Pregnant insecurities

kristinamae1230 · July 2014

So just wondering if anyone else struggles with being overweight and pregnancy? So I weigh 213 pounds and I worry about not showing during my pregnancy but rand just getting fat look fat. Does anyone else struggle with this or is it just me???

apsta · July 2014

I'm definitely insecure. I'm 170 lbs and just am generally "soft." It's just not a glamorous 9 months for us curvy girls, you know? But worth it in the end. Months 1-4 are the worst. Around month 5, you can start to play up the bump as a "hey, people, not fat, pregnant!" message. You'll make it look great!

mamajack86 · July 2014

I weighed in at 216 when I had my son. I'm 5'5 so I was feeling awful. I dropped down to 160 which I feel totally comfortable right now, but here we go again... Just hope to stay under 200 this time around.

nina&bill · July 2014

I have huge weight issues. My friend recommended the book "Does this pregnancy make me look fat?" By Claire Mysoko and Magali Amadei they give really sound advice for how to deal with weight issues. If the number is what is your trigger (it's mine) they suggest you ask your doctor to not tell you the number but to just tell you if you are healthy. If they won't, they suggest you find one who will! It had sound advice for you as they are not doctors and not giving you medical advice but to feel comfortable to share your concerns with a doctor who will listen and not put you down for your insecurities. I'm only 4 weeks (BFP on Friday... Didn't post on ttgp) but I didn't make it to my goal weight. I'm over 200lbs too! I am afraid I won't have a cute belly that will scream " She's pregnant!"

Kaylalaa · July 2014

I'm 5' 7" and 170lbs. I carry all my extra "padding" in my middle. It's been an on and off struggle since I can remember and I just keep reminding myself every woman looks different and all I can do now is keep myself and baby as healthy as possible. I had some friends who were pregnant at the same time as my loss and one in particular was so upset that she was gaining weight even if it was just baby weight (she really did not look big just the belly like it should). But she kept complaining about it and I just listened. I was crying inside because I would had given anything to have just kept my baby instead I got to listen to her complain about a few extra she gained.

CoozieInMyPurse · July 2014

I feel you. I started this pregnancy at 234, which is nearly 20 pounds over my normal (which is still a bit chubby). I'm six feet, but definitely soft in the middle. I lost about 60 lbs a few years ago and kept all of it off until earlier this year. With pregnancy, I'm less worried about not showing and more worried about gaining a ton and not being able to lose it. I have weighed more than my husband since the day I met him. I'd prefer that difference to be 15 lbs and not 50 lbs, though.

fi46re129 · July 2014

I'm overweight and stressing about this as well. I gained way too much weight with DS and delivered at 270 yikes! This time I'm just trying to focus on eating well and less on the number. Hoping to gain 15 lbs max as that's what is encouraged for my bmi. Of course H family is known for very large babies (10#+).

antsangel1118 · July 2014

I'm not terribly worried. I am 8 pounds more than when I started with DD. I was 199 when I got pregnant with her, and 207 now. I definitely had a baby bump. My recommended weight gain is 11-20lbs this time, and having only gained 4lbs with DD, I am hopeful to stick around there. My bump showed up around 13 weeks, but you could really tell is was baby and not fat probably around 17 weeks. I did get some comments for a while after that that I barely looked pregnant, but I definitely felt like it looked more like baby bump than fat from then on. And by the time I had her, I definitely looked pregnant and not fat. Here are my 17w and 39w bump shots.

ETA: If my numbers confuse you, I left the hospital 17lbs lighter than when I got pregnant with her. 6lb baby, and 9lbs of other stuff down. So in the past 19 months I have gained 25lbs. :-( PSA: to lose the baby weight/get back in shape, sitting on the sofa, breastfeeding baby, and eating chocolate doesn't help. I guess I should have gotten much more active. lol

ngolimento · July 2014

Oh yeah. I'm almost 6ft, and really heavily muscled under a layer of chub (I do yoga and running). I've always struggled with weight (even was anorexic a while), since I can never be willowy and petite. I could beat the crap out of your average dude, but generally speaking society doesn't value that in a woman.

I am going to look like a pregnant tank. But I guess at least strangers will be less likely to touch me.

Kaylalaa · July 2014

Peledreamsofrain said:

But I guess at least strangers will be less likely to touch me.

I don't understand why people want to touch your belly when they don't know you. If they ask and you say yes and don't care then that fine but unless I know you and really like you, you will not be touching me or my belly. You can wait till my baby is born to touch them even then I may say no. Stranger danger was out into my head as a kid for a reason.

pennypretty · July 2014

DH and I dieted for a good 6-8 months last year, he of course dropped way more weight than I did because men suck, but we were both down a good 20+. I'm kind of back where I started now but I'm just trying not to eat everything in sight and get a good easy work-out routine in the works so even if I gain at least I'm strong enough to carry it all. I've always been a little overweight, I constantly have doctors tell me I'm healthy as a horse just a little heavy. It's just the way my body is and it's taken me YEARS to accept that. However, because I've always been big, I carry it well...here's to hoping I can carry baby weight just as well...

Peledreamsofrain I love your use of words right there. I'm also hoping to be able to scare people off from touching my bump...though I'm worried I'm going to look like a house.

zagagirl04 · July 2014

Oh yeah. When I had my first I was at 215 when I gave birth (5'5) it took me three years to get back down to 150 and now I'm already trying to plan how to not duplicate last time's weight gain...

KGR3917 · July 2014

You are not alone! I was 5'7 205 when I got prego with with my daughter. Delivered at 245, left the hospital at 240 (explain that?!?) I am now 200 and I wanted to be way less when I got prego again but the truth is I'm going to be smarter this time around. I'm going to eat healthy and exercise regularly which I did not do round one. But honestly I have had weight issues my whole life and I don't think I have ever felt more beautiful than when I was pregnant. For once in my life I was prou of my belly and I didn't have to suck it in! In looking forward to that feeling again and plan on having some killer arm muscles by the time I deliver!

lisap0924 · July 2014

I have struggled with my weight my whole life. I am currently a chunky 175lbs at 5"5"
I am concerned about the scale, but as long as I have a healthy baby I will be ok and can loose the extra weight

BostonAlison · July 2014

I'm uhh... plusser plus sized then the rest of you? :P lol

I'm actually down 10lbs (without trying) in the last month or so. But I am definitely just a plus sized girl, I can't hide it or deny it. My cholesterol, sugars, BP, etc have always been perfect. I'm a healthy fat chick.

It is what it is.

ngg1240 · July 2014

@Peledreamsofrain‌ This sounds exactly like me. I once had a guy tell me they thought I looked dainty until they saw me stand up and I was as tall as them. (5 ft 11)

ngolimento · July 2014

StellaMakes3 said:

Peledreamsofrain said:

Oh yeah. I'm almost 6ft, and really heavily muscled under a layer of chub (I do yoga and running). I've always struggled with weight (even was anorexic a while), since I can never be willowy and petite. I could beat the crap out of your average dude, but generally speaking society doesn't value that in a woman.

I am going to look like a pregnant tank. But I guess at least strangers will be less likely to touch me.

They suck, I think it's fantastic, just in case. Can you sit by me at lunch? Kthx

Haha sure! Hilariously enough, I was super popular to sit by at lunch by the school nerds. The entire football team was terrified of me, especially once I started weight lifting (I got to 300lb+ on the squat lift). I've sadly never lost th muscle mass from that completely so I usually weigh 230+lbs, even when not obese.

kelseypie · July 2014

Big girl over here, my last pregnancy (DS is 13 months) started with me being at my heaviest at the time, 160 at 5'4. Haha, I'd love to be that again! I gained about 30 lbs and mostly (at least looked like) all belly. I lost all the weight in about 4 weeks, then went on meds for ppd and gained 20 lbs in a month

. Went off the meds, but despite my efforts haven't budged the weight down much. I'm going to have to be very careful this time around.

Ladylec · July 2014

I weighed 211 the day I found out I was pregnant with my son. It took awhile (19w) before I had a bump and not just a gut. I basically said Eff it to everyone though and just rocked my gut as a bump with pride. Try not to worry about the bump, the important thing is how baby is growing, not you

FrecklesInside · July 2014

I'm overweight and was worried about showing last time, but I definitely did. It took longer for it to be noticeable, and it was more noticeable to K and family/close friends than to strangers, but I definitely looked pregnant by and during 3rd tri. K could also feel E from the outside, and of course I felt her a ton on the inside. You can have a normal and healthy pregnancy while overweight. I never have felt more beautiful than I did when pregnant.

Whitfry · July 2014

I am also a healthy fat chick. I've experienced a lot of prejudice from care providers in the past, including being mis-diagnosed and treated for PCOS based solely on my weight and a (common) symptom of my BC. (They never did any testing. They said you're fat and not having regular periods. You definitely have PCOS.) I get sick of people being So Shocked that I am not diabetic.

So for my first pregnancy I am determined to continue eating healthy, cut out all sugar and caffeine, and I have DENIED myself the permission to say anything negative about my appearance.

My body will take care of this baby if I can get out of its way and maintain a healthy lifestyle. I've lost about five pounds since finding out, which has been pretty great. Probably because my water intake has increased so much, lol!

jjgrl55 · July 2014

My biggest issue is food guilt. I was actively working on losing weight prior to my BFP. And now that I am having terrible all-day nausea, it's been really hard to eat healthy. All I can seem to handle is carbs. But my brain hasn't left the "lose weight" mindset, so I feel like shit eating all of the crappy food I eat.

2Swanns · July 2014

@jjgrl55 - I feel the same way.

My husband is a bit of a health nut (pro-paleo) and I usually tried to take his lead because I was actively trying to lose weight. Now that I'm pregnant, I can't imagine choking down meat and vegetables at every meal. Not much seems appealing to me, until it does and then it's on a whim. I've been craving carbs. I have guilt and I am also terrified of how big I am going to get which is not a good way to look at it. I need to learn to ease up on myself a bit but still hold myself accountable for making the right choices when I can and feel well enough to do so.

kls12301 · July 2014

I am 5'7 and 204lbs. This is my 1st pregnancy and I also worry about not having a nice round bump and just looking fatter. It's good to know other people with similar body size have gone on to still 'look pregnant'

okayestmom12 · July 2014

I am a plus sized momma. I was very concerned with not looking pregnant and just extra thick last time around. But by 20 weeks, with the right clothing, and embracing my bump, I absolutely looked pregnant and not like I ate too many Chipotle burritos

Don't be afraid to wear snug fitting shirts that really show off your bump. Full panel maternity pants will be your friend.

I was able to maintain a healthy pregnancy - I gained only 9 lbs the entire pregnancy with DD and she was 9 lbs 5 oz at birth. I had zero complications - no GD, no high BP. I was conscious of my eating habits and din't use pregnancy as an excuse to go overboard - I knew going in that whatever weight I gained, I'd need to loose. It can be done.

ker180 · July 2014

You are definitely not alone. When I went off BC I gained a good 20 lbs. I tried to lose the weight but it just didn't come off. Since getting pregnant, I stopped trying because I didn't think that would be healthy. The bad part is I am craving a lot of comfort foods right now; mashed potatoes, mac and cheese. I'm a school teacher so when I go back to work I hope that being on such a strict schedule will help me from gaining a lot of weight. I carry all of my weight in my ass and thighs. I worry about finding maternity clothes that fit me. I hope I can stay in the recommended 15 lbs. This is the heaviest I have ever been.

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