When do you tell your mom/dad you're pregnant?

iandebender · June 2014

Hello All, I'm 28 yrs old on my second pregnancy. My husband and I have a beautiful 2yr old daughter. I remember first time around telling mom right away. This time around I'm thinking "what if..[insert every worse possible outcome here]" I want to tell my mom but only managed to tell my best friend and husband so far. I'm unsure of how far along I am because my cycles were irregular. I should find out today because I had a 2nd HCG quantative done yesterday to figure it out. This is nerve racking. I'm so excited/Worried/nervous/exstatic!

mkrk227 · June 2014

This is my first pregnancy and I am having a terrible time keeping it a secret! I told my mom the day after I found it and told my dad last Friday through his Father's Day gift. We told my MIL last Friday at dinner.

In my head, I figured the more people that know = more prayers and support for a healthy pregnancy. These are people I would want support from if, God forbid, something were to happen.

I would go with whatever feels right to you.

ryeleeandrori · June 2014

We told our parents right away with my previous pregnancies. This one I'm not sure when we will tell. I kinda like the idea of me and DH having our little secret.

elangdon1110 · June 2014

With my 3 year old, we waited until 8 weeks because we were scared (we just moved in togegher and were 20 years old). This time around I went to my moms one day, and she said "when are you going to tell me, I already talked to your father and we are happy" it was creepy

dreemkin84 · June 2014

We hold my ILs over the phone (they live across the country) the other night. This was after we saw a heartbeat We are going out to eat with my parents monday to tell them.

thegoodpotato · June 2014

My first two, I told my mom pretty much as soon as I POAS.

This time we waited a couple days. I wasn't sure how my mom would take it.

jaztastic · June 2014

I told my parents on Fathers Day... 1) My mom and I are ridiculously close, we talk about 2x a day everyday. So skipping it during every conversation would be tough. 2) If something did happen, Id want them right by my side, and would hate that they found out about the baby, after a tradgedy.

Ive started to tell siblings and close friends since our HB ultra sound. Right now there are about 10 total people that know and thats enough.

Everyone else will find out if/when I decide to tell after 1st tri or when they notice I have a beach ball under my shirt.

lcwed · June 2014

We will tell them after the dating ultrasound. We did the same thing with DD.

mandamoochie · June 2014

Our rule of thumb is if something (god forbid) happens; who would you want support from about it...? those are the people you tell now. Now my husband has been more talkative this time around.. like he told our banker... im like that's *just* who you would want to talk about problems with..isnt it?

HerHighness · June 2014

I called my mom before the pee on the stick was dry. All i said was... I drank the water. I told her should could tell stepdad.

Still havent told my dad

Oem617 · June 2014

With DS we waiting till about 11 weeks. This time we are waiting till about 9 weeks after our first u/s. It's a personal choice.

jmcgra06 · June 2014

With the first babe, we told MIL right away but told my parents after the 8 week ultrasound. (We didn't mean to tell MIL so early, but her mom was sick and it just kind of cane out.) MIL told everyone before even made it the OB. Needless to say, we are not telling her early time. We told my parents and sisters before the stick even dried this time.

mands1125 · June 2014

We haven't told our parents yet. We will after our appointment July 1st. I will be almost 9 weeks then.

blt12 · June 2014

As soon as we were able to travel home we told our parents. Mainly because they will be our support in our time of waiting and our support in case anything happens.

kimmykaye · June 2014

My parents and sisters know, but DH wants to wait til after the u/s to tell his mom and siblings. We'll wait til 12-16 weeks to tell the rest of the world.

maltwin1 · June 2014

With DS we waited until about 10 weeks, but mainly because Mother's Day was coming up and we couldn't resist the opportunity to surprise everyone.

This time my parents already know because they knew all about our IUI. We'll tell DH's parents in a few weeks.

AggieMom0809 · June 2014

I haven't told mine yet, but I did tell my younger sister. I'm nervous because while this is our third I'm due only a couple months after my brother's wife is due with their first.

freegiraffe · June 2014

We already told my mom and stepdad. I was too excited and it'll be their first grandkid. We're waiting to tell DH's parents on his mom's birthday in July.

Neary2011 · June 2014

We have our 1st prenatal appointment on July 17 and that is when we will share the news with our parents.

stellasoo · June 2014

I don't know when we'll tell our parents.

My mom is super overbearing and annoying so the longer we wait, the less we'll have to deal with it. If I could, I would wait to tell her and my dad until after the baby is born. I told my sister a few days after we found out and swore her to secrecy.

We could tell DH's parents any time but we haven't figured out how to tell DH's brother and SIL. They couldn't get pregnant and have been waiting to adopt for over 2 years now. DH isn't close to his brother and we really don't know how to tell them. I am praying that a birth mother chooses them before we announce anything. They don't know we were trying so it will come as a complete shock.

I hate that this needs to be so difficult.

iebender · June 2014

@stellasoo‌ that is tough. I'm sure they'll be happy for you whenever you come out about it.

cannolioh · June 2014

We will tell our parents near the end of the first trimester. I've already told my 2 best friends. Extended family and other friends I will tell mid 2nd tri, before it becomes obvious that I am showing.

lcarp203 · June 2014

I told my parents right away as they were aware of our struggles with infertility over the past 3 years. DH wants to wait to tell his till after the first trimester as they live across the country. I have a history of miscarriage which my parents are aware of but his are not. So he doesn't want to get anyone's hope up.

Allie429 · June 2014

With our first, we told them after the first ultrasound when we got the go ahead from the doctor. This go round, I told a close work friend (who was also one of the first people to know with my daughter) and my husband told a fellow firefighter at work who he is really close to. I have my first appointment tomorrow then after our first ultrasound, we will tell family. I am hoping it will be in the next few weeks bc we are doing family portraits so we will all be together and a great opportunity!

one2andnow3 · June 2014

I told my mom yesterday, but waiting to tell dad and step mom with some cute creative way closer to 12 weeks.

psychobutthead · June 2014

With my last pregnancy we were so excited we told everyone right away at only 5 weeks. The next week I miscarried. No one was supportive during that time and told me I should just get over it.
With that said I don't plan on telling his family or mine anytime soon. I don't want to be treated the way I was before if something happens. We'll probably tell them at 12 weeks.

ForeverAmberNicole · June 2014

We told my family and in-laws the day we found out. I've already announced it on Facebook. I want all the prayers i can. Last time i waited till 12 weeks to announce, i miscarried the next week. At first i was upset that i had announced it But then i realized that it was good that i had. Everyone's sympathy and prayers helped me grieve. I still talk about my little one, my kids leave stuff at his grave, we talk about him. That's why even though i have 2 living children our announcement said baby #4.

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