probably every week in the last few weeks. Seems like each time after I talk with them, something bigger and worse (or so it feels) happens. It seems like each day is progressing downhill, so it's hard to sit still and be OK with it. They don't seem to care until I'm bleeding to death, literally, is what I'm gathering. If baby is still there, they're fine with this all. Been really paranoid now of every potential bad outcome- finally pimping out/decorating my self-prescribed bed rest area with happy things to try to stay positive and reduce stress!
I truly appreciate you guys inquiring about things and pushing me to be more proactive and assertive. I almost deleted my bump app the other day because I just end up googling things all day and feel petrified. But when I saw another gal share her story of painful contractions and shared my most recent experience, you all jumped up to say I should be seen. That refreshed my motivation to keep on it until I get more answers, as I was starting to feel helpless. So thank you!
Exactly. I showed MIL once how friend-of-a-friend works. Three clicks -three!- and I was on the page of the person with whom I had a civil case pending litigation. I had absolutely NO connection with this person until she damaged my house. MIL STILL refuses to respect my don't post my name request. Throat. Punch.
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Thanks for your advice. I agree. I called this morning and got my next appt moved up to Thursday this week. I also spoke with a girlfriend who's mother - in-law works at the perinatology dept where my chart was sent for "review". She is going to try to help get me in for a scan ASAP. I've called the advice nurses/midwife probably every week in the last few weeks. Seems like each time after I talk with them, something bigger and worse (or so it feels) happens. It seems like each day is progressing downhill, so it's hard to sit still and be OK with it. They don't seem to care until I'm bleeding to death, literally, is what I'm gathering. If baby is still there, they're fine with this all. Been really paranoid now of every potential bad outcome- finally pimping out/decorating my self-prescribed bed rest area with happy things to try to stay positive and reduce stress!
I truly appreciate you guys inquiring about things and pushing me to be more proactive and assertive. I almost deleted my bump app the other day because I just end up googling things all day and feel petrified. But when I saw another gal share her story of painful contractions and shared my most recent experience, you all jumped up to say I should be seen. That refreshed my motivation to keep on it until I get more answers, as I was starting to feel helpless. So thank you!
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I'm glad you called and that your friends MIL is gonna help out. I'm baffled that your doctors/nurses are so lax about this. My doctor freaks out about spotting.. I imagine if I ever pass a clot I'll be forced to move my bed rest to a nice and cozy hospital room where she can be within walking distance of my uterus. lol. I learned after a pass loss (where I was super(aka naive) passive & had a even more passive doctor) that my pregnancy success was up to me. So I started calling and being assumptive in my calls to them. Ex. Instead of "I'm bleeding, what should I do?" I started saying, "I'm bleeding and need to come in for a scan to see where it's coming from." --- it was awkward at first to change my ways and feel like I'm being bossy but I still blame myself for not being more like that with my first pregnancy(loss) so this time I promised that I would be that crazy psycho Prego-zilla if it meant possibly preventing a mother loss. So far I haven't had to be too forward with the nurses. Being kind, yet assumptive/firm has worked well and above all has put my mind at ease in knowing I've done as much as I could. No matter how often you've called them I assure you they've dealt with much worse... And calling in cuz you're bleeding/passing clots is a BIG DEAL. Eventually they'll learn to take you seriously and get you off your back the first time you call in, so you don't have to keep calling
ETA: I'm glad you didn't delete your account -- google has nothing on the advice and support of the ladies here.
PS- I'm sorry about your loss. It sounds like you've really grown and learned a lot- something I really admire in people! You motivate me!
That's why I didn't say anything
I know there are mixed emotions on this but I posted last week that my dad had booked a date (plays music) out of state on my due date AND the weekends before and after.
We're having a co-ed shower and they've (dad & new wife/band mate) asked several times what the date is going to be and said they'd be sure to write it down. Today they sent me an invitation online to come hear them play on the day of my shower.
WTF?! X(
No, you're not touchy and hormonal, that's rude. I still participated in my boxing fitness class until a few weeks ago (there's no a/c and it got HOT) and a few people looked at me funny while I was skipping or doing ab work. Fuck 'em. Good for you for continuing teaching. Don't let the bitches get you down
Wicked22 Have you found that RLP is, like, 50 times worse the further you go?! lol
Maybe it's just me...I used to be able to stand up and move my legs without such intense cramping/stretching pain! I didn't notice it too much early on but now I'm a little over 23 weeks, I can't feel any kicks at all and I feel crippled.
Lovely.
@-) oh no. That has to be hard to 1)deal with & 2)see unexpectedly while scrolling though your feed. I'm sorry
It's nice to know that your loved one is being thought of but I still always find it weird when random people go on my cousins wall (who passed away 2 years ago) & post thoughts/questions to them
Being forced to listen to a "higher up" on personal calls ALL. DAY. LONG. Especially the ones involving nepotism and her spoiled brat adult children. Plus when she's not on personal calls she is on HR calls quoting names, salaries, firings, lay-offs and budget numbers which no one in my department has any business listening to. This chick should have an office...not a cube.
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YES I've put on fifteen pounds, YES I've been eating more, you knocked me up for fucks sake, but my doctor said my weight is FINE!
He was all I'm sorry, he just doesn't want me to gain to much weight since I worked so hard to lose weight two years ago (I went from size 18 to size 8), he didn't mean it the way it came out. He handed me the Doritos I threw them at him. I wanted to punch him in the balls.
I ate all the Doritos when I got home today in a revenge binge. If he wants to keep his manhood he better not say a word when he gets home.
-my mother is driving me nuts over this shower menu. She keeps changing her mind and I wish she would just make a decision
-I'm mad at myself because I'm having a hard time with the weight gain, yet I have no self control over my sweet tooth. I wish I had better control but I just don't.
-I got back my student evaluations and although they were overall pretty good, one student from the spring made mean comments and I'm letting it get to me and ruin my day.
I also need thicker skin
My friend who has never had kids, commented that I was the same size as this girl that was about to pop. I told her no way was I as big as her, she said I was "pretty big". Really hurt my feelings, and when I told her she should never comment on a pregnant lady's size, she didn't seem to understand how fucking rude she was being.
I felt cute that day, too.