I have a bed sharing question

ASmallWonder · July 2014

I've never actually gotten an answer on this and I'm so curious. Do you go to bed with your child? If not, do you have bed rails or something? I've never been able to figure out how people manage this with a mobile kid except to go to bed at like 7 and never wake up to pee or anything lol Q could totally scale regular bed rails.

JessicaKS · July 2014

I wonder the same thing. I think about this every time a bed-sharing question comes across the boards.

Stefanie6743 · July 2014

I lay C down in in pnp downstairs until I'm ready to go to bed. Then I bring him to bed with me. Our mattress is on the floor and all sides are blocked off except for one, and I lay on that side. He has yet to climb over me to get off the bed and he is very mobile (walking for 2 months now).

musicalsilver · July 2014

LO sleeps on a floor mattress in his room - I join him at some time in the night, so I guess technically we bedshare. Before he was in his own room, I put him down in the PnP and he slept there until I brought him into bed - or when he was even younger, his evening nap meant that he did actually go to bed around when I did (10ish).

ASmallWonder · July 2014

Huh - interesting. There is ZERO way I could move him without having to redo the entire bedtime routine so this would never work. @musicalsilver well all of you really, I guess. If they sleep ok without you (either a bed in their room or a PNP downstairs) do you bedshare because you want to or do your kids wake up at night after an initial good stretch?

ColieAnn31 · July 2014

I lay Grayson in the bed once he's asleep. I lay him all the way against the wall and then when I leave the room I always have the video monitor with me. He cries for me before he actually starts moving. Once I see him sit up I go in there and lay down with him to get him back to sleep. If I didn't have the video monitor I would have to stay in the room with him.

mamainVA2013 · July 2014

We have bedshared from pretty much the beginning. She would fall asleep in the PNP in our room, but at first wake up I would just bring her in bed with us because she would fall right asleep that way and would wake up multiple times a night. We eventually transitioned her to her crib when she was down to two wake ups, and would just keep her in bed after the first. Now, she usually comes into bed with us when she wakes up at 5, because I can usually nurse her and get her to sleep a couple more hours. So, pretty much she doesn't start in bed with us, but ends in bed with us, and it is mostly because I'm just to darn tired to try to get her back in her crib.

daffy2k · July 2014

Thanks for asking this Elmo! I've always wondered too. I can only imagine that bed sharing babies don't really try to escape since it is something they are used to. I've brought M to bed with me occasionally when she was smaller (rough nights, if I was too tired to get up in the am, etc) but I've tried a few times lately when we both really need the sleep and she will have none of it. Bed means fun in her books apparently and she is constantly trying to climb over me and down to the floor.

bumpuser8448316 · July 2014

I put rails up on the side LO lays closest to (neither of my kids rolled that much in bed). Then at a year they go in their curb until the first waking, then they go in bed with us.

Stefanie6743 · July 2014

We started because he is a horrible sleeper. It was much easier to roll over and BF than to get up out of bed every couple of hours. He still is up a few times at night. We are both happy bed sharing.

jmcgra06 · July 2014

Anna nurses, brushes teeth and then sleeps in her swing until we get her for bed. We have a mini crib side-carred to the king bed we have, and the other side is up against a wall. It works great for us, and we all love it. Now, if anyone has any advice for bed-sharing with two...

musicalsilver · July 2014

@elmoali‌ - both. I like sharing with LO after his early morning wake-ups to eat because DH gets up stupid early and I get more undisturbed sleep that way.

Cricket81 · July 2014

@jmcgra06‌
If you haven't already, you should ask the attachment parenting board about sharing with 2. I'm sure they have experience. Also, I think there's a book called the family bed, but I haven't read it.

CoffeeBeanFiend91 · July 2014

DD goes to bed at 10 because of my work schedule. I sleep when she does.
I rarely have to get up in the middle of the night but when I do she's sound asleep. If she wakes she can easily get out of bed and the hall is gated

HelgaFunk · July 2014

How big are your beds? I see where someone has a king size and that makes sense but my husband and I aren't small people and I can't imagine our LO trying to fit in with us in our queen because I stretch way out plus move a lot.

Faith7 · July 2014

We cosleep in a queen bed. It's getting tight, what with LO moving around so much and turning sideways and all. I sleep in the middle; there's a bedrail next to LO. He usually winds up with his back against the headboard, though. At first I would go to bed when he went to sleep--about 9pm. He never was an early sleeper. Now he sleeps in his crib for the first part of the evening, while we are still up. We either leave him in there until he wakes (sometime 11pm -1am) or move him to our bed as we like. He has always napped in his crib, so it's not a huge deal for him. Mostly the cosleeping is for my comfort because he often (but not always) wakes several times a night and it's just easier to calm him back to sleep when he's right there.

kh59 · July 2014

We have a queen-sized mattress on the floor. LO usually goes to bed around 9:00, and I go with her but read or watch TV for an hour or so before I go to sleep. Sometimes I can get away with sneaking out after she falls asleep, and then I just use a monitor or stay close by. Most of the time, though, I'm happy to sleep, too! My husband goes to sleep later and stays in bed with LO until she wakes up in the morning, usually after I've already left for work.

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