CPS question- updated!

tashad18 · June 2014

Everything that @sooner1981 said. Call CPS immediately. They will go forward from there. This is sick and makes me so angry. If I had all of the information for CPS I would call myself. How has someone not done something yet? Are they just waiting for something worse to happen? I am sick and tired of hearing stories of terrible abuses being done to innocent children especially when it is by their own family. Those grandparents are just as bad for not stepping in.

Phalaenopsis · June 2014

OP, please ensure cps gets called and come back and give us an update. so incredibly heartbroken for the kid and ragey at all the idiot adults involved.

germanpickle · June 2014

YOU MUST BE FUCKING KIDDING ME.

As a survivor of child abuse, I am livid. How is there even a "question" about what to do here. I'm adding my name to the list of people more than happy to call and report this shit. WTF.

Kittymom6 · June 2014

This is sick. I think you or your sister should call now. She can always call back with more info, like address, etc. Because of the time difference, however, she should be able to make the call TODAY even if it's after DH gets home.

Is her DH on board with calling CPS? It sounds as though this family is full of people who stick their heads in the sand. You need to call if your sister won't.

SweetCFly · June 2014

OP please give an update when you can. I really hope someone somewhere called...

AmandagStark · June 2014

In relation to your update: If calls have been placed before, abuse has not been substantiated for unknown reasons, but that shouldn't hinder someone from making new reports. This family is on the radar, something will come from this.

Heather91011 · June 2014

This makes me sick.

My grandmother abused my mentally challenged cousin for YEARS!! Multiple calls were made to Social Services/CPS and it took them 9 years to finally remove him from the home.

Keep calling. Every chance you get. Have multiple people call every day and keep reporting until something gets done.

Jalee85 · June 2014

Update doesn't surprise me in the least. As long as child is nourished, shows no physical signs of abuse, and child doesn't back up claims nothing will happen. BTDT

StefMurph · June 2014

It really is hard to determine when CPS will go out. My ss was molested by his bio moms husband and when we filed the report, CPA wasn't going to go out because he was safe with us. They never did a home visit to check us and they never checked on the other child living in that home although I'm confident he was being molested also.

germanpickle · June 2014

It fascinates me (in the bad way) that a person can say that they have been called twice and follows it up with a "well what can we do?" Shrug of an attitude.

You keep calling. You pursue additional avenues: police, fire, other state offices. You call the media and ask for their junior reporter who needs to get their byline in on some interesting story. You give the required information to your sister who also calls (looking at you op). You make it real.

You don't fucking shrug. When you shrug, you are part of the problem.

megs1409 · June 2014

This whole thread makes my stomach hurt for those poor kids.

Seriously, all the authorities need to be notified.

MissLauraPants · June 2014

CPS in Texas at least is a crazy entity in terms that sometimes they do things way overboard (that I have seen) and sometimes they do nothing at all. And sometimes they do everything just right. CPS workers get payed nothing, have a high caseload, burnout is frequent and turnover is allllll the time.

As a therapist I never know how it will go when I make a report. Every time you hear something new you need to make a report and have them investigate each time. That is their job. And yours is to keep reporting any abuse you may hear about or suspect to them.

Jalee85 · June 2014

germanpickle said:
It fascinates me (in the bad way) that a person can say that they have been called twice and follows it up with a "well what can we do?" Shrug of an attitude.

You keep calling. You pursue additional avenues: police, fire, other state offices. You call the media and ask for their junior reporter who needs to get their byline in on some interesting story. You give the required information to your sister who also calls (looking at you op). You make it real.

You don't fucking shrug. When you shrug, you are part of the problem.

Sorry but I disagree. When CPS has checked and you have called the cops, and they do nothing. It only makes the child's life more miserable.

In my case I talked to CPS on many occasions and they never did anything. They even found a knife my cousin hid under the couch to protect his infant brother from their Dad. He had already strangled their Mom. You know what CPS did? They told him if you are afraid call the cops.

We were told there was literally NOTHING that could be done. We had multiple family members make reports.

My Aunt even left her two kids alone to go to Mexico. I think he was 11 and youngest was 2. They were gonna be gone for over a week. Once again we called. My Aunt simply just lied and said a friend was responsible for them and she just had not picked them up yet.

She was a freaking drug addict teacher. Guess what even warning the school did nothing.

All that alerting the authorities did was alienate my cousin from his family, since she didn't allow contact anymore.

ETA - Guess what he never called the cops. He was never taken away. The 2k I had saved to go get my cousins went to waste.

edaire · June 2014

After working for CPS for 5 yrs in Louisiana, I can at least give a little insight. In LA, CPS goes by The Children's Code, which is laws pertaining to children. Our intake system is centralized, so complaints go to a state wide hotline. If the complaint is accepted by the intake worker (based on the allegations), it is then sent to a supervisor in the appropriate county with a level of response time (high, medium, low). I remember how frustrating it was for families who knew something was going on and there and our hands were tied by the law, or judges went against our recommendations and returned children to parents that we knew weren't ready to parent. Most of the time they ended up back in care. I hope this child is saved!

germanpickle · June 2014

Jalee85 said:

It fascinates me (in the bad way) that a person can say that they have been called twice and follows it up with a "well what can we do?" Shrug of an attitude. You keep calling. You pursue additional avenues: police, fire, other state offices. You call the media and ask for their junior reporter who needs to get their byline in on some interesting story. You give the required information to your sister who also calls (looking at you op). You make it real. You don't fucking shrug. When you shrug, you are part of the problem.
Sorry but I disagree. When CPS has checked and you have called the cops, and they do nothing. It only makes the child's life more miserable. In my case I talked to CPS on many occasions and they never did anything. They even found a knife my cousin hid under the couch to protect his infant brother from their Dad. He had already strangled their Mom. You know what CPS did? They told him if you are afraid call the cops. We were told there was literally NOTHING that could be done. We had multiple family members make reports. My Aunt even left her two kids alone to go to Mexico. I think he was 11 and youngest was 2. They were gonna be gone for over a week. Once again we called. My Aunt simply just lied and said a friend was responsible for them and she just had not picked them up yet. She was a freaking drug addict teacher. Guess what even warning the school did nothing. All that alerting the authorities did was alienate my cousin from his family, since she didn't allow contact anymore. ETA - Guess what he never called the cops. He was never taken away. The 2k I had saved to go get my cousins went to waste.

Or, you know, use secondary channels. Like the press. Like the cops. Like calling, calling, calling. Like getting other people to call.

Look I'm trying to relate but as a child that survived this bullshit and was surrounded by assholes that "didn't want to make it worse" - yeah, no. It got worse. Period.

Jalee85 · June 2014

germanpickle said:

Jalee85 said:

germanpickle said:
It fascinates me (in the bad way) that a person can say that they have been called twice and follows it up with a "well what can we do?" Shrug of an attitude.

You keep calling. You pursue additional avenues: police, fire, other state offices. You call the media and ask for their junior reporter who needs to get their byline in on some interesting story. You give the required information to your sister who also calls (looking at you op). You make it real.

You don't fucking shrug. When you shrug, you are part of the problem.
Sorry but I disagree. When CPS has checked and you have called the cops, and they do nothing. It only makes the child's life more miserable.

In my case I talked to CPS on many occasions and they never did anything. They even found a knife my cousin hid under the couch to protect his infant brother from their Dad. He had already strangled their Mom. You know what CPS did? They told him if you are afraid call the cops.

We were told there was literally NOTHING that could be done. We had multiple family members make reports.

My Aunt even left her two kids alone to go to Mexico. I think he was 11 and youngest was 2. They were gonna be gone for over a week. Once again we called. My Aunt simply just lied and said a friend was responsible for them and she just had not picked them up yet.

She was a freaking drug addict teacher. Guess what even warning the school did nothing.

All that alerting the authorities did was alienate my cousin from his family, since she didn't allow contact anymore.

ETA - Guess what he never called the cops. He was never taken away. The 2k I had saved to go get my cousins went to waste.

Or, you know, use secondary channels. Like the press. Like the cops. Like calling, calling, calling. Like getting other people to call.

Look I'm trying to relate but as a child that survived this bullshit and was surrounded by assholes that "didn't want to make it worse" - yeah, no. It got worse. Period.

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We did call the cops. The only thing we didn't do was call the press. In Chicago I doubt that would be headline news. It pisses me off that people look at abuse and think so non-chalantly. My childhood was no peach either, but it wasn't a physically abusive environment, at least. We literally tried for years. Luckily she found sobriety on her own. The household is still emotionally unhealthy, but it's not dangerous anymore.

ETA - also we weren't in the same state. Otherwise I would of went over to the house and gotten the proof we needed. No family members that lived near by would help. My cousin was like my brother and my heart still brakes for him. W lived together for the 1st 6 years of his life.

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