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Help me get my kid to poop
DD has been potty trained for pee for a year. She was terrified of pooping in the potty. We tried everything. She held her poop for 9 days. After weeks of poopy pants and poop holding to the point of being doubled over - we got a point where she would ask for a pull up to poop in and then get changed back into underwear. That was working and I figured she would work it out herself. I've been trying to get her to do it without pushing too hard (pun? Lol) there have been tears and crying and yelling and miralax (she holds it and gets constipated). Finally the other night she did it. It took some coaxing but no tears and she did it and was so happy. We rewarded her. (We had tried much bribery over the last year).
That was Thursday. She hasn't pooped since (usually twice a day). I can tell she is holding it. We just got her to sit in the potty but she barely even tried before she started crying and saying she didn't need to poop. Then asked for a pull up. Im trying nit to give in. I told her no pull ups. I'm at my wits end. Ready to lose my mind. She is going to be 4 this fall. She is the only child in her class not potty trained. I just don't know what to do.
tl;dr- my kid won't shit on the pot.
That was Thursday. She hasn't pooped since (usually twice a day). I can tell she is holding it. We just got her to sit in the potty but she barely even tried before she started crying and saying she didn't need to poop. Then asked for a pull up. Im trying nit to give in. I told her no pull ups. I'm at my wits end. Ready to lose my mind. She is going to be 4 this fall. She is the only child in her class not potty trained. I just don't know what to do.
tl;dr- my kid won't shit on the pot.
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Re: Help me get my kid to poop
We tried telling her nemo eats poopy and he was really hungry. Lol. When she finally went the other night she said she was so happy nemo wasn't going to starve. She also said she didn't have to "stay in poopy" (sometimes she has to wait a minute to be changed from her pull up if I'm busy and she doesn't like this). She is very logical and extremely smart. I just don't understand why she is having this issue and how to help her get past it. Sometimes I'm afraid I'm just giving in with pull ups and I'm afraid I'm being played by a preschooler. We feel like we've tried every approach! This is so frustrating.
You know how they say "no one goes to kindergarten in diapers"? I think my kid will be exception. Only it may be college !!! Ha. We joke that DS will be trained before her- I'm afraid that actually may happen though!!
I have some experience with kids that have bowel management issues, and I think what you may be dealing with is fear related to previous constipation experience (i.e. It hurt to poop so now I'm just going to hold it in). Unfortunately this can make constipation worse.
Anyways what I would suggest doing is taking the pressure off of pooping and start building some positive associations with just sitting on the toilet.
Have her sit on the toilet 3-4 times a day for no more than 5 min. And create a sticker chart for sitting. If she poops, awesome she gets an extra sticker, but praise just for sitting. This will get her more comfortable using the toilet.
When she is on the toilet I would make sure she is in a good pooping position (kind of squatting) with a stool if necessary under her feet. You can do some relaxing activities while she is sitting if you want to distract her but I wouldn't do anything too exciting, liking playing a video game.
As she practices more and becomes more relaxed she is bound to start pooping in the toilet. If you think she is constipated or her poop is like little marbles you may want to talk with your pedi about starting a stool softener routine to aid in her efforts.
I hope this helps and isn't way more info than you needed.
Thanks
When we were in the early stages, we told him we'd take him to Chuck-E-Cheese if he pooped in the potty all week. He went for that. Then we gradually added a week etc. for him to get the reward. Now he just asks "where's my ipad" and I know he's gonna be busy for a while. Now we are working on wiping his own behind and washing his hands afterwards.
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