Q for those with a child before multiples

mer313131 · July 2014

What did you do about the hospital stay? We have DD who will be 2 when the twins come. Before we discovered twins we thought DH would go home each night to stay with her, but with twins were the extra hands and support in the hospital necessary? I'm just wary about leaving her with someone for 3 nights.

carrotcake06 · July 2014

My mom and sister both love close and have watched my older one a million times, including overnight, so they took him when I had the twins.

H stayed overnight in the hospital with me, so my older one was able to continue his routine of going to school/daycare and was just picked up/dropped off and kept overnight by my mom.

My boys were in the NICU, so it wasn't even the needing an extra set of hands part. Their birth was traumatic and I was in a lot of pain. I didn't want to be alone.

basil2 · July 2014

There was another thread about this recently.

We had my parents stay at our house for daytime and in case we needed someone at night. We chose for DH to go home at night- both to be with DS and to get some sleep- we live near the hospital so we planned I could call him if I needed (I didn't).

I relied on the nurses (Csection) I needed quite a bit of help from them (basically passing me babies and putting them back) but it worked out just fine.

mer313131 · July 2014

Yeah I'm mostly worried about throwing off her routine. She goes to daycare Tues-Fri so depending on when they come, her daytime routine would be the same. She's pretty easy to please right now food wise and activity wise so I'm not *too* concerned about IL's capability of watching her, but they have done questionable things in the past that make me worry. Because of an incident that happened last fall, they haven't watched her since last September. Thinking I need to give them another overnight "trial" to see if they do better and put my mind at ease.

24karat · July 2014

Dh stayed at home with her overnight. My mom was in town too, but we felt it was important for DD to have a parent with her as we all adjusted to life with two new babies. It also allowed DH to get rested up so he could help me more when we were discharged.

RayRay007 · July 2014

Assuming I'm in the hospital for a few nights, I don't have a problem having a grandparent watch DD. On the other hand, if the babies are rooming in and DH doesn't stay overnight, the nurses should be more than willing to give you a hand if you need help getting up or getting the babies if you've had a c/s (I'm assuming that's why you'd be staying for a few nights).

rcnavywife · July 2014

We don't have family in town. My mom had already been staying with us for over a week due to me being on HBR. Our babies were in the NICU, but DH spent the first night with me, just to help and support me.

JKGymnast · July 2014

Same as @Carrotcake06, my DD (2yrs) went between my mom and my sister. She's been with them a million times although never for sleepovers.

My DD - she had a ball. Felt like she was on vacation and she was well loved. She came in every day but one (cs, i stayed 5 nights) which made me happy cuz I missed her terribly.

My DH, stayed overnight all but one night (he spent the last night with my DD, to get her and the house ready). Having him there was necessary bc I didn't have nicu babies and I was BFing so I needed a lot of help. My C/S pain was totally manageable. The nurses are awesome and totally take care of you.

Me..... When I got my DD back from her mini-vacation, she had a bad cold, looked absolutely exhausted and had major eczema flare ups (which means they weren't putting her RX ointment on her properly/often enough). She also adopted some fresh behaviors from my sisters 3yo, that took a few days to correct ... BUT she was loved, safe and cared for - so I can't ask for much more than that.

Good luck!!!

MrsP419 · July 2014

My DH stayed with us the four nights we were in the hospital. My DS and DD (ages 2 and 4) spent those nights with grandparents (his parents half the time, my parents half the time) and it went well. Our family lives close so they are used to sleepovers with grandparents. The nurses were very helpful with the babies, and they were the primary support for nighttime feedings, but sometimes they simply were not available as quickly as I needed them. I had a C-section and needed help lifting babies and moving around, especially with tandem nursing. I thought DH was very valuable to me, and I treasured that time with just him and the twins. My kids were very excited for us to come home, but I think enjoyed their special time with grandparents.

12bailey18 · July 2014

We're playing it by ear but my mom will be in town to help with the older kids; bedtime routine, getting them to preschool, etc. We're 5 minutes from the hospital so DH can go back and forth if need be.

MrsP419 · July 2014

I should add that we live an hour from the hospital, so that surely factored into our decision.

Mama-Bear · July 2014

IL's watched DS1 during the day and DH took him home at night. I didn't need his help in the hospital, I had the help of the staff. I wasn't allowed to keep them the first night because I had a c/s (if you have a c/s and nobody staying with you, they don't want you keeping the baby(ies) in the room with you the first night), and the last night I had the nurse take them for a few hours. Other than that I was fine with them on my own. I wanted DS1 to have as much normalcy as possible before the birth.

diz1313 · July 2014

My parents plan on taking my DS to their house until I'm home. Where DH stays depends on a lot of things..... if he is still on a contract job I will make him sleep at home and get some real sleep so he can go to work, because time off is loss of pay. If he's not, it depends on if the babies are in the NICU or not..... If they are then he should sleep at home so at least one of us is well rested. If the babies are with me I'm sure I would appreciate his help. I guess I will have to wait and see what happens! o.O

bumpuser924057 · July 2014

DH and my mom took shifts and traded off being at the hospital and at our house with DS. I needed someone with me as much as possible because I had one baby rooming in with me and one in the NICU that I needed to try and nurse every couple hours.

Mrs.Guz · July 2014

DD1 was just a couple weeks shy of 5 when the twins were born. Her godmother came to stay with us for about a month. School had just started, so it was much easier to have her godmother there to get her off to school and take her to all of her other activities.

shanaynerz · July 2014

My MIL watched DD overnight and all weekend. I needed DH with me pretty much 24/7 at the hospital after having a c/s. Literally couldn't stand for more than 5 minutes at a time. I hung out in bed and he did pretty much everything. We were in the hospital for 4 days (Fri-Mon) and she seemed to do well at home.

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