My UO is that it's silly to avoid pink or blue JUST in the name of trying not to stick your child with a particular gender or cultural expectation (if you don't like those colors personally, that's different). I also think it's completely silly to judge parents who dress/decorate with pink or blue.
They're colors. Colors. Dress your child in colors you find attractive or that they like and don't worry about any cultural implications, because that's just plain silly. Pink will remain feminine and blue masculine as long as we continue to reject those colors for girls and boys for fear of trapping them into a gender.
(This UO brought to you by a discussion with acquaintance who staunchly avoided pink for her daughter because she didn't want her daughter to feel restricted by cultural expectations of femininity. Her DD loved pink, begged her mom since she was 2 to paint her room, her nails, to have pink clothes and toys...Her mother was complaining that this was making it extremely difficult to protect her from the gender trap. Kid loves pink, lady...it's just a color. It means nothing other than the mixture of some white in her red is appealing to her senses...Get over it!)
@Emerald27 - I'm actually avoiding pink because I'm not into all things pink and would prefer not to overdo it. With that said, I know that there will be some pink in her wardrobe (almost impossible to avoid it) but if my daughter decided that she wanted ALL pink, then I think that her preferences would trump mine, since they would be her clothes not mine. Like you said, it is just a color after all.
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My UO is that it's silly to avoid pink or blue JUST in the name of trying not to stick your child with a particular gender or cultural expectation (if you don't like those colors personally, that's different). I also think it's completely silly to judge parents who dress/decorate with pink or blue.
They're colors. Colors. Dress your child in colors you find attractive or that they like and don't worry about any cultural implications, because that's just plain silly. Pink will remain feminine and blue masculine as long as we continue to reject those colors for girls and boys for fear of trapping them into a gender.
(This UO brought to you by a discussion with acquaintance who staunchly avoided pink for her daughter because she didn't want her daughter to feel restricted by cultural expectations of femininity. Her DD loved pink, begged her mom since she was 2 to paint her room, her nails, to have pink clothes and toys...Her mother was complaining that this was making it extremely difficult to protect her from the gender trap. Kid loves pink, lady...it's just a color. It means nothing other than the mixture of some white in her red is appealing to her senses...Get over it!)
I just started going through DD tiny stuff to see what would work for DS. It was basically just my plain white onesies and like 2-3 other onesies. I dressed her super girly because that is what I like and how I dress myself. That said if someday she chooses she wants to dress way less feminine I will go completely with what she wants. I am just enjoying it while I still have a choice. Kids will pick what they like and as long as you don't force them to go against what they want/choose when they are old enough to make those decisions I don't think you are forcing any type of gender stereotype on them.
I guess my UO is people are way to caught up in the idea you can push a gender stereotype on your baby based on how you dress your 4 week old.
@emerald27, I agree, DH keeps getting worked up about all of the "boy clothes" I keep putting on our registry. Just because they're blue doesn't mean they're boy clothes. As for pink I love it but I want my daughter to have some variety. When the time comes I'll definitely take her opinion into account.
My UO is that I hate compliments. I don't know how to respond to them. I feel like I'm supposed to say a compliment back but that it would be insincere. Like, oh you like my outfit, thanks now I suddenly like your shoes. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate them, they just make for awkward conversation. I especially hate when it leads to small talk with a stranger.
I have two today: 1. I don't have any problems with the Disney Princesses (other than the insane amount of commeercial crap they have). Most of the movies to me all show a woman fighting for what she wants, not exactly being "rescued" by a prince. There are exceptions of course, but I think the backlash to the princesses is way overblown. Get over it, they are movies for entertainment value, not to teach your daughter how to live her life.
2. Make-up is not the devil. Wearing it doesn't objectify women. Not wearing it doesn't make a statement. I realize some women don't wear it because they don't care, don't need it (lucky), or just forget but some make such a big deal out of not having to put make up on to meet social requirements or some other crap it makes me mad. I don't wear makeup to conform, I wear it because my skin is blotchy and I don't want to look like I just rolled out of bed with the dark circles under my eyes. That doesn't make me "part of the problem" TYVM (stupid FB friend).
@emerald27, I agree, DH keeps getting worked up about all of the "boy clothes" I keep putting on our registry. Just because they're blue doesn't mean they're boy clothes. As for pink I love it but I want my daughter to have some variety. When the time comes I'll definitely take her opinion into account.
My UO is that I hate compliments. I don't know how to respond to them. I feel like I'm supposed to say a compliment back but that it would be insincere. Like, oh you like my outfit, thanks now I suddenly like your shoes. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate them, they just make for awkward conversation. I especially hate when it leads to small talk with a stranger.
My DH is the opposite. We have a daughter already and are having a son, and DH, who is a bit of a cheapskate, is pushing for us to just use the pink and/or frilly onesies and sleepers until he's 1. I consider myself progressive on gender issues, but I'm just not quite cool with that.
I think parking lot striping should be legally enforced. I am so sick of jerks in big trucks taking up multiple compact car spaces.
All I'm saying is I see plenty of "jerks" in cars take up multiple spots as well. Yes, some parking spaces/lots are small and those of us "jerks" who have bigger trucks/SUV's must take up 2 spots but that's on whoever designed the small parking spaces/lots.
I think parking lot striping should be legally enforced. I am so sick of jerks in big trucks taking up multiple compact car spaces.
I daresay this is not an unpopular opinion. We all get irrationally angry at the assholes outside the lines.
I drive a prius and make sure to back into a spot so they can't get into their drivers side door...while being totally within the spot they were trying to not have someone park in, yay small car! I'm that guy. Usually I find this is more common with luxury cars, not necesarily big trucks. We also have a big truck, but I ALWAYS make sure to park fully in one spot, as difficult as it is!
@Emerald27 I totally agree. Especially when the kid wants it, you didn't get pink so they could grow into the person they want to be. They want to be a person who likes pink and you won't let them? seems hypocritical to me!
Side note- DH's favorite color is pink! our wedding colors were pink and green b/c HE wanted the pink accents. Green is my favorite color, and will be the nursurey color. Not because of gender steryotypes/staying neutral, but because I like looking at it and I will be in that room A LOT.
My UO is that I think it's an antiquated practice for a woman to automatically take her husband's last name when she gets married and I am surprised that it is still so common in today's society.
My UO is that I think it's an antiquated practice for a woman to automatically take her husband's last name when she gets married and I am surprised that it is still so common in today's society.
I took my husband's last name b/c I want to have the same last name as my children. Plus I just wasn't that attached to my maiden name. My mom remarried when I was 3 so I've always had a different last name than her which always caused someone to automatically use her last name for me or my last name for her. Not a huge problem in the grand scheme of things, just annoying after 30 years.
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My UO - Homeschooling should be conducted by parents who have completed high school or have at least a high school equivalent IQ.
This statement is based on two family connections that I feel absolutely should not be homeschooling because they are not helping their kids at all (their own math and language skills are severely lacking). I don't believe either one of them follows a specific curriculum, which I think could help.
My qualifiers - I am very much pro-homeschooling and I have not done a lot of research on requirements because it's not going to be an option for us. This opinion is based solely on my observations of these two families. I KNOW there are great homeschooling parents out there - my sister is one of them!
Edited because spelling is hard.
I knew someone who "homeschooled" her kids which translated into her kids doing absolutely nothing all day or occasionally teaching each other. Their dad went to court to demand they go to public school and when they did they were like 3-4 years behind. The oldest just basically aged out of high school... such a disservice to your kids to not homeschool properly. If you can't do it right, don't!
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BFP#2 - EDD 6/14/14 - cp 4w2d
BFP#3 - EDD 10/28/14 - It's a BOY!!! - Born 10/26/14
I think parking lot striping should be legally enforced. I am so sick of jerks in big trucks taking up multiple compact car spaces.
I daresay this is not an unpopular opinion. We all get irrationally angry at the assholes outside the lines.
I drive a prius and make sure to back into a spot so they can't get into their drivers side door...while being totally within the spot they were trying to not have someone park in, yay small car! I'm that guy. Usually I find this is more common with luxury cars, not necesarily big trucks. We also have a big truck, but I ALWAYS make sure to park fully in one spot, as difficult as it is!
I did this once and it totally backfired on me. I was at the gym and some douche bag parked his car diagonally covering part of three spaces, so I pulled my tiny car in one of the spaces he was trying to block. I felt so smug, until I came back out and he had poured used chewing tobacco all over my car. It was super gross. Now I just avoid those jerks.
I think gay marriage should be 100% legal across the United States. I think there should be a federal law protecting the right for gays and lesbians to marry, too, not just individual state laws. The fact is, it's a violation of the Constitution to bar gay people from being married and enjoying the legal benefits that heterosexual married couples receive (not to mention the cruelty of denying gay couples the ability to celebrate their love just like everyone else).
If people do not agree with gay marriage based on their religious beliefs, that's fine and good for them, but there's a reason we have a separation of church and state in this country, and this is a fine example of that needing to be exercised.
Also, I think people who feel gay marriage threatens the sanctity of heterosexual marriage are hypocrites and full of shit. If that's the case, then divorce needs to be banned, common-law marriage needs to be banned, plural marriage (like Sister Wives and all those folks) needs to be banned, etc. If you think the integrity of your marriage is threatened by two gay people who love each other getting married, you've got much bigger problems to deal with than marriage equality.
I'm sad that this is considered a UO.
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I don't get the personalized, fashionable maternity gowns that people buy off etsy and take to the hospital. It's not a fashion show, and isn't that thing gonna get really really gross anyway?? I just don't feel like it's a time for cute prints and ribbons...
I think gay marriage should be 100% legal across the United States. I think there should be a federal law protecting the right for gays and lesbians to marry, too, not just individual state laws. The fact is, it's a violation of the Constitution to bar gay people from being married and enjoying the legal benefits that heterosexual married couples receive (not to mention the cruelty of denying gay couples the ability to celebrate their love just like everyone else).
If people do not agree with gay marriage based on their religious beliefs, that's fine and good for them, but there's a reason we have a separation of church and state in this country, and this is a fine example of that needing to be exercised.
Also, I think people who feel gay marriage threatens the sanctity of heterosexual marriage are hypocrites and full of shit. If that's the case, then divorce needs to be banned, common-law marriage needs to be banned, plural marriage (like Sister Wives and all those folks) needs to be banned, etc. If you think the integrity of your marriage is threatened by two gay people who love each other getting married, you've got much bigger problems to deal with than marriage equality.
It makes me very sad that this is an unpopular opinion and not just common decency in regards to human rights.
My UO - Homeschooling should be conducted by parents who have completed high school or have at least a high school equivalent IQ.
This statement is based on two family connections that I feel absolutely should not be homeschooling because they are not helping their kids at all (their own math and language skills are severely lacking). I don't believe either one of them follows a specific curriculum, which I think could help.
My qualifiers - I am very much pro-homeschooling and I have not done a lot of research on requirements because it's not going to be an option for us. This opinion is based solely on my observations of these two families. I KNOW there are great homeschooling parents out there - my sister is one of them!
MRSclarke08 I very much agree with this and some states are considering passing a law that says Homeschooling parents need to have a degree. Since we had planned to home school I went back and finished my degree and added a minor of Child Development. I just finished in May so I now have my Bachelors in Sociology with my Child Development minor for the sole purpose of home schooling. DH has his Bachelors in Computer Science with a heavy lean towards Math and Science classes so I feel we are well equipped to home school.
Some parents I know... not so much and it scares me that their children are learning less than they would in a public school.
I think gay marriage should be 100% legal across the United States. I think there should be a federal law protecting the right for gays and lesbians to marry, too, not just individual state laws. The fact is, it's a violation of the Constitution to bar gay people from being married and enjoying the legal benefits that heterosexual married couples receive (not to mention the cruelty of denying gay couples the ability to celebrate their love just like everyone else).
If people do not agree with gay marriage based on their religious beliefs, that's fine and good for them, but there's a reason we have a separation of church and state in this country, and this is a fine example of that needing to be exercised.
Also, I think people who feel gay marriage threatens the sanctity of heterosexual marriage are hypocrites and full of shit. If that's the case, then divorce needs to be banned, common-law marriage needs to be banned, plural marriage (like Sister Wives and all those folks) needs to be banned, etc. If you think the integrity of your marriage is threatened by two gay people who love each other getting married, you've got much bigger problems to deal with than marriage equality.
I'm sad that this is considered a UO.
It definitely is where I live.
It's the same here, too. I moved from the mid west to Texas and I have such a hard time even wrapping my head around some of the views that are popular here.
99% of the time I hate buying something used (craigslist, fb buy/sell groups, etc.)
People are high on crack for what they want for used shit. I was just on CL looking for some good baby deals and some fool wanted $50 for a used body pillow. Barf! Or, for example, I do not think buying a used breast pump for $175 is a good deal. I'd rather spend the extra $50 and get it new.
I took my husband's name when we got married, for many of the reasons previously stated (children having same last name, etc.). I also don't think it's a big deal. If you don't want to, don't, if you do, go for it. I get the whole patriarchy argument, but at the same time, my maiden name is my father's last name, and his father's last name--there are no last names that wholly belong to women.
That said, I do still use my maiden name professionally, but that's because I'm a writer and have been published under that name and didn't want confusion.
In an ideal world, I would have liked our kids to have a name that's a combination of my last name and DH's last name (not necessarily hyphenated because that's a pain). However my husband was against it and I am actually not all that attached to my last name anyway so I let it go. I understand that it's a personal choice and I don't have any judgments against women who do it, I am just surprised that it is so prevalent.
I should also add that where I grew up, it is very uncommon for a women to take her husband's name (I honestly can't think of a single person I know who took her husband's last name) which is likely why the practice seems strange to me.
On the Maiden name thing mine is incredibly long winded. It was important to DH that we share the same name so I took. No big deal to me, I am still my maiden name and refer to myself as being one. What I do think is dumb is women who want to marry their BF and they complain for YEARS that he hasn't proposed. SO PROPOSE TO HIM! I did! What's the big deal? Why are you building up this big romantic moment? Life does not have to be a constant Hallmark movie!
Also on the gay marriage thing I live in the Mid West and it is not a popular opinion out here, I would be in the minority there. I have a friend on Facebook who is very religious and very conservative, like I don't dance and I don't dress my kids up for Halloween because it's celebrating the devil. She has the nerve to compare gay people wanting to get married to people wanting to marry CHILDREN and FRIGGIN ANIMALS! I was just really disgusted by that.
99% of the time I hate buying something used (craigslist, fb buy/sell groups, etc.)
People are high on crack for what they want for used shit. I was just on CL looking for some good baby deals and some fool wanted $50 for a used body pillow. Barf! Or, for example, I do not think buying a used breast pump for $175 is a good deal. I'd rather spend the extra $50 and get it new.
I completely agree with you. I prefer new anyway but my mom sends me no less than 5 ads a day from CL. I'm sorry, while I wholeheartedly appreciate any gently used items we receive (which hasn't been much), I just prefer to spend the money and know I'm getting something new.
I think parking lot striping should be legally enforced. I am so sick of jerks in big trucks taking up multiple compact car spaces.
I daresay this is not an unpopular opinion. We all get irrationally angry at the assholes outside the lines.
I drive a prius and make sure to back into a spot so they can't get into their drivers side door...while being totally within the spot they were trying to not have someone park in, yay small car! I'm that guy. Usually I find this is more common with luxury cars, not necesarily big trucks. We also have a big truck, but I ALWAYS make sure to park fully in one spot, as difficult as it is!
In the same vein, my U/O is drivers that tailgate even when you are speeding. I tend to drive over the speed limit by 5-10 mph (admittedly more sometimes when in super rush) - but some drivers want to do 65 in a 30 and they get behind you and drive so close if you stopped short, they'd hit you. It makes me nuts and lately, I just slow down to below the speed limit - sometimes they get the point and back off, other times well, all kinds of things.... horn honks, passing illegally and once the finger multiple times that I viewed in my rear view mirror.
Switching though - I also hate drivers that drive below the speed limit in the left lane or on a one lane road. If you want to do the exact speed limit, I can't fault you, but to do 30 or less in a 45 is to me just as dangerous as someone speeding but for different reasons and if you are have two lanes - then just move to the right -to make folks pass you on the right is obnoxious and can cause traffic problems.
99% of the time I hate buying something used (craigslist, fb buy/sell groups, etc.)
People are high on crack for what they want for used shit. I was just on CL looking for some good baby deals and some fool wanted $50 for a used body pillow. Barf! Or, for example, I do not think buying a used breast pump for $175 is a good deal. I'd rather spend the extra $50 and get it new.
I completely agree with you. I prefer new anyway but my mom sends me no less than 5 ads a day from CL. I'm sorry, while I wholeheartedly appreciate any gently used items we receive (which hasn't been much), I just prefer to spend the money and know I'm getting something new.
There are some things I don't mind buying used...I will usually hit up consignment salds for clothes for my DD, but some things just shouldn't be resold. I watched an episode of 16 & pregnant recently where the mom bought a used crib mattress that looked like it was from 1986 AND it was infested with roaches!! For $30!!
I think gay marriage should be 100% legal across the United States. I think there should be a federal law protecting the right for gays and lesbians to marry, too, not just individual state laws. The fact is, it's a violation of the Constitution to bar gay people from being married and enjoying the legal benefits that heterosexual married couples receive (not to mention the cruelty of denying gay couples the ability to celebrate their love just like everyone else).
If people do not agree with gay marriage based on their religious beliefs, that's fine and good for them, but there's a reason we have a separation of church and state in this country, and this is a fine example of that needing to be exercised.
Also, I think people who feel gay marriage threatens the sanctity of heterosexual marriage are hypocrites and full of shit. If that's the case, then divorce needs to be banned, common-law marriage needs to be banned, plural marriage (like Sister Wives and all those folks) needs to be banned, etc. If you think the integrity of your marriage is threatened by two gay people who love each other getting married, you've got much bigger problems to deal with than marriage equality.
I'm sad that this is considered a UO.
It definitely is where I live.
It's the same here, too. I moved from the mid west to Texas and I have such a hard time even wrapping my head around some of the views that are popular here.
Mid west to SE Texas here too! I see and hear soo much stuff that makes me :-O and go 'okay then...' Eeek!
Emerald27
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Re: UO Thursday
They're colors. Colors. Dress your child in colors you find attractive or that they like and don't worry about any cultural implications, because that's just plain silly. Pink will remain feminine and blue masculine as long as we continue to reject those colors for girls and boys for fear of trapping them into a gender.
(This UO brought to you by a discussion with acquaintance who staunchly avoided pink for her daughter because she didn't want her daughter to feel restricted by cultural expectations of femininity. Her DD loved pink, begged her mom since she was 2 to paint her room, her nails, to have pink clothes and toys...Her mother was complaining that this was making it extremely difficult to protect her from the gender trap. Kid loves pink, lady...it's just a color. It means nothing other than the mixture of some white in her red is appealing to her senses...Get over it!)
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BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
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BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
1. I don't have any problems with the Disney Princesses (other than the insane amount of commeercial crap they have). Most of the movies to me all show a woman fighting for what she wants, not exactly being "rescued" by a prince. There are exceptions of course, but I think the backlash to the princesses is way overblown. Get over it, they are movies for entertainment value, not to teach your daughter how to live her life.
2. Make-up is not the devil. Wearing it doesn't objectify women. Not wearing it doesn't make a statement. I realize some women don't wear it because they don't care, don't need it (lucky), or just forget but some make such a big deal out of not having to put make up on to meet social requirements or some other crap it makes me mad. I don't wear makeup to conform, I wear it because my skin is blotchy and I don't want to look like I just rolled out of bed with the dark circles under my eyes. That doesn't make me "part of the problem" TYVM (stupid FB friend).
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I drive a prius and make sure to back into a spot so they can't get into their drivers side door...while being totally within the spot they were trying to not have someone park in, yay small car! I'm that guy. Usually I find this is more common with luxury cars, not necesarily big trucks. We also have a big truck, but I ALWAYS make sure to park fully in one spot, as difficult as it is!
@Emerald27 I totally agree. Especially when the kid wants it, you didn't get pink so they could grow into the person they want to be. They want to be a person who likes pink and you won't let them? seems hypocritical to me!
Side note- DH's favorite color is pink! our wedding colors were pink and green b/c HE wanted the pink accents. Green is my favorite color, and will be the nursurey color. Not because of gender steryotypes/staying neutral, but because I like looking at it and I will be in that room A LOT.
Mine went to Ben & Jerry's.
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TTC since Jan '13
BFP#1 - EDD 3/24/14 - d&c 7w5d
BFP#2 - EDD 6/14/14 - cp 4w2d
BFP#3 - EDD 10/28/14 - It's a BOY!!! - Born 10/26/14
Me: 34 DH: 34
TTC since Jan '13
BFP#1 - EDD 3/24/14 - d&c 7w5d
BFP#2 - EDD 6/14/14 - cp 4w2d
BFP#3 - EDD 10/28/14 - It's a BOY!!! - Born 10/26/14
My (probably very around TB) UO is DH and I will prefer for our children to go to private school.
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Me: 34 DH: 34
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BFP#2 - EDD 6/14/14 - cp 4w2d
BFP#3 - EDD 10/28/14 - It's a BOY!!! - Born 10/26/14
Me: 34 DH: 34
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BFP#3 - EDD 10/28/14 - It's a BOY!!! - Born 10/26/14
I'm sad that this is considered a UO.
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MRSclarke08 I very much agree with this and some states are considering passing a law that says Homeschooling parents need to have a degree. Since we had planned to home school I went back and finished my degree and added a minor of Child Development. I just finished in May so I now have my Bachelors in Sociology with my Child Development minor for the sole purpose of home schooling. DH has his Bachelors in Computer Science with a heavy lean towards Math and Science classes so I feel we are well equipped to home school.
Some parents I know... not so much and it scares me that their children are learning less than they would in a public school.
People are high on crack for what they want for used shit. I was just on CL looking for some good baby deals and some fool wanted $50 for a used body pillow. Barf! Or, for example, I do not think buying a used breast pump for $175 is a good deal. I'd rather spend the extra $50 and get it new.
In an ideal world, I would have liked our kids to have a name that's a combination of my last name and DH's last name (not necessarily hyphenated because that's a pain). However my husband was against it and I am actually not all that attached to my last name anyway so I let it go. I understand that it's a personal choice and I don't have any judgments against women who do it, I am just surprised that it is so prevalent.
I should also add that where I grew up, it is very uncommon for a women to take her husband's name (I honestly can't think of a single person I know who took her husband's last name) which is likely why the practice seems strange to me.
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linnae939 - Ha! I love that!
In the same vein, my U/O is drivers that tailgate even when you are speeding. I tend to drive over the speed limit by 5-10 mph (admittedly more sometimes when in super rush) - but some drivers want to do 65 in a 30 and they get behind you and drive so close if you stopped short, they'd hit you. It makes me nuts and lately, I just slow down to below the speed limit - sometimes they get the point and back off, other times well, all kinds of things.... horn honks, passing illegally and once the finger multiple times that I viewed in my rear view mirror.
Switching though - I also hate drivers that drive below the speed limit in the left lane or on a one lane road. If you want to do the exact speed limit, I can't fault you, but to do 30 or less in a 45 is to me just as dangerous as someone speeding but for different reasons and if you are have two lanes - then just move to the right -to make folks pass you on the right is obnoxious and can cause traffic problems.
There are some things I don't mind buying used...I will usually hit up consignment salds for clothes for my DD, but some things just shouldn't be resold. I watched an episode of 16 & pregnant recently where the mom bought a used crib mattress that looked like it was from 1986 AND it was infested with roaches!! For $30!!