Push Gift??

tamibattle · June 2014

So a coworker asked me what I requested as my push gift? My response was WTH is that?? So I guess women get a gift for pushing out baby from DH,BF, FI, or SO.

I won't be pushing (scheduled C-section), do I still get a gift??

atraveller · June 2014

I've never heard of this, sorry, can't be more helpful

AmandaJean12 · June 2014

If your SO thinks that's an appropriate gift time, I think it's legit to swap major surgery for pushing.

Personally I'm expecting to get a cuddly little human... And maybe a cheeseburger and fries not from the cafeteria.

AppleGrapeMSTK · June 2014

My push gift was my baby- nothing I wanted more in the world after laboring. Someone brought me flowers, though!

You should never 'request' a gift. If your SO wants to give you something to show appreciation, it's one thing. To ask for a gift just because you had a baby is super tacky.

tamibattle · June 2014

I am right there with you on the cuddly little human! That's the only gift I am Iam expecting. Maybe some flowers too lol

tamibattle · June 2014

I can't believe this is actually a thing that people do. I would never ask my DH for a gift for having a baby.

jesslinnn · June 2014

It seems like "push presents" are a fairly new trend. I actually don't know of anyone IRL that has revieved/given a "push present". If your SO wants to give you something for carrying/birthing his child.. cool! But I don't like that it something that is somewhat expected now.

MorganWP · June 2014

Apparently push presents are a 'big thing' right now and I guess I could understand if it was something with baby's initials or something else just as meaningful but some of them are over-the-top like one of my auntie's friends got a new car when they didnt need it, it was just something she wanted.

MrsSinner402 · June 2014

I'd consider my baby as my gift. And I will be requesting Taco Bell delivered to my bedside.

atraveller · June 2014

I'm with other PPs - baby as my gift is gift enough - that and the glass of wine my DH will be pouring.

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asarem93 · June 2014

I'm not asking for a push present other then a healthy baby... But a pumpkin spice latte and giant turkey sandwich are much appreciated and he knows this. There is a starbucks and jimmy johns 5 min from my birth center lol.

pnwlover12 · June 2014

MrsSinner402 said:
I'd consider my baby as my gift. And I will be requesting Taco Bell delivered to my bedside.

Omg. This just reminded me of the night I went into labor with my DD. We had taco bell at like 9pm. My water broke an hour later. I had HORRIBLE gas all night/morning and I kept cursing myself for eating taco bell. Haha.

MrMrsandBaby · June 2014

It was pretty common when DD was born too but I didn't get anything. I want to get a new charm for my necklace after this one is born but I don't think DH will do it on his own. Otherwise I just want food and some sleep.

golfingdarwinfish · June 2014

They're actually pretty popular in my circle, and one of DH's friends already asked him what he plans on buying and offered suggestions. I would never ask for one, but have requested sushi (heavy on the tuna!!!!) and a specific champagne.

ETA: The push presents in my circle have included purses (chanel & LV) and jewelry; I hope that if DH does buy me one that he goes with sentimental rather than just expensive.

Firemanswife11 · June 2014

I want beer! LOL

MrsSinner402 · June 2014

pnwlover12 said:

MrsSinner402 said:
I'd consider my baby as my gift. And I will be requesting Taco Bell delivered to my bedside.
Omg. This just reminded me of the night I went into labor with my DD. We had taco bell at like 9pm. My water broke an hour later. I had HORRIBLE gas all night/morning and I kept cursing myself for eating taco bell. Haha.

The poor doc had to deal with Taco Bell toots while you were delivering?! I guess that's why they get paid the big bucks.

jesslinnn · June 2014

Firemanswife11 said:

I want beer! LOL

DH was just asking what I want my first drink to be after LO is born and I said beer. Specifically an IPA! I expect a cold one waiting in the fridge when we get home from the hospital.

Maggie6424 · June 2014

I mentioned hearing about it to DH when I was pregnant with DS. We'd never heard of it before, but I had read about it or maybe saw it on a TV show.

He asked if I wanted something and I said no. I said it would be cool for him to think of something on his own if he'd like to get me a gift. He got me a silver locket that I wear with DS's picture in it. I'm talking maybe a $30 one. I think anything that's not sentimental is silly. . . . if it has nothing to do with what you're going through, why call it a push gift?

MrsSinner402 · June 2014

erawka said:
This came up ages ago on the board. Other than baby, I'm buying myself the pre-push gift of a complete house cleaning. I feel like that's going to be the last thing I want to so at 37+ weeks pregnant.

This is a great idea! Hiring a maid service a week or so before delivery. Thanks for the idea!

dana2die4 · June 2014

I posted about this a while back. I have friends who literally insist on their DH buying them a push present, which I think it is absurd.

vrj0522 · June 2014

I think that expecting a push gift is extremely silly; however if your H wants to give you a gift for having a baby, I say take it. Why not?

I personally would prefer spending the money on baby or on getting me some new clothes after baby.

MrsL2B · June 2014

My default answer for every time I get asked what I want for any occasion is permanent eyebrow makeup. But I'll probably just be very happy with having this baby come out safe & sound and having a nice glass of champagne.

dana2die4 · June 2014

Actually I lied, I might request that DH bring me some sushi and a very large Coke a Cola. Now that is a push present!

lct2008 · June 2014

I think if a hubby wants to buy a gift good for him. But I definitely don't think it's necessary and wouldn't ask for one and didn't get one for ds. This time if dh is here i will be asking for chic fil a and maybe a 30 minute rest lol

bsschroeder · June 2014

They were popular in 2012 when I had ds1.. dh says the new tv in the living room was my pp but I think we just happened to buy it a few weeks after lo was born... this time I want to buy another band for my wedding ring conveniently a few weeks after ds2... lol

Justabean3 · June 2014

I actually get DH a push gift or just a gift since he doesn't push

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It is just a memory of it all.
It usually has something to do with our kids b-days or birth facts.

Yes I get the baby is a gift but I think it's nice to say "I appreciate you hanging with me" and it involves him since I get C-section

Saragoeswest · June 2014

Push presents are not out of the ordinary around here and I certainly wouldn't complain if I got one. I love presents and surprises. But really the only thing I want is to order my favorite Tuscan wine. It's happening. No question.

pnwlover12 · June 2014

MrsSinner402 said:

pnwlover12 said:

MrsSinner402 said:
I'd consider my baby as my gift. And I will be requesting Taco Bell delivered to my bedside.
Omg. This just reminded me of the night I went into labor with my DD. We had taco bell at like 9pm. My water broke an hour later. I had HORRIBLE gas all night/morning and I kept cursing myself for eating taco bell. Haha.
The poor doc had to deal with Taco Bell toots while you were delivering?! I guess that's why they get paid the big bucks.

Mostly the nurses.

I didn't start pushing til about 3pm. But I did bring a big box of chocolates for my RN, so hopefully she didn't mind too much.

DaniGrace89 · June 2014

Yeah I asked my husband, who rolled his eyes. I agree with him...my little girl is enough.

But having a c section deserves as much credit as a vaginal birth. So if you would have gotten a "push gift" then you should get a c section gift too.

Emerald27 · June 2014

The "push present" expectation seems absolutely ridiculous to me. However, I do think it's sweet if a DH or SO decides to give a gift to the mom to connect to the sentiment of the special event of baby's birth. Not something just pricy or immediate, but something to keep forever and show your kids; "your father gave me this to celebrate your birth." Or "your grandfather gave me this to celebrate your father/mother's birth." THAT is cool.

I think DH doesn't know what push presents are, and I don't want or plan to tell him. My baby is present enough for me, and there's enough pressure, stress, and worry surrounding that day that he doesn't need some sentimental gift to worry over.

SweetMandyB12 · June 2014

I have tons of people asking me what my push present will be. Um....a frozen strawberry margarita? I'd like to start a Pandora bracelet with a mom charm, and i'd love a James Michelle engraved gold bar necklace with baby's name (https://jamesmichelle.com/shop/gold-bar-name-necklace/), but I planned on asking for those for Christmas. Maybe I will drop a hint and see what he decides, but I'm not asking for anything but an uneventful labor and delivery, resulting in a healthy, beautiful baby girl.

mandapear · June 2014

When DS was born, we bought a new camera (a Canon mirror less SLR) that has helped document LO's life this far. It was an excellent and IMO appropriate gift.

BreandMikewedding · June 2014

MrsL2B said:
My default answer for every time I get asked what I want for any occasion is permanent eyebrow makeup. But I'll probably just be very happy with having this baby come out safe & sound and having a nice glass of champagne.

Omg @MrsL2B‌ don't do it!!! My
Mom just got this done and it's scary! She said it hurt so bad that she didn't want them to finish and my children were literally afraid of her the first few times they saw her after she had it done.

lrobi13 · June 2014

My mom has brought it up in front of DH and i said he can get me the new tire i need (may have taken a chunk out of the current one ona curb.

HappyCianci · June 2014

Push presents wig me out! I guess our culture's buy-buy-buy mentality has now invaded every last moment of our lives. I don't count little sentimental gestures, like flowers, or your DH's charm for you, @PurpleHippo19. It's the designer purses, cars, and other big-ticket items that depress me.

Delicious food and drink, however, are entirely different! I would have loved a special meal in the hospital with my son, but my DF didn't drive at the time and we were both just staring at our baby in a dumb awe anyway. The hospital wheeled in trays of awful cafeteria food every few hours and we took pictures of them to amuse ourselves. Now we have a whole album of pictures of our newborn son interspersed with jello cups and oversteamed carrots.

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beachbumsc · June 2014

DH has been asked by a few of our friends what he is getting me as a push present. We just tell them my push present is getting new boobs after we're done having kids and breastfeeding!

DreadGamerWife · June 2014

DH and I talked about this. I informed him that aside from our LO, I will want a pint of Ben and Jerry's ice cream and some chocolate cake. Even then, he can assign that task to any hospital visitors that we get - which he probably will. I will eventually get a simple birthstone ring with Schroeder's birthstone on it, but that is something that I will want to pick out.

wildflower75 · June 2014

mel689 said:

It seems like "push presents" are a fairly new trend. I actually don't know of anyone IRL that has revieved/given a "push present". If your SO wants to give you something for carrying/birthing his child.. cool! But I don't like that it something that is somewhat expected now.

I have a friend who introduced me to term push gift... She had her son 14 years ago...and received a beautiful diamond necklace (she also had a scheduled c-section). Maybe it is common in certain cultures? I'm not sure...
I would never ask for one and I didn't get one last time but I gave birth 2 months before Mother's Day so I knew I'd get something nice then!

I have a whole pinterest board of nice push gifts and/ or Mother's Day gifts. I LOVE wearing jewelry with my baby and DH's name or initials!

https://www.pinterest.com/babyhallblog/push-presents/

raynes · June 2014

I generally find the idea to be kinda silly, but if H wanted to get me a pair of lab diamond studs, I would not be at all upset.

Like these: https://www.diamondnexus.com/round-cut-studs-screw-back-martini-set.html

bumpuser10309732 · June 2014

I told him to sneak me in wine. Is that bad form? This is going to make us sound like alchy's but DH likes fancy alcohol and I've been buying him nice scotch etc when we do something big. Like when we bought our first house. I heard someone say that their dad's best friend bought him an expensive bottle of alcohol the day she was born and they drank it on her wedding day. I thought that was a nice sentiment. Like a coming full circle thing. I don't expect anything from DH. We'll probably be so enamored by this tiny life that we'll forget about everything for a while.

wildflower75 · June 2014

beachbumsc said:

DH has been asked by a few of our friends what he is getting me as a push present. We just tell them my push present is getting new boobs after we're done having kids and breastfeeding!

I've been praying everyday that I would have nice boobs after breastfeeding... My DD sucked the life out of my breast and I was so sad this past year so I am hoping something changes this time around, if not I will seriously consider new boobs!!

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