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Still redefining Mother's/Father's Day?

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in July 2012 Moms
So, I'm still torn about this ...

Growing up, we spent Mother's and Father's Days running around to the grandparents' houses. (They lived 25min from us, but 10min from each other).

So, my mom expects us to come visit for each of these days. However, she lives 75min away.

I do understand that these are my parents, so they want to see their kids. And the grandbabies. We got around Mother's Day this year because we had the little guy's baptism that day, so everyone was together.

I feel like these are days the boys should spend with us, doing little things or relaxing.

How do you all handle our new roles?
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Re: Still redefining Mother's/Father's Day?

  • britbratjfbritbratjf member
    I would just be very honest with her and say that they are days you want to spend as your own family. I'm in a different situation because my parents are within 15 minutes of me. So I take my mom out for lunch for Mother's Day the Friday before and we are cooking out with my Dad for dinner Fathers Day but we will have all day just the 3 of us. So it's never been an issue here but I think honesty is the best policy even if it hurts your moms feeling a bit.
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  • KarmBKarmB member

    If theyre doing something Like a bbq or something along those lines, we'll go but honestly we travel so much during Christmas. We all have our assigned holidays. Moms day and Dads day is a free for all. This year, its just us so it's nice.

    My sched is:

    THanksgiving: Moms house
    Christmas Eve: in laws
    Christmas day: everyone
    Easter: Dads house.

    Im sure it'll change in a few years. ESP Christmas Day. Probably when the kids are 3 & 5 because I don't want to take them from their toys. People can either come to us or figure out a different day. So far our sched has worked out perfectly

    I know...WAY more than you asked.

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  • aylafsu88aylafsu88 member
    edited June 2014
    We are redefining our days as well. My family lives 2.5 hours away so they mostly get calls. My H's family live in the same town like 10 mins away. We try to do lunch/dinner with them that day or the day before. They can be difficult because they expect us to be with them on that day no matter what. Since we live so close it is OK but if we lived further away they would probably just get calls or we would spend one of the days with them and the other at our house.
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  • sarahandeddiejune212008sarahandeddiejune212008 member
    My parents live a block away so I saw my mom and will see my dad. My parents are overly involved in my nephews' sports teams and they have a game on Father's day so I may only see my dad for a few minutes.

    Honestly, I'm a little hurt they'd rather watch a baseball game than spend time with the girls and me.
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