This is my second child, we tossed/sold/donated most of my firsts things figuring we were done at one. And if it's another sex that's another story; so question: anyone else thinking of having another baby shower for the second child?
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Re: Any second baby shower plans?
We threw a 'sprinkle' for my sister when she was pregnant with her dd (she had her ds 3 years before) just because we wanted to celebrate and get everyone together again. She didn't make a registry and people were not expected to bring gifts, unlike with a typical shower where making a registry and bringing a gift is pretty much expected.
(PS- I may be totally alone here, but IMO wanting/buying all new stuff because your second (3rd etc) baby is a different sex than the first makes me so irritated. And so does hearing people say that their girls can wear blue or green, but their boys can't wear pink or purple. Color's are colors. end of mini-rant.)
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I technically could have a shower because my youngest is 5 and this is my husbands first.. but I don't want one. I had my shower with my first.
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I know no one like this, but a few friends were thrown 2nd and 3rd showers but they called them diaper showers. Everyone brought diapers for a raffle then the rest of the time was fun games and hanging out and no gifts were necessary
I'm firmly in the Camp Social-Anxiety. Throw all the showers you want for me, I wont be there.
Never had one, never will.
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I know a few people who are either like that or expect a shower with every pregnancy. I don't think anyone thinks it of me, though.
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For the rest of you: Thank you for your opinions. I'm not begging for a shower, or gifts, or furniture, or supplies; didn't get them with my DS's shower and won't ask for them now. I strictly wanted to know if you approved or disapproved of multiple showers. I should've worded better; thanks again for all your time and opinions
I personally think there is nothing wrong with having a celebration for a 2nd or even 3rd child. If your in it for the gifts that's your hang up not mine. I always saw a baby shower or a sprinkle as a way to celebrate with friends and family the BABY not just the mother and to ask for things.
But as seen from the previous post I seem to be tacky and unpopular in my opinion.
That being said, this second baby is a different sex than my first. I will have more things to buy than I originally thought, but DH and I are fully prepared to buy those items.
It used to bother me when my friends would ask "what are your parents buying for you? Mine bought our baby furniture". I'm like......whaaaa?
I also think it is so tacky when I get shower invites from people I hardly know.
But, if someone offers to throw you a second shower- go for it- but please be tasteful in who you invite. And be very, very grateful.
I guess I disagree with your definition of a shower being all about gifts. I am under the belief a shower is a time to celebrate a baby coming into the world and the mother who has carried the baby. I welcome the time for women to come together and chat about pregnancy. I also see your point in saying you can only be welcomed into motherhood once. However I look forward to a time where I can get together with my aunts and discuss their experiences..(this has yet to be done as family functions are huge and hard to have real conversations when looking after a little one)..even experiences relating to welcoming the second or third child....and how motherhood will change. I guess it just comes down to the idea of traditional views. Traditionally a woman would always have a shower for a first baby....families and friends were close together.
Also I would like to add my son did not need anything. I bought him all the essentials. I look forward to purchasing more "luxury" items this time.