Baby girl broke my heart

Re: Baby girl broke my heart

• jf198400 member

  June 2014

  My mom watched both of my kids when they were little, and while it's hard to see them so attached to someone else, it's amazing to see the connection they have now that they're older. Dd is almost 4 and DS is 2 and they are still super close with Grandmom. It's super awesome. I never ever have to feel guilty leaving them with her, even when DH and I took a 5 day vacation without them. They are just as "at home" with her as with us. Trust me, you will appreciate it so much as your daughter gets older.

  
  
  
  
  

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• dglvrk2 member

  June 2014

  I agree with @CourtandNate‌. I want my girls to see me as a happy, hard working member of the workforce, even if it means there are days when they prefer a grandparent or DCP to me. I get weekly newsletters from Baby Center. This week's letter (for 35 month olds/almost 3 year olds) actually discussed this issue. It notes that kids will suddenly seem to prefer one parent or care giver over another for a brief time. It's their way of establishing some independence. My oldest, who will be three in a couple of weeks, has done this in several occasions. However, it only lasts a few days. ;-)

  

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• shannm member

  June 2014

  My DD does this all the time with me when she has daddy around. He spends a lot if time with her during the day and they have a strong bond. It makes me feel bad but I am glad he is so hands on with the kids.

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• cecilyandgautam member

  June 2014

  There are stages for LOs when any transition is hard - the morning transition at drop off, the afternoon transition at pick up. My daughter would sometimes not want me to leave one morning and cry as I left, then the same day, cry when I came to pick up because she didn't want to leave. With the routines and the passage of time it gets better. 

  
  

  Until the art projects start at preschool. Lord help you if you unknowningly come for pick up in the middle of craft time. 

  

  
  

  
  

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• rodiesmum member

  June 2014

  One of the biggest heartbreaks of full time working moms. Not for the faint of heart. I totally understand and i had been there. No other words to say, only virtual hugs.

  
  

  i love you, my little mooncake mahal kita
   
  
  
  
  

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• sugarbear0524 member

  June 2014

  My son did that when he was your LO's age. Now he does it with words. When he isn't getting his way, he yells, "I want to go to Nana's house! Go away! I want Nana!" 

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• BC&LM member

  June 2014

  I totally feel you on this one. There is one daycare lady LO likes a lot. With all the other daycare ladies, he reaches out for me when I pick him up, but with the one he likes a lot, sometimes he plays a game and hides in her shoulder and peeks out at me instead of reaching out.

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• jtmomma13 member

  June 2014

  I just posted about this as well. My LO is doing the same thing and I think it helps to know that it's something that all mom's go through. And I think regardless of your situation- SHM or WM- your LO will still do this. 

  
  

  The advice I got and the things I am going to try and do when picking LO up is to have my DCP put LO in a saucer or on the floor before I get there. This way I won't be taking him out of her arms. I am also going to try and get on his level and chat with him before I scoop him up. 

  
  

  It's heartbreaking I know- but we just have to remember that we are lucky that they have someone watching them that makes them feel secure and loved! 

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