Should I stay team green?

tanya_erin · July 2014

This is my fourth pregnancy, and I am thinking about the 20 week u/s and if I want to find out... I can't decide. I'm the queen of indecisiveness.

My first, didn't find out - was a boy.
My second, found out - was a boy.
My third, didn't find out as I was secretly hoping for a girl and didn't want to be disappointed if it was a boy (yes, admitting that, just being honest).

So, I really don't have a preference... Although I would love for my little girl to have a sister. I know I can't change what the baby is, but I just can't decide if I want to know ahead of time or just wait for delivery day.

Help me make up my mind! The indecisive part of me thinks what an awesome surprise on birth day, but it sure would be handy knowing as this is our last one and I could get rid of girl/boy clothes, etc.

jmcmoe · July 2014

For me it's a surprise whether you find out at 20 weeks or birth! Either way it's just as exciting! Also we found it helpful choosing names because it literally eliminates half of them! We found out for our last one and once we knew he was a boy, we were most excited to see what he looked like and meet him so we could choose a name that would fit him!

Maebb · July 2014

I agree that it's still a surprise if you find out at 20 weeks. I wouldn't be able to wait!

ktin987 · July 2014

We aren't going to be finding out. We have twin boys now and I would love a girl but I KNOW boys so that would be cool too. His parents are pressuring us to find out ... So I found this article. It made me laugh and makes sense!
https://www.daddyfiles.com/7-reasons-not-to-find-out-the-sex-of-the-baby/

elliesmama91412 · July 2014

jmcmoe said:
For me it's a surprise whether you find out at 20 weeks or birth! Either way it's just as exciting! Also we found it helpful choosing names because it literally eliminates half of them! We found out for our last one and once we knew he was a boy, we were most excited to see what he looked like and meet him so we could choose a name that would fit him!

That's exactly how we feel!

Vanval10 · July 2014

We have decided to find out. I think that it would be awesome to be able to wait until birth but unfortunately we are so excited and impatient that I don't think we could wait that long.
It looks like you have a little pattern going so maybe this one is a find out baby.
What ever any of us decide I'm sure we are all going to be overjoyed with either sex. I knowni can't wait until next month to find out!!

liladelphia215 · July 2014

I go back and forth.

I think I am going to bring DD to the anatomy scan and let her make the call as to if we find out then or find out at birth.

I asked her if she wants to know before the baby is born or be surprised when the baby is born. She said surprised - but she changes her mind a lot. So I think at the anatomy scan, I'm going to let her decide if we stay team green. That way I don't have to make the decision LOL.

Rochelle2012 · July 2014

It's definitely think it is a surprise either way too. I just always knew that I didn't want to find out until delivery day, just to have that moment when there are already so many emotions ! (I get choked up just thinking about it!!) this is pretty opposite to my "planner" personality but honestly I just knew I wouldn't have it any other way!

you will make the right choice whatever you decide !

MusicFanatic · July 2014

We are team green

But I love anticipation and it's soooooo exciting to me. I absolutely agree that finding out at ANY point is a surprise. But for US, there's something magical sounding about finding out when the baby comes out after waiting that long. I'm hoping it gets me through labor better

Personal decision, though!

kolaczka · July 2014

My husband and I are planners so I am going to find out. I think that the labor will be exciting/overwhelming/life changing enough. I don't think I need to add any more anticipation or excitement to the event. The pregnancy on the other hand could use some excitement/highlights.

I also think it will help my husband and I imagine the future. Right now it still feels a little surreal and unknown.

UberBiz · July 2014

Surprise at 20 or 40 weeks, I'm opting to prolong my anticipation. I'm really hoping to give Ds a brother, we already have two girls so having another boy would make it even. Not that there's more of a chance of it being a boy if I wait longer, LoL (I realize that's kinda how it sounded haha), but at this point it's our last baby so it really doesn't matter. I'm not having a shower so there's no reason to try and figure out pink or blue, and honestly, I wanted to be team green for the last two, but was vetoed by the fathers, and this time *I* am choosing! Also, it will drive people crazy telling them we're not 'finding out.' Yeah we'll find out, when it comes out!

Mejin215 · July 2014

MusicFanatic said:
We are team green But I love anticipation and it's soooooo exciting to me. I absolutely agree that finding out at ANY point is a surprise. But for US, there's something magical sounding about finding out when the baby comes out after waiting that long. I'm hoping it gets me through labor better Personal decision, though!

This for us too!

ECATX · July 2014

I found out last time and will again this time. I agree that it's a surprise whenever you find out - whether it's at 20 weeks or when you deliver! This time, I especially want to know, since we already have a ton of clothes and things from my dd.

tanya_erin · July 2014

My DH is fine either way, and doesn't have a strong opinion. When we found out with #2, it was because I knew he wanted to know...

mc0113 · July 2014

I am an extreme planner and we're still Team Green. To us, there's no reason to find out. The anticipation is actually very exciting for us. Plus, we want more kids in the future so plan on getting all neutral big items. It's not 100% accurate on it being correct anyways (I've read between 85-90% accuracy). I'd hate to have a house full of pink girly stuff and come home with a baby boy. Lol

MichaelSC28 · July 2014

JUST DO IT!! You already did the not finding out thing...why not take a peek. Third time is a charm right?!?

I hope you get a girl, I know you don't care but its understandable to want a lil girl after your boys.

GOOD LUCK!

tanya_erin · July 2014

MichaelSC28 said:
JUST DO IT!! You already did the not finding out thing...why not take a peek. Third time is a charm right?!?
I hope you get a girl, I know you don't care but its understandable to want a lil girl after your boys.

GOOD LUCK!

I already have a girl after 2 boys

MichaelSC28 · July 2014

tanya_erin said:

JUST DO IT!! You already did the not finding out thing...why not take a peek. Third time is a charm right?!?
I hope you get a girl, I know you don't care but its understandable to want a lil girl after your boys.

GOOD LUCK!
I already have a girl after 2 boys

Ugh fail...sorry read it quickly. WELL ummm yeah I say do it anyway lol!
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KnitPixy · July 2014

H and I are completely on team green. I'm a sewer and knitter and I'm not a fan of the traditionally pink and blue (don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with the colour thing). I cringe every time I'm asked to make a baby blanket in either colour, there are just so many other colours!

Personally I've never wanted to know ahead of time and the fact that I want to avoid getting either a bunch of pink or blue stuff as gifts just gives me another reason. H is pretty much the same way.

My SIL on the other hand is going to have a hard time waiting for 20wks! She's five weeks behind me (I'm 13wks) and it's already driving her nuts! My poor BIL doesn't want to find out but he knows that is one battle he isn't going to win. I think he's just terrrified at the thought of raising a little girl, so maybe finding out sooner rather than later will give him some time to adjust if that is the case.

It is a totally personal decision though and I can understand going back and forth.

mellie86041 · July 2014

I agree that it's a surprise no matter when you find out!

With DD, we were already planning on finding out. I'm a planner and wanted to know ahead of time. Plus, my mommy instinct kicked in about a week before, so I wanted to know if I was right (I was!).

We're finding out with the LO one too. Mostly so I can either unpack/wash all the girl baby stuff we already have (and get back the clothes we lent my sister!) or get boy stuff from my SIL and pack up the last of DD's baby stuff well before the new baby gets here!

Eyefrog · July 2014

Im a green teamer so will encourage green team. Enjoy the surprise one last time

Sunflower9939 · July 2014

I am not good at waiting and need to plan things. I could never be team green. Looks like that isn't necessarily a problem for you (as you've done it before) so it's hard to say. I just know I couldn't do it and it would probably give my grandma a heart attack. Last time she kept pestering me about why I was making her wait so long to find out. Lol because my doctor won't do the anatomy scan till 20 weeks, lady!!

jess05445 · July 2014

I had planned on team green all the way but my husband really wants to know so going to find out and surprise him for his birthday the week after ultrasound. I am thinking keeping it just between us for as long as can though.

Rochelle2012 · July 2014

mc0113 said:
I am an extreme planner and we're still Team Green. To us, there's no reason to find out. The anticipation is actually very exciting for us. Plus, we want more kids in the future so plan on getting all neutral big items. It's not 100% accurate on it being correct anyways (I've read between 85-90% accuracy). I'd hate to have a house full of pink girly stuff and come home with a baby boy. Lol

This JUST happened to friends of ours lol they were told boy boy boy and to their surprise they welcomed their daughter 3 weeks ago lol

Shortstack06 · July 2014

My husband doesn't want to find out and I am now on board. It is irritating the crap out of my mom and sister. My mom's response was " We'll I guess I am not baby shopping anytime soon. I don't see why you would wait. You might end up disappointed afterwards." My response was as long as it is healthy I don't care and he doesn't either. My doctor is excited that we aren't finding out too so that makes it fun. So I am totally on board with waiting.

JoaPata · July 2014

I am team Green. The doctor already knows what we are having because we did Panorama to check for abnormalities. We got a call this week asking if we wanted to know the sex and it was so hard to say no but my husband wants to find out when we deliver. I could not keep the secret from him. I am also an extreme planner and am still planning as much as any Team Blue or Pink.. I just am picking several neutrals and still picking things I want for both sexes so we can pick it up right after delivery. We are also making a list of 3 to 5 names each and will pick from either list in the delivery room when we see baby. I don't think team Greeners are any less a planner just like I don't think it is any more or less of a surprise at 20 weeks or 40..just a personal preference on finding out when baby is right in front of you or on the screen. Also preference based on partners feelings. :-) Either way whatever ever you choose will be the right choice for you. Looking forward to hearing what you decide.

motherboy · July 2014

I love being team green. DH liked being the one to announce what the baby was to everyone. I love that not knowing annoys others, hahaha. I think it's a lot of fun to go against the grain when everyone sort of assumes that you will find out just because you can.

jmcmoe · July 2014

mc0113 said:
I am an extreme planner and we're still Team Green. To us, there's no reason to find out. The anticipation is actually very exciting for us. Plus, we want more kids in the future so plan on getting all neutral big items. It's not 100% accurate on it being correct anyways (I've read between 85-90% accuracy). I'd hate to have a house full of pink girly stuff and come home with a baby boy. Lol

We found out with DS but didn't tell anyone that we knew. We also planned in having more kids and preferred gender neutral. Plus there is nothing I hate more then people buying all pink and purple for a girl, I'm a major tomboy and am ok for the child to choose to wear those colours but I'm not going to forcefully dress them super girly (farm kids and I hate every pic of me in a dress when I was little)

MahriM23 · July 2014

My 4th pregnancy too and I had 2 girls and then a boy. I found out for all of them. This time I was debating not finding out but I think we are going to get the results put in an envelope and find out on a date or something (maybe our anniversary which is August 13th). That way it's still something a little different than what we did with the other ones but we can narrow down our name choices and start calling this little one by name sooner. I just can't wait till delivery, I'm not wired that way lol.

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