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I'm fuming. My dad is a horrible person.
To make a long story short- my sisters and I don't have a good (if any) relationship with my dad. He's extremely proud and just a control freak. It caused so many horrible problems in our childhood.?
Anyway, my sister's son was born with a condition that requires surgery out of state. Time is of the essence, and she isn't able to come up with enough money for the trip on her own. So out of desperation, she asked my dad. Instead of his heart breaking for his grandson, he told my sister that she was probably conning him and would only give her the money if she did x, y, z to supposedly "prove" that she's being trustworthy. Because she has no where else to turn, she tried to do these things. But of course, because my dad is a completely heartless ***, he came up with other reasons why she "can't be trusted."
I'll probably end up either going into debt trying to help her, or driving them across the country myself. It's so disappointing that my dad is so stuck in the past and can't even help his own grandson. He's making it about my sister and their relationship, not about his grandson who needs surgery so he can hopefully walk one day!!!!
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Re: I'm fuming. My dad is a horrible person.
I'm sorry, that really really really sucks. I hope you guys can figure something out for her.
On the flip side, my evil sister would actually lie about something like that to get money out of someone. And has. She's rotten, I don't talk about her much.
oh man! that's awful.....
Does she belong to a church? I don't have time to look up all the particulars, but the Kennedy Foundation regularly assists with some tiems like this. The hospital may also have some assistance ideas...is there a Ronald McDonald house close to the hospital?
Where does your sister need to go? Can you share the condition? This just bugs the heck out of me. I will pray for an answer for your family.
I really want to e-mail him and tell him that she's not lying (among other things) but I don't know what to say and it probably wouldn't help.?
I'm really so sorry he's a shit. I always quote the old saying "you can't pick your family". ?It's unfortunate, but so true.?
good luck to your sister and her family. sounds serious. {{hugs}}?
She doesn't belong to a church. She's planning on staying at the Ronald McDonald house, which lowered the cost of the trip considerably. That's another thing. My dad is freaking loaded (well, compared to the rest of the family, he is. He's very comfortable.) He could put them up in a hotel and pay all their medical bills without missing a beat of his lifestyle. Fortunately, they are able to pay for the surgery and treatments. They just have no way to get out there or money for the stay. Even with the super low prices of the RMDH, they will be there for about a month and it ads up when she's not able to work.?
Her son has a complex deformity in the bones of his legs that would make it impossible for him to walk. The doctor here thought it was simple clubfoot that he could fix it with a series of casts and braces. But after going through months of treatments, they discovered that it wasn't working and he needed surgery after all. Usually these surgeries are done right after birth, but they wasted a lot of time with the useless casts and braces.?
Could your nephew (right?) be eligible for Medicaid or CHIPS that would help pay for surgery AND travel expenses..I know that many of the autistic kids around here get SSI which is attached with Medicaid...is that an option?
Have you contacted any of the hospital to do this pro bono? Many will you just have to ask or work out a payment plan
Sorry you dad is an asshat.