My son is perfect, two weeks old. He's beautiful... And I can't seem to have any mommy instinct. I feed him and pray he falls asleep. I just feel like I dont want to be a mom, I am on medication have been for a week. All I want is my husband, who works very long hours. I feel like I am indifferent to my child.
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My little guy is 3 weeks tomorrow. I am getting used to the big change at this point, but I'm still struggling with missing my old life and ruining a good thing my husband and I had going. I loved my old life with just my husband and I. I never thought I would feel like this at all!
Hang in there! This last week has made a big difference since my hormones are starting to come back. I'm not 100%, but I'm doing better. This is without meds, too.
Reading these posts really helps me. I have been trying to respond to others as much as I can for that reason.
I'm still upset about the change to mine and my husbands relationship, but I can tell you that the feelings aren't as strong this week. When I was pregnant I thought about how different it would be to vacation with a child and etc, but I was never upset like I have been lately. Now I feel more like when I was pregnant. Missing the old way if doing things, but not overwhelmingly.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you are doing better soon.
I'm just hoping I keep getting better from here.
My husband went to his cousins high school graduation today and I cried after he left because I wished I could have gone and felt like we have separate lives. This was the first time I cried in the last week. It scared me to start crying again, but I've been fine since.
I keep telling myself that this is gradual and I'm not going to be 100% over night.
My husband works 12 hour shifts and isn't back to work yet. I'm worried for when he goes back.
I was reading about depression and how blood loss(anemia) during delivery can cause depression. I had this happen and am currently anemic so I'm trying to concentrate on foods that will help my blood count.
Getting out really is the only thing that makes me feel okay. Whenever I leave my house I feel better. I understand people wanting to keep baby away from germs and etc., but you need to take care of yourself, too.
I was nervous going out with him, but it really isn't bad and it gets easier everytime I go out.
I am so very proud of you, you are doing so great. Keep on keeping on my friend. You are really doing fantastic.
Going out by yourself for the first time is scary, but feels good after you do it. I felt like I accomplished something and it gave me confidence to go other places.
Good luck on Wednesday!
But I reached out for help and I have someone like my mom, mil, or family friend check in on me once a day, usually lunch time. They give me food or prepare food and hold my daughter while I eat or take a shower. This has helped tremendously! I don't know if you have anyone that could do that for you. Or even have someone call you and check in, it's nice to have someone to talk to.
Also, it can be helpful to make small goals for yourself throughout the day to pass the time while your hubby is away. I just started saying to myself, at 10 I will get dressed, at 11 I will listen to the radio while nursing or watch a show that I enjoy at 12 my friend is bringing me lunch, at 2 ill call my mom to chat. Making small goals to do or look forward to helps pass the time I hope this helps and if you ever need anyone to talk to id be happy to! You're not alone!
My LO is only 2mths so I have time before weaning anyway.
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