INSANELY AFRAID TO GAIN WEIGHT

jeanessaaa · July 2014

So this may sound super dumb seeing as how I'm pregnant, but I am deathly afraid to gain weight. I haven't gained any weight so far and I'm sitting at 14 almost 15 weeks! By no means do I starve myself, I eat when I'm hungry.. But I definitely haven't increased my portion sizes or the number of times I eat.

Super embarrased but..

Anyone else struggling with the idea of weight gain?

Kayleemurray · July 2014

I am the same way! You have no control what is happening. But you can control what you eat ect. Just make healthy choices and try to workout at least 30 minutes a day! Don't stress about your weight enjoy this

LinziLoo09 · July 2014

I think that body image can be really problematic during pregnancy --- especially since the world seems to think it's open season to talk about your figure. I kind of ebb and flow on my feelings about it, but I figure I'll just take the weight as it comes and worry about it once the baby is out.

I would recommend talking to your doctor/MW about how much weight is appropriate for you to gain and where you are on that track. The doctor/MW can also give you a breakdown of where that weight is coming from (e.g., the baby, fluids, boob growth, etc). If you still feel uncomfortable about the weight gain, you might want to consider talking to a counselor a couple of times. She/he could help you to reframe the situation to better cope with the changes your body is going through. Good luck )

abenson3 · July 2014

Same here, I feel like my body will let me know when to eat more. I just try to listen to my body and eat when I feel hungry.

jeanessaaa · July 2014

So much easier said than done lol, I guess at the end of the day whether I want the weight or not it coming. Thanks love!

blessdtxas · July 2014

I could have written your post. I cried to my husband last night about it. I have been in recovery from an ED for 6 years. I thought I was doing really well - very healthy diet, no food issues, worked out regularly (but not obsessively) and felt really good about myself. I didn't expect to feel so bad about myself, but as the number of the scale rises I can feel myself freaking out. I have gained about 5 lbs so far (I'm 16 weeks and 4 days). I know it's healthy and normal, but it's so hard for me. I told my husband I need lots of kind words and support because I do not feel awesome about myself at all. I know it is so stupid, but I can't help it. I'm envious of women who are able to simply enjoy and embrace pregnancy - because it is truly an amazing thing.

LinziLoo09 · July 2014

I know. Trust me --- I haven't changed sizes in over 10 years. It's a weird prospect to know you'll inevitably be gaining weight over the course of the next few months. I really think it's going to be an ongoing process of acceptance/panic in general. I expect to have weird random freakouts about my changing body and then other moments where I'm perfectly content about it. But overall, I'm trying to put most of those feelings on hold until the baby comes out. Can't fully evaluate the situation until then

SoxFan777 · July 2014

I don't really WANT to gain weight (who does?) but I know that I have to for the health of my baby. You need maternal fat stores, etc, for childbirth, breastfeeding, etc. I'm starting off at a relatively healthy weight, so after speaking with my doctor she is fine with me gaining on the lower end of the spectrum... In my case, 25 pounds not 35. She also said her main concern is that it's a steady and gradual increase... Gaining a LOT at first can be a problem. I'm at 15 weeks and up about 2 pounds. I know I will start gaining more in the next few weeks, which is healthy for my growing baby.

I hope this advice helps you or someone else reading it.

lionyloo32 · July 2014

I have been feeling so fat lately! My belly is not a bump yet, so just seems kind of chubby and it's driving me crazy. I think it's 100% normal to stress about the weight. As long as you are eating healthy, there is no need to increase your portion sizes. You will ultimately gain some weight, so try not to worry about it too much.

jeanessaaa · July 2014

It's awesome to see that so many other woman are struggling with the same things that I am. Ladies we have to remember that our babies are worth every bit of the uncomfortableness, and that every pound we gain can be lost! As someone who has struggled with fluctuating weight I know that I can lose the weight afterwards it's just hard to see all of my hard work go down the drain in a sense.. Pre-pregnancy I was well on my way to competing in my first figure/body building competition and now I'm at the point where I have trouble finding the energy to do life's daily tasks much less making it to the gym and actually lifting weight..

So I completely understand where everyone is coming from!
We have to be each others support system because as badly as our husbands think they understand they have no idea.

desireeariel · July 2014

I was obsessed with my weight before pregnancy and I am even more obsessed now. The women in my family have gained around 70 pounds while pregnant. That kind of consistency worried me if it was a gene thing. But I am 14w and have gained only 3-4ish pounds. This is a calculator that tells you what range you should stay based on height and pre preg weight https://www.babymed.com/tools/pregnancy-weight-gain-calculator-by-week

To help keep track you should get the Myfitnesspal app. This can help you make sure you are eating enough, eating healthy, and gain steady.

sarasarat · July 2014

Do not be afraid or unwilling to reach out for trained help, either a therapist, a counselor, or a health coach, particularly if you have struggled with disordered eating in the past. @jeanessaaa is right, our husbands are rarely the best place to turn for help or comfort with this

I work with clients with these feelings all the time, and I even find myself struggling with it from time to time. Be kind to yourself, reach out.

krystrist2014 · July 2014

I'm with yall on this one too. I started pregnancy overweight, and my doctor said that I should really only gain 10-15 lbs mostly in the last trimester. So I am really concerned about keeping my weight about the same. I got through the first trimester with no weight gain... but I am seriously starting to feel like Im gaining weight rather than getting a bump. Have been afraid to step on the scale in the last week. Overall though, I am on the same page as most of you - make healthy food choices and listen to my body.

lionyloo32 · July 2014

desireeariel said:

I was obsessed with my weight before pregnancy and I am even more obsessed now. The women in my family have gained around 70 pounds while pregnant. That kind of consistency worried me if it was a gene thing. But I am 14w and have gained only 3-4ish pounds. This is a calculator that tells you what range you should stay based on height and pre preg weight https://www.babymed.com/tools/pregnancy-weight-gain-calculator-by-week
To help keep track you should get the Myfitnesspal app. This can help you make sure you are eating enough, eating healthy, and gain steady.

Wow, thanks for this link! LOVE it. According to the calculations I could/should have gained 9lbs. I'm at 3lbs gained. Whooo!

ColeyCannoli · July 2014

I understand this and I'm not even doing well weight-wise. I gained 10lb almost instantly and now I'm at about 15. It's getting to really bother me when I read online that I should have gained maybe 5-10lb by now (18 weeks). It's messing with my head because weight and I have never been friends and my mom keeps telling me how horrible it is to gain a lot (or "let yourself go") during pregnancy. I'm not sure how to stop it though. I watch what I eat mostly and I work out. Still its like everything turns into fat now >_<

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nashamber · July 2014

@jeanessaaa - I haven't gained any weight yet either, and I have the moments where I start to panic about the possibility of gaining weight - even though it's inevitable. My only piece of advice is to remember that your body isn't really yours right now. Your body is your baby's body and you need to keep it as healthy as possible so that your baby will reap the benefits. You can also continue to exercise daily (not excessively or intensely). My friends keep reminding me that this is the time to embrace the weight gain.

BrideLinds · July 2014

I have already gained 14 and am 18 weeks. It does bother me a little, but I know that it's normal to gain and I know that eventually the pounds will come off again. I honestly had never been happier with my body than when I was about 9 - 12 months post partum, still breastfeeding, and still hanging on to about 8lbs. This is a beautiful time in our lives and we should all try to embrace it.

brittandjp · July 2014

I've gained a bit, but not as much as I had with DD by this point (though my belly looks much bigger!). There was only a few pounds difference prior to starting both pregnancies and I ended up gaining 32 pounds with her, which was terrifying (I had eating disorders when I was younger). But I lost it all relatively quickly. With the right diet and exercise, you can too.

I certainly don't starve myself either. I eat when I am hungry. I'm not overly hungry, ever. I try to eat healthy, but most food typically sounds gross so I don't always succeed in this arena.

Please make sure your body is getting the nutrients that baby needs to thrive. Your body will gain what it needs to gain for baby. I know it's easier said than done, but just try to trust that no matter how much you gain, it's a good thing.

path75 · July 2014

I am regretting my appt tomorrow. Ive gained 3lbs since my last appt. I gained 10lbs right away so I'm pretty much doomed. I have been eating healthier but have not exercised.

nolanova85 · July 2014

I hear you. I started my pregnancy at a normal weight, but 4 years ago I lost about 30 lbs and it freaks me out so much to know that my pregnancy is likely going to take me back there. I have already gained 11...and my MW (while she wasn't particularly alarmed) said they really only recommend 10 lbs in the first 20 weeks (and I'm only 17 weeks today).

I have been exercising regularly, and almost better than before pregnancy, but if I'm being honest with myself - I have definitely been overeating / not making the right choices. I REALLY don't want to gain more than 30 lbs, since that is both in the healthy range and because I have been that weight before, and so mentally I know that I can lose it since I've done it before.

I'm trying to do better this week and reign in the weight gain for the next few weeks to keep it on track.

ZAP12 · July 2014

I gained 70lbs during my first pregnancy because I didn't pay attention and was just happy I could eat most of the time, so I stuffed my fave. But it all came off. It took a while and a lot of work, but that gave me the motivation to really get healthy. I am much more conscious this time of what I am eating, but I also know what to do after baby is born.

RicKeyBaby · July 2014

Eh, i've come to peace with the expected weight gain. I haven't changed my eating habits.....drink plenty of water. I do need to exercise more but......I know ill gain at least 35lbs....and im already a heavy girl so.. i do my best to eat right and exercise.....but screw it...im large and in charge!

hellopartyof5 · July 2014

I don't own a scale for a reason - it just makes me nervous and obsessive. I'm eating healthily with the occasional treat (actually more like once a day) and I'm working out an hour 3x a week. What I gain is what I gain, and that's just the way it is.

I also don't think that link is correct. The majority of your weight gain is in late 2nd/into 3rd tri I thought? I just know I went in at 15 weeks and had gained 3 lbs and the dr said that was perfectly healthy. However, according to the link I should have at least gained 9.4lbs

rshamos · July 2014

The hard part about weight gain for me is that I don't feel pregnant. I have all of the symptoms, but I want LO to kick me in the ribs or something to let me know I'm doing this right. Right now, I gave a couple of butterflies, some ms, and hormones. If I KNEW there was a baby, it would make it more real and the weight gain wouldn't be a bad thing.

zrod2037 · July 2014

I had gained 8lbs and I'm 17 weeks. I feel the same way and freak out every time I weigh myself. My boyfriend tells me to let it go I look fine and it's for the baby but I can't help but freak out that I won't fit into any of my pre pregnant clothes after the baby is born. I eat when I'm hungry but I watch what I eat and sometimes skip meals

which is bad.

kboyet · July 2014

I feel the same way! I started this pregnancy at the top end of what I've ever weighed. With this being said I seem to have something sweet every day. Someone needs to tell me to back away from the cookies and chocolate (thank goodness ice cream makes me sick!)

Meether · July 2014

I gained around 55lbs with dd1 and I had never weighed above 90lbs. At the end, I was 140lbs and I spent much of the last trimester pregnancy worrying about gaining too much weight. I mean I wanted to eat because I had read so many things about low weight gain and risks, so don't get me wrong. But I worried so much about it. In the last few weeks, I was like screw it, I'm ruining my pregnancy worrying about weight when nothing can be done about it. The only time I should worry is post partum if I still have extra weight because that's the only time I can actually lose weight. So I stopped worrying about it, even after dd got here, I just wanted to spend time with her. My weight naturally fell off and I went back to being tiny. This time around, I don't care much about weight because I am eating healthy, which is all that matters. I will gain weight because I'm pregnant.

elsatran7 · July 2014

I agree that I as well have been stressing over my weight during my pregnancy, I am 15 weeks along and have gained 3 lbs. My doctor is pleased with my weight gain and the baby's progress. I am eating healthy and exercising daily but I don't deprive myself when I have the occasional craving for something sweet. The way I look at it is...I will gain weight no matter what, but it's only temporary and when the baby is here I can work on getting back to my normal weight. For now I have to do what's best for the little one growing inside me and in the end all that weight gain will be worth it!

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