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This time is harder...well, more confusing I guess.

MrMrsandBabyMrMrsandBaby member
in October 2014 Moms
With my first, I didn't do a birth plan, I didn't even think about placenta encapsulation, or a lactation consultant, etc...  I had an easy delivery, really easy recovery and postpartum was not bad for me at all.  The only issue I had was not being successful BFing.  Because of that, I started looking at lactation consultants (outside of the ones at the hospital).

Now, it is like I know too much!  I'm looking into PE for the potential supply boost - something I never thought I would do.  I am looking at birth plans to get an idea of what I want, but I'm too passive to make myself write one or even bring it up with my OB.  There are so many things I'm looking at but then my brain says, "Why mess with a good thing?" since my first experience was so good.

I wish I could just make a decision on what I want...why did I ever start doing research!?!  :)
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Re: This time is harder...well, more confusing I guess.

  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    edited July 2014
    I think it's totally normal to feel overwhelmed, whether it's your first baby or your eighth, with all of the options and various scenarios.

    I would try to think of a few things that are VERY important to you, and maybe look into those more. When you're comfortable or feeling better prepared to handle those things, you can look into others.

    For me, being an active participant in a natural birth and having my postpartum wishes honored (when medically realistic) in the hospital are SUPER important, so I've done a lot to maximize my chances there. I've hired a very good doula and have switched to a highly rated midwifery practice. I've selected a "baby friendly" accredited hospital, and my husband and I are doing a lot of reading together about birth, etc. I am also going to write a short birth plan.

    Breastfeeding is very important to me, but I already have a superb support system, great resources, and a lot of info and experience under my belt, so I am spending less time worrying about that. Also, preparing my home for baby is less of a worry, since we have all of DS' stuff.

    So maybe some deep breaths and some prioritizing of issues can help you get through it. Best of luck, and hang in there!
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  • Maggie6424Maggie6424 member

    I had the opposite experience but it caused the same feeling this go-round. My birth and pp with DS1 were horrid. That's what spurred me to do so much more planning this time. I feel like I know too much and would kill for an easy (and naive) birth experience.

    I am however, more calm about the birth this time. I'm trying really hard not to stress and worry about it going poorly.

    Meagan
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  • mandapearmandapear member
    I am a strong believer that no amount if preparation can adequately prepare you for birth, which is a unique experience with unique challenges each time. Arm yourself with research but be flexible enough to roll with changes as needed, and use your knowledge to empower, not stress, yourself.
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