I want to spend a month by myself in a dim room playing videogames and eating junk food in my pajamas.
(I may have said that before but the sentiment is especially strong today.)
I too have dealt with the overly attached baby. DH and I are taking her to my parents house this weekend, and I would love if she weaned herself more and got over this separation anxiety.
@pitchslap I would be pissed too. It's not that you have issue with the consignment shop. It's them continuing to show very obvious favoritism to DD.
+1! I'm pissed at your in laws! How soon until they leave?
Thanks for getting it and not thinking I'm being a brat! They leave Monday... counting down the minutes
I don't think any of us think you're a brat because we know how your IL's favor your DD and pay almost no attention to DS. I would be just as upset. I would feel like they are being too inconvenienced to show any attention to DS. My heart hurts for your DS when he gets old enough to realize what's going on
When we go to restaurants I put N's food right on the table and she eats it off the table. It's easier than dealing with a plate or placemat that will just become a toy.
At work we have a metric for those of us who manage projects that tells us how much we are delegating versus keeping and doing ourselves. The goal is to have a high leverage ratio so that we are delegating more work and doing less ourselves, so that we can take on more projects. Many people have trouble getting a high leverage ratio because they don't like to delegate. Me, I've never had that problem. I'm all like "I don't want to do this. Who bills at a lower rate than me who can do this? Hey, you, come do this for me!" (Nicer than that though of course - otherwise no one would do the work I ask!). But seriously, I've somehow managed to delegate most of the crappy work I don't want to do. And I get recognized for it!
I have no problem leaving N with other people. Hearing from other moms and reading other stuff on here, I feel like I'm in the minority and should feel more upset about letting other people babysit her.
And my biggest confession is that sometimes when I talk to other moms or read things here I secretly think "You are making parenting harder than it needs to be." I fully understand that my experience is not the same as others and my kid is different, so I try to keep those thoughts at bay and put them in perspective. But I can't help that the thought still creeps in sometimes.
Had every intention of hanging out in bed this morning, even doing breakfast in bed with my husband and Lilly. Then he started snoring like a jackhammer and I peaced the hell out.
My husband's snoring makes me irrationally ragey
My FFFC: I haven't slept in the same bed as Alex in months because of his snoring. I am such a light sleeper that he was constantly waking me up. I sleep much better with Grayson who doesn't snore.
I've worked in customer service for almost 4 years. Yesterday a new girl asked if she should keep her leftover lunch in the fridge and I advised her not to because the morning cleaning lady steals stuff. She said poor (cleaning lady) and I responded with "poor cleaning lady my ass. She's a f*cking twat." The call didn't disconnect. I'm terrified of walking in the office today.
It's 1230 PM and I am still in bed. DH took L out to visit his parents who are camping. It's the day after his birthday party and I have so much cleaning to do, but I am just so exhausted. Plus, I return to work on Monday so I need this ...right?
Sometimes I see Lily walking around, and I think she looks like a little person (you know, a dwarf) and I sort of creeps me out. When she was crawling and would crawl really fast, I would flash onto some horror movie. She looked like a creature from a horror movie.
I really want this house thing to go through even though I know it will cause H a lot of stress. I'm over apartment living. It's 8 minutes from where I'm interviewing Monday. I say it will cause H stress because I'm not really allowed to pack because of how bad of a job I do. I sort of do that on purpose. I hate packing to move.
My dad was rushed to hospital yesterday, his list of issues is long and to me the prognosis is not good. My confession is that I am not worried or sad about the possibility of losing him. He is basically drinking himself to death and is a major source of stress in my life. If he goes on to recover I will be happy and hope that this will be yet another wake up call to stop drinking.
@smpeachey I can kind of relate. All of the issues my FIL has been having are a direct result of him doing whatever the hell he wants and making bad health choices. I am trying to be supportive to my husband, my MIL and still take care of the kids and work but I don't have more time on my emotional hard drive to feel super bad for FIL himself, I just feel bad for the people who are needing to take care of him now. I want him to recover, but I also want him to get the point that his "fun" life choices are costing his family a lot of stress. DH is angry about it too so although I know he wants him to recover, I think he would understand your feelings. We're especially frustrated because MIL is easily overwhelmed and DH is an only child and so she is piling everything on DH.
Also sometimes on the way to pick up the boys from daycare I listen to really cheesy music, or stuff with swearing that I wouldn't play with the boys in the car. I always change it to NPR before I pull in the lot if my windows are down so I look like a smarter person than I am.
@calikat80. That is exactly how I feel, I hate that his siblings are dealing with it and him, and his mother too. I love the emotional hard drive analogy. I used up my grief for him a long time ago. I spend all my energy on E and no 2 and DH that is all I can spare.
It's hard. Hang in there. There is only so much peachey to go around and sometimes you need to pick and choose who gets what and if they really need it, you know? I almost wish DH would feel neutral about the situation because I feel like his anger is taking up too much emotional energy leaving little space (on the hard drive so to speak) to nurture the positive.
H is working from home today. I love him, but it messes with our rhythm when he is around. LO wants him to play, but he needs to work. Also, I feel like I need to keep busy more. I don't think he'd care at all, but for some reason I don't feel like I can just veg on the couch during lo's nap like I sometimes (usually) do.
Re: FFFC
Also, I've spent a ridiculous amount of time this week (how much I won't say) job hunting for my H out of state and looking for houses in the areas.
H has no idea.
I can't "love" that, but I'm glad I'm not the only one who still finds some baby things totally gross.
When we go to restaurants I put N's food right on the table and she eats it off the table. It's easier than dealing with a plate or placemat that will just become a toy.
At work we have a metric for those of us who manage projects that tells us how much we are delegating versus keeping and doing ourselves. The goal is to have a high leverage ratio so that we are delegating more work and doing less ourselves, so that we can take on more projects. Many people have trouble getting a high leverage ratio because they don't like to delegate. Me, I've never had that problem. I'm all like "I don't want to do this. Who bills at a lower rate than me who can do this? Hey, you, come do this for me!" (Nicer than that though of course - otherwise no one would do the work I ask!). But seriously, I've somehow managed to delegate most of the crappy work I don't want to do. And I get recognized for it!
I have no problem leaving N with other people. Hearing from other moms and reading other stuff on here, I feel like I'm in the minority and should feel more upset about letting other people babysit her.
And my biggest confession is that sometimes when I talk to other moms or read things here I secretly think "You are making parenting harder than it needs to be." I fully understand that my experience is not the same as others and my kid is different, so I try to keep those thoughts at bay and put them in perspective. But I can't help that the thought still creeps in sometimes.
Sometimes I see Lily walking around, and I think she looks like a little person (you know, a dwarf) and I sort of creeps me out. When she was crawling and would crawl really fast, I would flash onto some horror movie. She looked like a creature from a horror movie.
I really want this house thing to go through even though I know it will cause H a lot of stress. I'm over apartment living. It's 8 minutes from where I'm interviewing Monday. I say it will cause H stress because I'm not really allowed to pack because of how bad of a job I do. I sort of do that on purpose. I hate packing to move.