Things nobody tells you before you have a newborn

christinanoelle · June 2014

You may not think you love your baby enough and hearing everyone say how they instantly fell in love and have never known a love like this will make you question yourself. You will get there eventually. One day, you will look at your little one and just know that you love them more than you ever thought possible. It may take days or weeks but that's ok. In the meantime, keep telling yourself: tomorrow is another day!

Kriztyn · June 2014

You realize that you'll never be ON TIME for anything ever again.

That when your husband calls to say he will be a little late from work you panic..

You don't mind getting puked on or peed on.

Baby farts are so cute!!

You miss your baby when they take a nap in their crib...

RocksInTheWater · June 2014

That within the first month after your little one is born you can't imagine ever doing it again. But by the time they have finished their fourth trimester you are already thinking about the next one.

hordol · June 2014

No one ever tells you how you start to think farts are super cute.

dmosquera4 · June 2014

Starfish+77 said:

No one tells you how much of a strain having a newborn puts on your marriage. Or maybe it's just me....

nop you are not alone its hard, you wanna punch your hubby every second of the day, especially when he makes stupid comments or doesnt realize how sleep deprived you are. i hate when i say im so tired you know i get up so many times, you keep sleeping and then he goes "i wake up to you know" ummmmm no you stay in bed i have to stay awake for 1-2 while somebody sucks on my nipple and change diapers soooo no you dont wake up too.....

Jenni0621 · June 2014

Brigie029 said:
You won't be able to sleep when the baby sleeps...ever.

You won't mind, and might actually enjoy, changing diapers because you are taking care of them.

As much as you wish your relationship with your pet won't change, it will. Our ten year old cat is not happy with us.

That you could have an easy baby who does sleep through the night at 6 weeks and eats and is adorable.

That you love them so much it hurts and to watch your partner with them makes your heart melt like ice cream on a hot day.

That you may abandon all of your prior beliefs for a few weeks, and it's okay, and you may change your mind again.

I've only held a baby a few times, never changed a diaper, or watched kids despite being maternal...That the voice inside that told you that you knew you could do this would be right, even on the days that are tough.

Lastly, wine tastes delicious and the crazy thought you had about you not missing it, really was a lie.

This exactly!!!

edoliesmom · June 2014

You thought you were just right/left-handed? You'll be ambidextrous in no time.

CatherineDC2012 · June 2014

dmosquera4 said:

Starfish+77 said:

No one tells you how much of a strain having a newborn puts on your marriage. Or maybe it's just me....

nop you are not alone its hard, you wanna punch your hubby every second of the day, especially when he makes stupid comments or doesnt realize how sleep deprived you are. i hate when i say im so tired you know i get up so many times, you keep sleeping and then he goes "i wake up to you know" ummmmm no you stay in bed i have to stay awake for 1-2 while somebody sucks on my nipple and change diapers soooo no you dont wake up too.....

Umm yup. My DH is a great man but I hear this a lot and it's so not ok. They just don't get it. He was home all day with her yesterday and only scratched the surface of understanding. I heard- I haven't been able to pee in hours and couldn't help but laugh. He also said he "ate paste" when his cereal sat in the milk for way too long before he could get to it. Ha! I read somewhere no matter how hard it gets keep reminding yourself to make your SO your partner in all of it and not your enemy. I try to keep saying that to myself when I'm frustrated and it is a good reminder.

Teresa1896 · June 2014

Nobody will do things exactly like you do, but that doesn't mean they're doing things "wrong." Other people will love your baby too; let them find their own ways of caring for LO.

Also, ask for what you need, and speak up for things that are important. Nobody is a mind reader, not even the most attentive spouse in the world!

danamarie421 · June 2014

That Breastfeeding is really hard and it may not work for you. I fully intended to bf, but was never able to get LO to latch. Don't beat yourself up over this. I spent the first few weeks of LO's life feeling depressed and guilty that bf was not working. The most important thing is that LO is being fed.

How lonely and sad you may feel and then how guilty you feel for feeling sad when you feel like you should just be overjoyed about your baby. PP hormones are no joke! It's ok to ask for help!!

How one tiny baby smile can make it all worth it....

Jennick602 · June 2014

That you will NEVER take a shit on your own again

eireyes · June 2014

dani+california said:

That you will NEVER take a shit on your own again
I have a dog and two cats. I don't think I've ever used the washroom alone...good training!

This completely!!! If I can can sit on the toilet without the cat trying to get in my lap and the dog staring at me through the doorway after the cat pushed it open I consider it a win!

moonsparkles · June 2014

That you'd buy four pairs of the same yoga pants, just so you can at least look like you got dressed even if you don't feel like you did.

That, because you couldn't think of a good excuse to say no to your kind, sweet in-laws who only want to help, you are now going to dinner at their house tonight, and the thought makes you cry. All. Day. Long.

That you will have unspecified-amount-of-time periods where you are consumed with the thought that someone will walk into the house and steal the baby/the house will catch on fire/there will be an earthquake/yellowstone will blow/some douchebag will try to kidnap you while you are taking a walk with baby and you panic, your heart starts racing while you plan your shooting/throat-slashing of said baby-stealer/exit from the house with baby and dog. Then you catch yourself, realize that it isn't actually happening, take a deep breath, calm down, but then still go and make sure the guns are stashed where they're supposed to be.

That listening to the one-sided conversation DH has with LO while he gives him a bath will be a major highlight of the day.

That you can actually be frightened by the strength of love you have for your LO.

And that you'll be lying in bed, DH asleep, and over the monitor you'll hear the loudest fart, and both you and DH start cracking up, and you realize he wasn't asleep either.

Holljade · June 2014

@sakm‌ that was a good one. I wasn't prepared to be so damn terrified once having kids.

The fear you feel is unlike anything else.

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