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KBowen715
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Intro
KBowen715
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Hello...I'm a 30 year old mother to three boys. My background is a little different and probably confusing, but here goes:
I had my oldest son as a teenager and married my best friend (not son's biological dad) when my son was a year old. My husband (who was older) had been in my son' life since I was pregnant (we were friends before I became pregnant), and who my son has always known as Daddy. My husband and I were married for a year and had my second son. Things were magic and bliss until he was diagnosed with brain cancer in 2006. He died four years later, leaving me widowed in my twenties with two small children- then 8 and 6.
I have since remarried a great guy, and we recently had a baby together (boy #3!)
After my husband died, I had a mountain of legal stuff to work through as my husband had been my oldest's Daddy for his whole life, and his biological father is not in the picture. I had my son's last name legally changed to my husband's. The injustice was in that, being that my husband became terminally ill through the legal framework of adopting him, he wasn't able to actually adopt him prior to his death. The state doesn't allow adoptions to the dying.
My son is now 12. Our family is drama free, but in the back of my mind I always fear biological father resurfacing. However, I am in absolute love with my newborn son and adjusting to the life of a remarried widow. You can never shake the feeling of cheating on your late husband with your new husband, or cheating on your new husband by still loving your late husband.
So, after much ado, that is the story of my blended family. I love the advice here.
I had my oldest son as a teenager and married my best friend (not son's biological dad) when my son was a year old. My husband (who was older) had been in my son' life since I was pregnant (we were friends before I became pregnant), and who my son has always known as Daddy. My husband and I were married for a year and had my second son. Things were magic and bliss until he was diagnosed with brain cancer in 2006. He died four years later, leaving me widowed in my twenties with two small children- then 8 and 6.
I have since remarried a great guy, and we recently had a baby together (boy #3!)
After my husband died, I had a mountain of legal stuff to work through as my husband had been my oldest's Daddy for his whole life, and his biological father is not in the picture. I had my son's last name legally changed to my husband's. The injustice was in that, being that my husband became terminally ill through the legal framework of adopting him, he wasn't able to actually adopt him prior to his death. The state doesn't allow adoptions to the dying.
My son is now 12. Our family is drama free, but in the back of my mind I always fear biological father resurfacing. However, I am in absolute love with my newborn son and adjusting to the life of a remarried widow. You can never shake the feeling of cheating on your late husband with your new husband, or cheating on your new husband by still loving your late husband.
So, after much ado, that is the story of my blended family. I love the advice here.
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Re: Intro
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013