Parenting after a Loss
FmrAFBrat
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She (or they) would be 3 (losses mentioned).....
FmrAFBrat
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Im not sure where this belongs but I'm having a very rough time this week recovering from a loss Monday and hitting the EDD from my first pregnancy tomorrow. It's too much for one week. I just don't understand and I'm hoping to find out more at my appointment tomorrow. I had normal beta levels and 2 ultrasounds that showed everything on track and even a heartbeat at 6w3d last month. It's just a little unnerving and I'm not even sure where to start or where to go. I suspected Saturday morning things weren't looking good, but I never expected to wake up hemorrhaging very early Monday morning. Even though I had great care with this loss (they hospital and doctors office have both called to check on me yesterday) and things were taken care of fast enough to avoid a blood transfusion or oxygen, I wonder if I should be happy with the kids I have and call it quits. I don't know if it's worth risking my life to risk another ectopic rupture (I spent 2 nights in the hospital with that loss on oxygen) or having another complicated loss...I do want to see my kids grow up. It's frustrating. Plus I think my ODS needs me a lot. Sorry for the rambling.
TTC January 2010
BFP #1 10-11-10 ectopic discovered 10-22-10,
10-23-10 methotrexate & emergency surgery, lost right tube BFP #2
12-1-10 Found to be tissue dropped from salingectomy or missed heterotopic
pregnancy from BFP #1 BFP #3 1-30-11 DS arrived on due date 10-10-11 BFP
#4 Surprise 9-3-12 EDD 5-9-13 DS2 arrived 5-5-13 BFP #5 5-14-14 Emergency D&C 6-16-14 9 weeks
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Re: She (or they) would be 3 (losses mentioned).....
BFP #1 - 01/12/12, EDD 09/12/12, Medical Induction @ 21 weeks 05/03/12
BFP #2 - 10/30/12, EDD 07/04/13, Natural m/c @ 5 weeks 11/01/12
BFP #3 - 02/07/13, EDD 10/12/13
Dx: Incompotent Cervix
TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)
BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d
BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13
BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks
BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby
I'm sorry for all your losses. It's a lot to deal with. I think it would be completely understandable if you chose to forgo further attempts that might your life at risk as well as risking more heartache and loss. It's a choice only you and your husband can make. Don't feel pressured to make a decision on that, the right answer will make itself clear in time. When your heart is hurting like it is, not a good time to be making life decisions.
I hope you can find peace with whatever you decide.
BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
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12/4/12 Luke & Kyle born @ 18 weeks
SHG+ Hysteroscopy+ FET= BFP | Cerclage+ Lovenox+ 5m Bed Rest
~Our wee guy is here! 11/27/13~
BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/29/11 ~ EDD 5/12/12. 4/25/12: Our take home baby is here!
BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14. 4/27/14: Our second take home baby is here!
TTC since August 2011
BFP#1 3/16/12 EDD 11/21/12 Delivered 6/1/12 at 15 weeks 2 days
"If there ever comes a day when we can't be together... Keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever." ~ Winnie the Pooh
BFP#2 4/14/13 EDD 12/24/13 Please be our rainbow after the storm!
Beta#1 @ 15dpo 274, P4 16.9 Beta#2 @ 18dpo 940!! Doubling time of 40 hours!! u/s @ 6w2d showed a beautiful HB of 120! u/s @ 10w1d HB 174!! Grow, LO Grow!! Found out 7/22 we are TEAM BLUE!!
Zaiden Harper was born 12/22/13 at 1:46 am. 9lbs 8oz and 22in
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