Great idea if you're hosting a shower

saraeric · July 2014

I had a beautiful baby shower today hosted by my aunt. Part of her gift was a set of Thank You notes that matched the invitations and a list of all the addresses for everyone who was invited. I thought that was a genius idea and such an easy thing to do as a hostess. I will definitely be doing that for all the showers I host in the future. It is making writing thank you cards so much easier and a lot less work for me since I don't have to hunt down addresses. Could easily do for baby or bridal showers. Just thought I'd share!

JenniferAnn1972 · July 2014

At my shower today, the envelopes for my thank yous were passed out. Everyone was asked to write their name & address on it & then they were collected for a raffle with several nice prizes. All of my thank yous are addressed!

mana8503 · July 2014

dearfoam said:
i put my whole invitation list in an excel file so i wouldn't need to hunt!

Me too. I have an excel sheet for Christmas cards so I just c&p addresses to a separate one for the shower.

saraeric · July 2014

We've never sent out xmas cards (though we will now that we're having a LO) and I think my excel sheet from my wedding is pretty outdated (5 yrs ago). Since all of my showers are just "family" showers, the hostesses already had all the addresses so it was just a nice addition. I thought it was really thoughtful of her and it had never crossed my mind before of how helpful that would be for the guest of honor.

saraeric · July 2014

@knovitski I had to take a break writing my notes too, and shake my hand out a few times!

conradraging · July 2014

I like the idea of the list of addresses coming from the host to make it easier for you to write them, but it's generally not considered proper etiquette to have guests address their own envelopes. I don't know how strongly I feel about that but I know the baby shower board has some very strong opinions against it.

andthatmakes4 · July 2014

Conradgallagher said:
I like the idea of the list of addresses coming from the host to make it easier for you to write them, but it's generally not considered proper etiquette to have guests address their own envelopes. I don't know how strongly I feel about that but I know the baby shower board has some very strong opinions against it.

I've heard this also. However, my hostesses for my showers passed out envelopes for me and I loved it!! I'm not offended by it all when I'm asked to address my envelope at a shower.

conradraging · July 2014

lmlorenz12 said:

Conradgallagher said:
I like the idea of the list of addresses coming from the host to make it easier for you to write them, but it's generally not considered proper etiquette to have guests address their own envelopes. I don't know how strongly I feel about that but I know the baby shower board has some very strong opinions against it.
I've heard this also. However, my hostesses for my showers passed out envelopes for me and I loved it!! I'm not offended by it all when I'm asked to address my envelope at a shower.

I personally wouldn't be offended either, but I'm sure there's someone out there who would.

conradraging · July 2014

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12345233/tacky-having-guests-address-their-own-ty-notes

The recent discussion on having guests address the envelopes. Like I said, I'm not the etiquette police and I would happily address the envelope, but here's the thread for reference.

mrsdanielleM2010 · July 2014

When I host a shower, I make two sets of address labels - one for invites and one for thank yous. I used to do the hand out thank you envelopes for people to address thing, and it was fine, but better safe than sorry if someone's grandma is potentially going to think the bride to be or mom to be is tacky as a result of my actions.
Like @Conradgallagher‌ I have no problem filling out the envelope, but other people do, so be forewarned and/or know your audience.

kmbk27 · July 2014

Conradgallagher said:
I like the idea of the list of addresses coming from the host to make it easier for you to write them, but it's generally not considered proper etiquette to have guests address their own envelopes. I don't know how strongly I feel about that but I know the baby shower board has some very strong opinions against it.

I don't have a problem doing it as a guest, but when the girls asked if there was anything specific I did or didn't want for the shower all I asked for was a master list of addresses and to address the thank yous myself. It was partially for etiquette reasons and partially because I like addressing envelopes.

Edited because words are hard.

Bonnesetter27 · July 2014

I was just at a wedding shower where we had to address our own envelopes. I personally don't mind but I was at a table of aunts of the bride and they were B&M about how kids these days don't want to take the time for a thank you note yada yada. I addressed most of the envelopes before my shower so all I had to do was the thank yous.

LTMama · July 2014

mrsdanielleM2010 said:

When I host a shower, I make two sets of address labels - one for invites and one for thank yous. I used to do the hand out thank you envelopes for people to address thing, and it was fine, but better safe than sorry if someone's grandma is potentially going to think the bride to be or mom to be is tacky as a result of my actions. Like @Conradgallagher‌ I have no problem filling out the envelope, but other people do, so be forewarned and/or know your audience.

Love this idea!

Agreed, I don't mind addressing my own envelope, but when I get thank-yous from showers, I really appreciate thoughtful ones. Hand-addressed by the honoree, and with more than a sentence or two on the card. I always make it a point to spend a few minutes on a thank-you note to make it count, so I appreciate when others do as well. I mean, these days any thank-you note is nice, but the ones that obviously took a few minutes really stand out.

tatorhead328 · July 2014

LTMama said:

mrsdanielleM2010 said:

When I host a shower, I make two sets of address labels - one for invites and one for thank yous. I used to do the hand out thank you envelopes for people to address thing, and it was fine, but better safe than sorry if someone's grandma is potentially going to think the bride to be or mom to be is tacky as a result of my actions. Like @Conradgallagher‌ I have no problem filling out the envelope, but other people do, so be forewarned and/or know your audience.

Love this idea!

Agreed, I don't mind addressing my own envelope, but when I get thank-yous from showers, I really appreciate thoughtful ones. Hand-addressed by the honoree, and with more than a sentence or two on the card. I always make it a point to spend a few minutes on a thank-you note to make it count, so I appreciate when others do as well. I mean, these days any thank-you note is nice, but the ones that obviously took a few minutes really stand out.

I always write seriously long thank you notes. I fill up the entire blank inside of the card usually, and I always try to find different things to say in each one. I know people aren't reading each other's so they don't know if I'm repeating myself, but it makes me feel better!

Bella2425 · July 2014

Conradgallagher said:

I like the idea of the list of addresses coming from the host to make it easier for you to write them, but it's generally not considered proper etiquette to have guests address their own envelopes. I don't know how strongly I feel about that but I know the baby shower board has some very strong opinions against it.

I think having guests address their own envelopes is SUPER tacky. I get mildly offended every time I have to do it. It just reads as super lazy and unappreciative to me. All for giving the honoree a list of addresses though.

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