i was reading the daycare post on pg 2 and it got me thinking.?its high school that you really need to worry about! thats what ruined me.?
I am so worried about what middle school and HS will be like for dd. i was tortured. I went to a small school in a rural area and I was the freaky/artsy kid. No FFA or 4H for me. I stuck out like a giant at a little people's convention.
I never really worried about daycare. I felt like I picked a good one and that it would all work out. I don't have that kind of control w/ public school. And unless we have some sort of?windfall, private school wont be an option. Not that private is any?guarantee?that she'll have a pleasant HS experience. SAH isnt an option right now either - so home-schooling is out. I dont think i'd be very good at that anyway.
have you thought about this at all? where do you plan on sending DC for school, public or private?
this will probably open up a whole other can o' worms. so keep it clean girls. no bricks in the boxing gloves.?
Re: dont worry about sending your baby to daycare.....
DH and I are conflicted on what to do. He went to a small private school in NY, and he absolutely hated it. He had horrible experiences with a douche of a principle who was on a power trip. I went to a pubic school, and I absolutely hated it too, for the most part. Awful people, awful classes, and awful teachers.
We really don't know what we will do at this point. DH wants to homeschool (he was homeschooled for middle school) because he loved being able to set his own schedule and go at his own pace. I am not so sure because I don't have a whole lo of experience with it. We will have to cross that bridge when we get to it.
This is so ironic. I was just talking to my mom this morning about day care, because there are some things I just love about our provider and other things that annoy me. My mom reminded me that as long he is well cared for, safe, and happy these little annoying things are not going to effect him. And, seriously, sometimes I wonder what I am expecting....someone to hold him and interact with him constantly???? I don't even do that myself! Anyways, my point here is that you are SO right! Right now as parents we have control over what is happening and if we don't like something our provider does we tell them and they change it. So, we are going to tell the other kids at the high school that we really don't want our kids smoking, drinking, having sex, etc. So we would appreciate it if you stopped doing that!! Once our kids go to school we can hope that the values we have keep with them and they choose good friends and focus on the important things. And I have few memories of my younger years, but many of HS that have effected me today. Okay, I am rambling...but your post is right on and kind of has me thinking in a positive direction this morning!
LOL... yes, if my history is any indication of DS's future, then junior high will be much more difficult for him! Ah, the memories!
As for schools, we will absolutely go private.
i think moving back to PA is our plan. Good schools there and more diverse. ?I feel pretty much the same way you do on all points. I hate to generalize private school that way - but it seems to be the case around here at least. We do have St. Andrews and they get kids from other countries. But unless i get a job there, there is no way in hell i can ever begin to afford that!
This is going to be especially tough for us. I teach in a Catholic school (very middle class/lower class with pretty good diversity, btw) working toward a degree in administration and my husband is a public h.s. guidance counselor. We are both products of the Catholic schools, but support public education as well. I guess it will depend on which district we live in and our financial situation when the time comes.
Yeah I mean if I felt my kids weren't getting a quality education at their public school then I would definately consider private, but if you are in a good district then I think you get the best of all worlds, diversity, education, sports/arts opportunities and its free (sorta) haha.
Great point. I think that daycare is not going to "ruin" a kid...there are so many more important things that have an effect on them. Instilling good values, showing a good marriage, etc.
This post makes me feel better, thanks Momma Brown!
Oh and I am all for public schools, but not in the area I currently live. We'll probably move before DS gets to school age, to an area w/ good public schools.
i worry about high school and middle school too. especially because i know what i did during those years and i certainly wouldn't want a child of mine doing it. i turned out ok, but things could have gone differently.
that said, the public schools in our area are good, so that's where our son will go.
DH and I ar prowd produckts of the Seattle Publick Skool sistem and we turned out just fyne!
But seriously, thank goodness I was in the honors program. The regular kids were allow to sit there and throw stuff at each other. It was like Dangerous Minds. I was in a Creative Writing class that was cancelled because I was the ONLY one in there who had taken the appropriate English classes for my grade level. The majority of the class was 12th graders who hadn't taken LA 10. The schools in our district are grossly under funded. I remember middle school when there were buckets of rain water all around the hallways because they couldn't afford to fix the leaky roof. However, when Al Gore came to our school in freshman year, they magically had the money to repaint the entire thing.
I know this post was originally about taunting, but that experience affects my decision as well. Many people from the regular classes were ill-prepared for college.
Middle school sucked and I was hardly even teased. I got teased for having braces but that's about it. It's just an awkward phase. Most people had a horrible time. However, unlike the illustrious OP Brownie, there were hardly any rich kids in my school so we didn't even have 4H as an option and there was plenty of diversity.
So, if my chillins are smart enough to make the honors program, I'd say public school is just fine. The diversity in the Seattle Public Schools is awesome, and I'd want that for Alana. There is no way I'd ever want her to go to an all-white school. That would be super lame. I want her to get the opportunity to appreciate diversity and different kinds of people.?
Public for K-8 as we plan to move to the burbs when DD is of school-age.
Private for high school, as there's a wonderful all-girl Catholic high school that supports independence, academic and athletic prowess, and general "strong female values" etc., which will support the way we raise DD at a critical time of development.
u iz fine wit sum therapizing after gradeeattion yesh. :P
my HS experienced centered around taunting because there was so much its all i could focus on. but by all means, if you all had a different experience, do tell. ?