Hi everyone! I hope I'm doing this right. lol I'm new to the forum but wanted to introduce myself. My name is Liz and I'm 34- married for almost 3 years (come August). My husband and I started trying for a baby a few months after getting married and had a chemical pregnancy a few months later- dr said this was normal and to keep trying- so we did for a few more months. I just felt something wasn't right- all my friends were getting pregnant no problem- so I decided to see a RE. I was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve and given the donor egg talk. Talk about being caught off guard- NOT what I was expecting to hear at 32! Thankfully I have insurance that does help with infertility treatments, but they required 3 IUIs before approving anything IVF related. So 3 IUIs back to back is what we did- May/June/July 2012- and though I always had 4-5 follicles- we had a BFN each time. So we moved on to IVF- our first IVF we only had 3 eggs retrieved and only 1 made it blast- we transferred that blast and unfortunately it ended up becoming a ruptured ectopic. I had to have emergency surgery and lost my right tube and required a blood transfusion. I tried to stay positive- thinking who cares about losing a tube- I don't need it anyways since IVF is probably the only way we are going to conceive. But it still was a shock to have an ectopic pregnancy- because I seriously didn't even think of that being you are bypassing the tubes! ANYWAYS- moved to another clinic and since Dec 2012 to now we did 3 retrievals and 2 transfers. First transfer was BFN and last transfer (this past January) ended up being a miscarriage at around 7 weeks and required a D&C. So we currently have 3- 3 day embryos frozen which we will hopefully be transferring soon- but I have little faith it will work. Obviously my eggs are no good so I feel like what's the point- BUTTTTTT my hubby wants to transfer them since they're our last embryos- so that's what we'll do. If this doesn't work we are trying to move on to donor embryos- though we've hit snags with that. I was in talks with 2 families- 1 family ended up finding another match (though if I'm honest it really made me mad/sad/hurt/jealous at that time that she chose to donate to a lady that already has 8 kids- while my hubby and I have none- but I know deep down she wanted a really open relationship with whomever she donated to and open relationship with the future kids- and I don't think I gave her enough confirmation that we'd be ok with a 100% open relationship. We are still in the works with this 2nd family- however their clinic is making it very hard to transfer ownership to me- and my clinic won't take them until they are technically "mine"…SOOOO yet another roadblock. I'm joining this group in hopes to find support and positive reinforcement…because let's face it- infertility is a total drag, life consuming DOWNER at times. I try to stay positive and then BAM my mind goes to another place- why me? why have we spent 20K to have a kid and still have none? Why have I had to not only endure failure month after month but also an ectopic, loss of a tube, a d&c, etc. But obviously if I only focused on that I'd probably never get out of bed! I need to keep my eye on the prize, right!?? I would love for my husband and I to have a 100% biologically our child- but that seems unrealistic. I'd love to do donor eggs so the kiddos are at least biologically related to my husband- but it's too darn expensive!! I've thought about going overseas for donor eggs- but what if it didn't work? Just more money spent for failure. So that's how I came to the decision of embryo adoption/donation. I feel that there are so many totsicles frozen away with such potential that I want to be able to give life to a baby that might have only sat frozen for years to come. My husband and I always said we'd donate any extra embryos we had after treatment because we know the heartache infertility has brought- and the amazing gift that would be to someone struggeling- but we obviously never had extras. So that's where I'm at- and hopefully I've not bored you to tears. I've wanted kids my whole life and I just have this picture in my mind of being pregnant (sick and all, swollen feet and all, hard labor and all) and the idea of that not happening is really hard to swallow. So hoping me talking about our situation will bring us peace on our path- whoever that happens to lead us! Thanks ladies!

TTC #1 Since Oct 2011
ME (34): DOR. AMH <.16
DH (35): low side of normal on everything
May, June, and July 2012 IUIs- all BFN
4 IVFs- resulting in ectopic and miscarriage at 7 weeksHSG clear, SHG no issues from miscarriage, we get eggs (odd with such a low AMH) but the embryos just aren't good.
Moving on to donor embryos
Re: New to the group
Me: 30 DH: 29
TTC since 2010
Oct. 2012 HSG: One blocked tube, one clear
Oct. 2012 U/S: All good
March 2014 SA: Flying Colors
April 2014: Met our RE/Got our plan!
May 2014: laparoscopy/hysteroscopy removed stage II endometriosis
June 2014: IUI w/100mg Clomid (BFN)
Me (30) DH (31) Married 5/13, TTC since 2/13
BFP # 3, EDD 2/21/15 * please be our rainbow*BFP #1 Blighted Ovum resulting in D&C on 11/1/13
BFP #2 Ectopic Pg, lap surgery on 3/12/14, R tube removed
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
Me (29) DH (37)
Married 7/11
Actively TTC 3/12
DX: PCOS
Current treatment: Break from IUIs until after the holidays
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Someone else mentioned the infertility board, and there is also a third party reproduction board that you might be interested in too, though you're welcome to stay here or post on multiple boards. :-)
Me: 24 DH: 26
Sept 2012 - Married Love of My Life
AO, possible PCOS
TTC for 15 months - Success!!!
Due Date: May 6, 2015
DS induced April 27, 2015 - Hypertension
First TTC Journey:
- Failed attempts at clomid with OB
- HSG with OB, nothing found
- Met with RE. Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy done on 08/04/2014. Results: Hymenal stenosis, minimal endometriosis, and PCOS
I'm sorry you have to be here, but I'm really glad you have found us! It sounds like you've already been through a lot. Good luck with everything, especially FET if that is your next step! Fingers crossed for you!
Me: 29, DH: 30
Married: April, 2011; TTC: July, 2012
Dx: MFI; June '14 IVF w/ ICSI: 11R, 8M, 5F... 1 5dt, beta #1: 213, beta #2: 621, beta #3: 8545!