Any good discipline books for toddlers?

Re: Any good discipline books for toddlers?

• bumpuser7846882 member

  July 2014

  One of my coworkers told me about love and logic, and it works fairly well for us (in addition to distraction). After 1-2 times, I would've said "we don't pull the plug on the water table until we're finished playing. If you pull the plug again, we have to stop playing and go inside/upstairs/wherever" and then follow through.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• jmcgra06 member

  July 2014

  Yeah I tried that every day for the last week - does it usually take a while to sink in? She talks non-stop but it's hard to know exactly what she understands. I have a feeling it's more than I think..

  

  

  
  

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• bumpuser7846882 member

  July 2014

  Yeah, I think it does take a while to sink in. They have to make the connection between the pattern of words you're saying and what they're playing with getting taken away. We've been doing it for a while and we're just now getting to the point where sometimes he'll actually stop doing the undesired behavior.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• flerlgirl member

  July 2014

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• WasNotWas member

  July 2014

  For one, our kids are too young for proper discipline. They are testing boundaries to discover their world not to challenge your sanity. Consistency and choosing your battles is key. I'm sure she thought that you splashing her was a game, not punishment. If you don't want her to unplug the thing and she does, she doesn't get to play anymore. The message is clear. But, to be honest, I think that's a battle you should just let go.

  

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• ilovemarfa member

  July 2014

  ^^^^^agree. I don't think kids are really ready for "discipline" until they are closer to 3.

  

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• jmcgra06 member

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  Just to clarify, I'm not talking about punishing her, but I do think she knows what "no" means (at least she sometimes responds to it!) so I am just trying to guide her more in that direction. I think it's not so much the water table, because that's kind of her thing, but more her repeatedly wanting to dump the dog's water dish over. Or throw her food on the floor. I know these things are developmentally normal, but I don't want her to think "no" is a game that I play, either.

  
  

  ETA: I just reread that and I feel like it sounded defensive. I appreciate that advice! Just wanted to make sure I wasn't coming off as a tiger mama that was trying to train a toddler to march

  

  

  
  

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• WasNotWas member

  July 2014

  You have to respect your kid. If she is challenging your "no" try to figure out why. Is it because dumping the dog bowls is loud and messy and gets attention? Ok so find a learning activity that incorporates those things. Is she dumping her plate because she is done or just because it's loud and messy? If you hold the plate down while she's eating, does she get mad? What if you just give her one piece at a time? Remove her or the things that truly piss you off (Ty does the dog bowl thing so he doesn't get access to the bowls anymore) and try not to let your "no" hinder her curious nature. A challenging kid is a smart kid

  

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• ilovemarfa member

  July 2014

  Yeah, at this age they do understand what no means but they won't necessarily always stop doing what they are doing if you tell them no. Ds2 discovered the garbage can a few days ago and I can typically find him trying to rummage through it even though I've told him no a thousand times. Eventually I moved it into the laundry room today because it was a losing battle. They are just discovering their surroundings and testing the limits.

  

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• ASmallWonder member

  July 2014

  @WasNotWas‌ is sooo smart I'll also add that you don't want to squander the power of "no." Positive language when you want positive change works better. Tell her what she CAN do. "Here let's dump THIS water!"

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• jmcgra06 member

  July 2014

  Thank you all so much! Today was long and tiring, but I feel energized now to try again tomorrow  

  

  

  
  

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