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Re: Secret pregnancy?

  • apstaapsta member

    Ladies, if you don't have anything nice to say... just don't make someone feel stupid. We're here to support one another, not mock.

    OP-- I found out very early (3 weeks), but I didn't tell my husband for a few weeks (I told him at 6 weeks) because I wanted to make sure it wasn't just a chemical pregnancy. I'm a "sciency" type person. It made sense. He worries a LOT, much more than I do, and I wanted to make sure that an embryo actually implanted before giving him something to worry about. I don't think it's being dishonest.

    Now, all that being said, if the home tests say negative, I wouldn't mention anything until you have a positive test, or go to your doctor and receive a positive test. You're right, false negatives are fairly common, especially if you aren't certain when you ovulated.So, go see you doctor!

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    I'm with @meladoriestar.  My husband is my rock.  When I'm uncertain about something, he's the first person to know, the first person to hold my hand if I need to cry, and to celebrate with me when things go right.  If there was something going on with him, I'd be hurt if he waited until he was certain about it to tell me and not let me be there for him as well.
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  • lalaroller08lalaroller08 member
    I would want my husband by my side if, heaven forbid, anything were to happen to this pregnancy. He knows everything about me and vise versa, and that's what keeps us going strong.
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  • LesleyNotLeslieLesleyNotLeslie member
    Isn't it a little early on in this board for the crazy? But not gonna lie, this gives me lots of good reading to keep up with... =D>
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  • apstaapsta member
    Beaujolais11 said:
    A CP can be a very emotional and devastating time. I find the wording, "just a chemical pregnancy" extremely insensitive, not sciency.
    I'm sorry, I see now how that could be insensitive and I certainly didn't mean it to be insensitive at all. I was just trying to be short and succint and supportive. To all who noted that I "don't know shit" about pregnancy tests and whatnot, you're correct, I'm not a doctor.
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  • laueradlauerad member
    I'm keeping it a secret except h. I'm only 3 weeks. We had a miscarriage in February and another in June. I'm nervous but we are going to a fertility specialist.
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  • BiscottoBiscotto member
    I miss all this drama.
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  • copperrosecopperrose member
    I don't know-I mean I wouldn't keep it from my husband but I guess if he is truly an over worrier it may be just easier to not tell for a week or so. My husband was mad I tested without him so that wouldn't work for us but who knows what goes on in their marriage? Maybe it works for them.

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  • janda426janda426 member
    Some people really need to just shut their fucking laptop and walk away.

    Side effect of anyone and everyone having access to the internet I guess.
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  • Sweetpea160315Sweetpea160315 member
    I would tell your SO for sure. My SO was in the bathroom with me when I peed on the stick! I couldn't imagine keeping it from him even for a second! Plus it's someone to discuss things with and if your worried about anything someone to share it with xx
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  • Sweetpea160315Sweetpea160315 member
    Hey @
    jemiiano said:

    Good lord, I wasn't expecting this type of attitude.
    I have no idea what Facebook group is being referenced.
    But, I guess I'll play the waiting game and stay off this blog.
    It really does feel like a group of bullies. Good bye.

    jemiiano said:

    Good lord, I wasn't expecting this type of attitude.
    I have no idea what Facebook group is being referenced.
    But, I guess I'll play the waiting game and stay off this blog.
    It really does feel like a group of bullies. Good bye.

    Hey Hun I'm
    From England and am
    Shocked to the core at some of the women's attitudes on here, we have msg boards similar in England by they would not get away with speaking to ppl like some women do on here! however there are also lots of amazing ladies who have offered me great advice xxx

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  • Sweetpea160315Sweetpea160315 member
    janda426 said:

    Sweetpea160315 said:

    Hey @

    jemiiano said:

    Good lord, I wasn't expecting this type of attitude.
    I have no idea what Facebook group is being referenced.
    But, I guess I'll play the waiting game and stay off this blog.
    It really does feel like a group of bullies. Good bye.

    jemiiano said:

    Good lord, I wasn't expecting this type of attitude.
    I have no idea what Facebook group is being referenced.
    But, I guess I'll play the waiting game and stay off this blog.
    It really does feel like a group of bullies. Good bye.

    Hey Hun I'm
    From England and am
    Shocked to the core at some of the women's attitudes on here, we have msg boards similar in England by they would not get away with speaking to ppl like some women do on here! however there are also lots of amazing ladies who have offered me great advice xxx

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    So stay on those boards if they're so much better. God damn.

    Also this "shocks you to the core"? You must live a very sheltered life.
    I will take your advice thanks ladies and stay on the lovely boards :) full of lovely positive ppl :) and as for your second nasty comment I'm not biting ;););):)
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  • janda426janda426 member
    Sweetpea160315 said:

    janda426 said:

    Sweetpea160315 said:

    Hey @

    jemiiano said:

    Good lord, I wasn't expecting this type of attitude.
    I have no idea what Facebook group is being referenced.
    But, I guess I'll play the waiting game and stay off this blog.
    It really does feel like a group of bullies. Good bye.

    jemiiano said:

    Good lord, I wasn't expecting this type of attitude.
    I have no idea what Facebook group is being referenced.
    But, I guess I'll play the waiting game and stay off this blog.
    It really does feel like a group of bullies. Good bye.

    Hey Hun I'm
    From England and am
    Shocked to the core at some of the women's attitudes on here, we have msg boards similar in England by they would not get away with speaking to ppl like some women do on here! however there are also lots of amazing ladies who have offered me great advice xxx

    ---end quote---

    So stay on those boards if they're so much better. God damn.

    Also this "shocks you to the core"? You must live a very sheltered life.
    I will take your advice thanks ladies and stay on the lovely boards :) full of lovely positive ppl :) and as for your second nasty comment I'm not biting ;););):)
    ---end quote---

    I'm sure it's just lovely over there :):):):):);););)
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  • melleasndrsmelleasndrs member
    What? So confused. And highly pissed the F off by this thread! How can someone in their right mind join in a birth month club and post something so ridiculously asinine? I would never in my wildest dreams join a birth month club before a +test. I had other sites I was apart of that catered to that uncertainty. This OP is beyond BSC and I wish help is sent her way. To top it all off it was originally about keeping it secret! Keeping a negative test a F'in secret...well lady by all means go for it. Do it somewhere else while your at it.

    I'm too frustrated to continue voicing my opinion on this matter. I feel like Professor Henry Higgins trying to teach Eliza Doolittle manners. image

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  • Kwunder16Kwunder16 member
    I am right there with ya! My DH knows but we are waiting to tell our families after 8 weeks (when I MC last time)
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  • jengalbraith818jengalbraith818 member
    I too had a loss about 3 months ago. All the more reason to share with my DH this is scary but it's easier with his support

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  • sawyerj4sawyerj4 member
    Whoa!! First and last post I'll read on this app. Smh
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  • gretchendnursegretchendnurse member
    I'm keeping it secret until I'm 12 weeks because I'm 42 and the risk for miscarriage is really high. I did tell my SO but the rest can wait. Do what makes you feel comfortable. Good luck to you.
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  • motherofdogsmotherofdogs member
    First @sawyerj4‌ BYE FELICIA!

    Second:
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