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Mum2Be28 · June 2014

The Bible says to tithe 10% of everything you make, so I guess that's why churches don't feel bad asking for money all the time.

cagoldi · June 2014

@Mum2Be28‌ Glad to see you around!

barista411 · June 2014

Mum2Be28 said:
The Bible says to tithe 10% of everything you make, so I guess that's why churches don't feel bad asking for money all the time.

That is an Old Testament law. The New Testament just talk about being generous to those in need.

beccaxbooxbear · June 2014

PeachsMama said:
My church doesn't ask. Or direct. There's bins but at no point are you asked or directed. We have a card in our handout every week where you can update your info, ask for help, prayers, answered prayers, things like that and they direct those to the same bins. And once a year they do a sermon on our budget, they tell us where they spent what, and if at anytime you want to see it more in depth they let you. Just not what each staff member gets paid or what each family donates.

My congregation doesn't ask or direct for donations. It's all voluntary and there's no paid staff. It's also voluntary work. So they have a regular job and they volunteer their time to the congregation. They do a budget report every month and we vote together on resolutions as to what is updated or paid for. Nothing fancy, gaudy or unnecessary.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

Ok I thought of one based on fb posts this morning....I find it annoying when people wish their mom a happy birthday on fb and it always says " happy birthday to my mom and best friend" I feel like this is becoming the trend. I doubt a lot of those same people, when asked who their best friend is in regular conversation, would say their mom. In fact I know they don't, but it seems like the "thing" to say when wishing their mom a happy birthday on fb. I love my mom and we are very close, but she just isn't my best friend, she is my mom.

tisunge602 · June 2014

mallgrove said:

Along the lines of organized religion, I used to attend a more new age Christian church. It drove me nuts when they would ask for money each week. I am all for charity and helping out, but this church had a state of the art audio/ visual booth, a cafe, a full band on stage, large projector screens, and the list goes on. My intention was to be there to participate in the service and enjoy that weeks teachings. I would contribute what I could, but always felt guilty when I wasn't able to. I guess I never liked the idea of paying to go to church. I know all churches do this but I feel like at some of the smaller less extravagant churches the money is really going somewhere positive. I just think it's taking away from the real point of going to church, sure it's more entertaining, but instead of spending so much on pricey and flashy equipment I feel the money could be better spent.
Just want to point out that not all churches ask for money when you attend..
Really? Because every church I've ever been to, including the UU churches I grew up in, always passed the plate.
I have had the same experience as @Sing2phins‌, I have never attended a service at any church where they have not either passed a plate or directed the church goers to a collection box at the back of the church. I guess my issue is more with the big churches who focus so much on the technology and each service is a big production asking for money. As I said in my original post smaller more traditional churches needing donations doesn't bother me. I guess at the new age churches I feel like I'm paying admission and for the tech equipment and the message gets lost. A lot of people like these churches but it feels excessive to me. Edited because I hit post too soon.

I agree that it can distract from the message or become a situation where people drop money in the basket for show.

I attend what some would call a "megachurch" and we never "pass the plate" or ask for money. The budget is discussed once a year at a separate congregational meeting. People who want to donate or tithe can do it online or put money in clearly marked, out of the way receptacles. That's one of the things that DH and I really appreciate about our church. (And yes, we do tithe but we do it online from home.)

JaysonandKristin · June 2014

BrittAnnie19 said:

shanbp said:
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I am super sentimental and will probably keep every homemade card I ever get from DS! My UO is that I think there SHOULD be a medal for delivering med-free. I liken it to running a marathon, which everyone seems to agree deserves a medal. It takes mental and physical preparation and stamina. I wanted to do it, failed to prepare because I thought my pain tolerance alone could get me through it. I was wrong. I got an epi and was very happy with my birth story, but I do wonder what my body could have done had I prepared better. If you went med-free I feel like you earned the right to brag about it to anyone who will listen! Same as running a marathon, which I think is "crazy"!

Like I mentioned earlier, I see nothing wrong with women having pride in whatever way they delivered. I think it's mysogynistic BS that a lot of women have bought into that you can't be proud about giving birth. "Ugh, who cares, millions of women do it everyday." So just because it happens all the time makes it any less spectacular? Birth is amazing. If men gave birth we'd never hear the fucking end of it and birth announcements would probably be the top story on the news every damn night.

I disagree that men would never let us hear the end of it. None of the men in my life ever overexaggerate the extent of their medical experiences. Sure, we all bitch about the man cold, but honestly, how many men truly engage in pain olympics. Perhaps, I just have weird men in my life, but my dad, my FIL and my husband never complain much about such things. My dad's melanoma surgery was a non-event, my FIL is offering his kidney to a complete stranger so that his wife can get one from a different complete stranger and hasn't said Boo about it, and Jay's vasectomy on his left side was done with no numbing agent. He doesn't even talk about it.

Mum2Be28 · June 2014

cagoldi said:
@Mum2Be28‌ Glad to see you around!

Thank ya! I'm on just about every day I just haven't had as much time to post. We also had major Internet issues for a while but they seem to be ok now.

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