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She (or they) would be 3 (losses mentioned).....

Im not sure where this belongs but I'm having a very rough time this week recovering from a loss Monday and hitting the EDD from my first pregnancy tomorrow. It's too much for one week. I just don't understand and I'm hoping to find out more at my appointment tomorrow. I had normal beta levels and 2 ultrasounds that showed everything on track and even a heartbeat at 6w3d last month. It's just a little unnerving and I'm not even sure where to start or where to go. I suspected Saturday morning things weren't looking good, but I never expected to wake up hemorrhaging very early Monday morning. Even though I had great care with this loss (they hospital and doctors office have both called to check on me yesterday) and things were taken care of fast enough to avoid a blood transfusion or oxygen, I wonder if I should be happy with the kids I have and call it quits. I don't know if it's worth risking my life to risk another ectopic rupture (I spent 2 nights in the hospital with that loss on oxygen) or having another complicated loss...I do want to see my kids grow up. It's frustrating. Plus I think my ODS needs me a lot. Sorry for the rambling.
TTC January 2010
BFP #1 10-11-10 ectopic discovered 10-22-10, 10-23-10 methotrexate & emergency surgery, lost right tube BFP #2 12-1-10 Found to be tissue dropped from salingectomy or missed heterotopic pregnancy from BFP #1 BFP #3 1-30-11 DS arrived on due date 10-10-11 BFP #4 Surprise 9-3-12 EDD 5-9-13 DS2 arrived 5-5-13 BFP #5 5-14-14 Emergency D&C 6-16-14 9 weeks

Re: She (or they) would be 3 (losses mentioned).....

  • I'm so sorry that you have to go through again.  ((hugs))

    I know there is a lot of thoughts swirling around in your head right now.  I struggled with whether to continue trying myself after my second loss.  Things are very fresh right now and it's hard to see what the best path is. 

    Take care of yourself.  If you decide to try again later, the option is there.  If you decide that you are happy with your family as it is, that's okay too.  Take some time, nothing has to be decided right now.

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    BFP #1 - 01/12/12, EDD 09/12/12, Medical Induction @ 21 weeks 05/03/12
    BFP #2 - 10/30/12, EDD 07/04/13, Natural m/c @ 5 weeks 11/01/12
    BFP #3 - 02/07/13, EDD 10/12/13
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  • Sending many T&Ps your way. EDDs are always rough, but to also be fresh off another loss would be too much for any one person to handle. I am so very sorry you are dealing with all of this. I hope you are getting lots of love and support at home!

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     TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)

    BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d

    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

    BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby 

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    I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this (((hugs)))


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  • I'm sorry for all your losses. It's a lot to deal with. I think it would be completely understandable if you chose to forgo further attempts that might your life at risk as well as risking more heartache and loss. It's a choice only you and your husband can make. Don't feel pressured to make a decision on that, the right answer will make itself clear in time. When your heart is hurting like it is, not a good time to be making life decisions.

    I hope you can find peace with whatever you decide.

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    BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
    BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
    BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
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  • I'm so sorry you're going through this again.  It's so unfair to have one loss, let alone deal with multiple ones.  Huge hugs!  The decision to try again or to stop trying is a huge one and I wish you the best  with making it.
    FmrAFBrat
  • Thanks ladies! The physical recovery from this loss is 100% easier than my 1st one but it's still sad and breaks my heart. I figure I'll take it one day at a time and see where the path leads.
    TTC January 2010
    BFP #1 10-11-10 ectopic discovered 10-22-10, 10-23-10 methotrexate & emergency surgery, lost right tube BFP #2 12-1-10 Found to be tissue dropped from salingectomy or missed heterotopic pregnancy from BFP #1 BFP #3 1-30-11 DS arrived on due date 10-10-11 BFP #4 Surprise 9-3-12 EDD 5-9-13 DS2 arrived 5-5-13 BFP #5 5-14-14 Emergency D&C 6-16-14 9 weeks
  • I am so incredibly sorry. Big, big hugs.

     

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    Clomid 50mg,100mg,150mg | Injectables + IUI#1 & IUI#2= BFN
    IVF#1~ 8/2012~ 13 frosties~ BFP! OHSS
    12/4/12 Luke & Kyle born @ 18 weeks
    SHG+ Hysteroscopy+ FET= BFP | Cerclage+ Lovenox+ 5m Bed Rest
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  • Oh my, I am so sorry for everything you are dealing with. I think whatever you decide will be what's best for your family no matter what, so try not to stress about that right now because it will all end up how it's supposed to. You have enough going on without trying to figure that out right now though. Just focus on healing both physically and emotionally and when you feel a bit better you can think about what the future holds. You have my T&Ps that's for sure. Hang in there. ((Hugs))
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    BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
    BFP #2 8/29/11 ~ EDD 5/12/12. 4/25/12: Our take home baby is here!
     BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14.  4/27/14:  Our second take home baby is here!

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  • Thanks ladies! My appointment went well today in contrast to the one I had with my first loss and both people from my doctors office and hospital have called to check in on me. I'm clear in a few months...but I'm still on the fence a lot.
    TTC January 2010
    BFP #1 10-11-10 ectopic discovered 10-22-10, 10-23-10 methotrexate & emergency surgery, lost right tube BFP #2 12-1-10 Found to be tissue dropped from salingectomy or missed heterotopic pregnancy from BFP #1 BFP #3 1-30-11 DS arrived on due date 10-10-11 BFP #4 Surprise 9-3-12 EDD 5-9-13 DS2 arrived 5-5-13 BFP #5 5-14-14 Emergency D&C 6-16-14 9 weeks
  • I'm so sorry for your loss (((hugs)))


    TTC since August 2011
    BFP#1 3/16/12 EDD 11/21/12 Delivered 6/1/12 at 15 weeks 2 days
    "If there ever comes a day when we can't be together... Keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever." ~ Winnie the Pooh

    BFP#2 4/14/13 EDD 12/24/13 Please be our rainbow after the storm!
    Beta#1 @ 15dpo 274, P4 16.9 Beta#2 @ 18dpo 940!! Doubling time of 40 hours!! u/s @ 6w2d showed a beautiful HB of 120! u/s @ 10w1d HB 174!! Grow, LO Grow!! Found out 7/22 we are TEAM BLUE!!
    Zaiden Harper was born 12/22/13 at 1:46 am. 9lbs 8oz and 22in
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