Feeling regret from Circ

EandIMommy86 · June 2014

Did anyone in here who circumcised their boys now feel bad? I had been researching more information and actually found out that the rates are down to 33% or so, which means most people are not having it done AND I have heard a few stories of women that watched their sons have it done and it broke my heart.

It wasn't necessary and now I feel like I did it because I didn't research enough. Anyone else?

tisunge602 · June 2014

Nope! I'm glad we did it.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

I don't feel guilty for the circ per se. I feel guilty that I wasn't educated enough to notice the problem that he had with the skin not being connected which will cause him to have to have surgery later. I feel like if I had been able to detect that right away I would have stopped them from performing the circ in the hospital and would have it all done at the same time.

He will now have to be re-circ and has adhesions due to the skin problem

eta: Luke would have had to have the surgery either way and the condition has nothing to do with his circ, but it is recommended that if this condition is present to wait to circ until after the correction surgery.

EandIMommy86 · June 2014

How come? The more I researched it the more I am kicking myself for not doing more. I know there is nothing I can do about it now, but I still feel bad.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

@eandimommy86 is there a reason that you are feeling this way? did something go wrong with the circ?

tisunge602 · June 2014

EandIMommy86 said:

How come? The more I researched it the more I am kicking myself for not doing more. I know there is nothing I can do about it now, but I still feel bad.

I'm hesitant to answer because having a big circumcision debate is SO last year (haha), but mostly because it's cleaner and less prone to infections. We've had zero complications from A's circ and it healed very quickly.

barista411 · June 2014

I have had moments. I let DH make the decision and it was important that DS look like him so we did. I hesitated going through with it after DS was born because I felt like it was an unnecessary procedure. We have also battled a few adhesions and I feel bad that separating the adhesions is uncomfortable. At the end of the day what's done is done and I'm not going to stress about.

ETA: I'm gonna pull a Homer in the bushes if this turns into a circ debate. I think we can all agree we have BTDT.

EandIMommy86 · June 2014

https://www.circumcision.org/mothers.htm

After I read this it really bothered me that I did it

[Deleted User] · June 2014

@devynnmarie I "loved" your response to show support. I feel the same way about Luke having to have surgery.

cagoldi · June 2014

We elected to circ A. I don't regret, although I have to admit I would probably feel differently had there been any complications.

Our doc used the Plastibell and he cried less than he did when getting shots, and when he has shots he has never cried for more than a minute. He did seem uncomfortable later that night and we gave him some infant Tylenol.

I've seen circumcisions performed a couple times at a bris, and while I'm sure it was painful, the babies weren't in any great distress.

EandIMommy86 · June 2014

cagoldi said:

We elected to circ A. I don't regret, although I have to admit I would probably feel differently had there been any complications.

Our doc used the Plastibell and he cried less than he did when getting shots, and when he has shots he has never cried for more than a minute. He did seem uncomfortable later that night and we gave him some infant Tylenol.

I've seen circumcisions performed a couple times at a bris, and while I'm sure it was painful, the babies weren't in any great distress.

Lots of babies go into shock. In the link I posted, I think both of those women's babies did.

cagoldi · June 2014

I should add, I did consider our options before deciding to go through with this but ultimately decided we would go forward with the circ.

I researched while PG and in the period leading up to the procedure (he had it done a few weeks after birth due to jaundice).

EandIMommy86 · June 2014

Sing2phins said:

EandIMommy86 said:

cagoldi said:

We elected to circ A. I don't regret, although I have to admit I would probably feel differently had there been any complications.

Our doc used the Plastibell and he cried less than he did when getting shots, and when he has shots he has never cried for more than a minute. He did seem uncomfortable later that night and we gave him some infant Tylenol.

I've seen circumcisions performed a couple times at a bris, and while I'm sure it was painful, the babies weren't in any great distress.

Lots of babies go into shock. In the link I posted, I think both of those women's babies did.

Two anecdotes is hardly "a lot." I think you are overthinking this. It's done now; there's no sense beating yourself up over it. Can you at least take comfort in knowing that (1) he doesn't have any complications from it and (2) he doesn't/won't remember the pain at all?

Those were just examples. There are more that have felt that way and you are right, but those two things do not change the fact that I feel bad. That is why I was curious to see if anyone else had felt the same way. I will get over it, but it was just something that had crossed my mind lately.

BookBug12 · June 2014

No regrets here. DS's healed quickly without any complications.

Mum2Be28 · June 2014

I don't regret it, but we haven't had any complications. In the hospital I did feel really bad about the pain he went through and I expressed those feelings to my pedi. His response was, "it hurt him a whole lot more when he came out of your vagina and you aren't worried about that are you? He's fine, he will just be very sleepy today and he won't ever remember the pain." It was an interesting/odd response but in that moment it made me feel a little better.

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