Depression Support Group

gahorseygal · June 2014

Submitted a request to join - I've just recently started posting on the bump boards so I'm a bit of a newbie.

I have been really struggling with depression during my pregnancy and have a hard time talking to others about it. My DH is very worried about me having PPD but doesn't know how to handle it. I'm not really sure what he could be doing differently either. I would really love a place to come and feel supported

gahorseygal · June 2014

Thanks @YoginiKiki! And I'm sad to be a bit late to the game but I understand. Here is a bit about me -

I'm 25 and my DH and I have been married for over a year (2 years in November). We knew we wanted kids sooner rather than later and decided to start trying after a year of marriage thinking it would take a few months to get pregnant as I was coming off of birth control. It only took two months and we were both surprised but so excited!!

My DH is an engineer at a major flooring company's manufacturing facility. I work part time from home doing web/graphic design. I love working from home and setting my own schedule but I think its a big factor in the depression. Before getting pregnant I had another part time job at a resort down the road working with the horses leading trail rides. I'm horse obsessed but decided not to work with horses while pregnant as I didn't want to get kicked (I had a horse kick me below my stomach when i was in high school). Horses have always been a huge help with my depression as well and it has been hard not being able to ride. I haven't wanted to go out to the barn for fear it would be too hard.

Okay on a happier note - we have wonderful friends, two of which live next door to us and have a little girl of their own. We also have very loving and supportive families. Weekends are usually good times for me as we spend them with either friends or family.

Hopefully that gives a tiny bit of insight to me! And here are the answers to your questions....

What is your favorite food so far during preg? Mac and Cheese!! I have had some serious cravings and will eat it daily for lunch if I'm not careful.

What is your favorite tv show/movie/book? I can't pick a favorite! TV show depends on time of year (so sad GoT just finished and we just finished Orange is the New Black) and I read all the time! Currently I love getting free kindle books and have been enjoying smutty romance novels. Haha! Usually I'm more of a sci-fi/fantasy/futuristic type of girl.

How far along are you/ how has preg been so far? Is this your first? How long have you and your DH been together? 33 weeks and 5 days (my ticker is a day off). This is our first LO and my husband and I have been together almost 4 years. We got married on the date we started dating, 11/11

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notacleverusername · June 2014

I'd like to join too please. I wrote a bit about why but trigger warning*** if you're sensitive to anything related to attempted suicide.

I had PPD with my first baby, but I think I've probably dealt with depression on some level most of my life. My family is extremely dysfunctional. My Mom came to England to meet my son when he was 4 months old and "help" me out for a few weeks. She's been MIA most of my life so I should have known better. She ended up hospitalized for delirium tremons while visiting which at the time I didn't really understand but it was traumatic and in my limited experience as a social worker then thought she was having a full psychotic breakdown in my living room at 3 am. She's always had a drinking problem but I didn't realize you could have such severe withdrawal symptoms from alcohol. She was hallucinating and was violent. Her coming to stay ended up being the worst 2 weeks of my life as she was hospitalized most the time, very angry and defensive and still refuses to acknowledge 2 years later the severity of her illness and addiction. Needless to say after she came back to the states and tried committing suicide- I myself also had a very dark time. We moved back to the states last year and since then I have really struggled with my dysfunctional family and my husbands mother who I am now convinced has a personality disorder and also a drinking problem. It was so much easier being an ocean away. I've worked through some severe anxiety and depression earlier this year in the early parts of my pregnancy after my Nana, who raised me, died and my younger brother was hospitalized three times for attempted suicide, psychosis and severe PTSD from childhood. Worst Winter Ever. Seriously, I actually get anxious thinking of the Fall and Winter now and it's months away

I feel much better lately after counseling and finding a balance with both families or at least learning my boundaries. But I do think it's very important to have a great social support and I do worry about PPD this time around. My doctor wants me on Prozac now to try and combat any potential depression and what she says will be a horrible crash with post partum hormones. I did not agree to the prozac while pregnant I wanted to see a counselor first and try some more natural remedies (I had tried tried Celexa PP and hated it) but I know I need to be on high alert for PPD, I truly feel like with both pregnancies I've dealt with pre-natal depression and am usually am able to come out of it after I crash and realize I need to talk to someone. I hope now that I'm more aware of the symptoms and my own issues I can spot PPD more quickly and try and deal with it if it arises. It's just so hard when you're in that slump and for me the anxiety is usually present too and makes it really hard to do much of anything besides cry or isolate.

This now concludes the post of oversharing doom

I was talking to a friend who also struggled with PPD and some childhood issues and we agree that we might freak people out in our other circles of friends by being the weird oversharers. And as I've come to accept that my Mom is an alcoholic and my family is fucked up, MIL is crazy etc. I am more honest about my struggles. This honestly really weirds people out. I'm not trying to get a reaction or be a one upper but if people ask me I am very honest about myself and life. I'm also a social worker so maybe that combo leads me to believe that we can help people by empathizing and relating, sometimes telling someone else you've also had a hard time makes them feel less alone. That has come with years of tears, counseling, depression, anxiety. So it's good sometimes to be around people who understand or talk to people even over the internet who understand. Normal people as I call them, haha, can be judgemental without even realizing it.

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