someone just delete this whole damn thread. I don't want any more loss moms reading this garbage. What a horrible disgusting thing to say.
And angry, wannabe badasses, please I beg you, insult me all you want, fear for my children, call me any name in the book, but don't ever insinuate that any of these ladies deserves a miscarriage. They would never wish that on you. No one in their right mind would ever wish that on anyone. I can take all your anger and insults but I can't take you hurting these women and reminding them of something no one should have to go through.
@briewong You have the nerve to call anyone else on here a bully, or bitch or whatever, but you have the NERVE to make a comment as grotesque as you did about it being "fortunate" that any woman ever has experienced a miscarriage?! Snark is one thing but you have gone out and crossed RIGHT OVER the line. Don't let the door hit you on the way out, don't you dare ever come back to our board.
Today, I found out that I can't do any of that. Some (not all), of the women on this board either have been here WAY too long due to (unfortunate, or maybe fortunate in their sake) miscarriages, or just have nothing else better to do than sit in front of their computers all day and rack up 'The Bump Points.' You women are absolutely rude. You feel as if you own this board, as if you are a 'regular' so you get higher priority, you have 'friends' on this board who back you up. I mean, Its like I'm in a real life game of The Sims. Simulated friends, backing up other simulated friends on bullying. This is ridiculous.
You are not even worth a dismissive gif. Just go.
In memory of the baby Hufflepuff and all the angel babies of D14
I pretty much never respond to these types of posts, but OP, you have clearly never suffered the unbearable heartbreak that comes with losing a baby. The loss of my first baby sent me into such despair that I was actually hospitalized. It was the most painful thing that has ever happened to me and I still cry every time I hear about someone losing a baby. I know you won't come back here to apologize, but please understand that making light of something like miscarriage is very, very cruel and hurtful to many of us. I hope that you didn't mean what you said and just typed that out of a fit of anger.
I came here to get information on being a FTM, and discussing things that go on, and getting answers to my stupid pregnancy questions, and just vent about little things that happen. Forgive me, if I have stupid questions, or have a duplicate question, or wanting to know the GENDER of my baby, or the SEX of my child. To me, its all the same. To each their own.
Today, I found out that I can't do any of that. Some (not all), of the women on this board either have been here WAY too long due to (unfortunate, or maybe fortunate in their sake) miscarriages, or just have nothing else better to do than sit in front of their computers all day and rack up 'The Bump Points.' You women are absolutely rude. You feel as if you own this board, as if you are a 'regular' so you get higher priority, you have 'friends' on this board who back you up. I mean, Its like I'm in a real life game of The Sims. Simulated friends, backing up other simulated friends on bullying. This is ridiculous.
Here I get called out for being a White Knight. I mean, I can only guess what that is, but call it what you want, call yourself what you want, being rude to others who just have silly questions and who don't read other posts (as some of you claim not to do either) isn't a way to act.
I read posts, I rarely post anything, but today's postings from other members really bugs me, and I hope the moderators actually care about the site, and not just here to be a part of the snarkyness.
First off, let me apologize to the awesome D14 ladies for crashing your board. I'm from N14, but have been enjoying your banter on the sex scans this morning (boring work day). I've never done this before, but I could not in good conscience not post a response after reading OPs statement. Mostly, the bolded part.
Did you REALLY just say it was a good thing some of these women had miscarriages? Like, I truly cannot even fathom someone who would make such a heartless, horrible statement. That is pretty much the rudest, most effed up thing ever. Our board has gone through several 2nd tri losses as of late and I will tell you its the most gut wrenching thing ever and the ladies of our BMB have stood by one another and offered support to one another. What the hell is wrong with you?
May you never experience a loss, but if you do, I hope you can find a good support group. Because it seems like you've really burned a bridge to some of the best ladies who would've been there for you.
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N14 here to represent.
I just lost my son Brody to trisomy 18 and I promise you, nobody deserves to go through that horrible emotional and physical pain. Where you can literally feel your heart break.
Hugs to D14 mamas who have experienced a loss and had to stumble upon this vile bullshit.
You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
What I never understand is when posters tell others how mean they are as they drop a bomb (like name calling or anything about losses). No matter how snarky any poster is, it is NEVER to such a hateful level. It is best that you go OP. The board will never welcome you.
@briewong , as someone who has experienced two prior losses and at one point, felt as though I would never experience a healthy pregnancy, I can not believe you would actually say those words to anyone. I wouldn't wish a loss on my worst enemy and you are posting those words on a pregnancy board full of women with hopes, dreams, and plans for their children. It is truly despicable to say that miscarriage could EVER be fortunate. Good luck sleeping at night with the guilt that should be in your heart right now.
Married my best friend 7/2/11 - Furbaby born 7/9/11
and brought into our home 9/1/11
BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but
around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at
least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due
to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy
(and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!
And another thing - I have not suffered a loss - but there is not a that goes by that it does not sit in my mind - i am only 11 weeks along and do not have another appointment until next thursday! I am terrified of a miscarraige and I will admit that when I see other ladies post about miscarriages I tear up a little as well - because of the fear and the potential hurt. I try to respect those women who have because I can not imagine the pain. Again - it does not matter how you meant it - it was a horrible and disgusting thing to say!
Do not be a martyr then turn around and say something like that.
Remember KARMA IS A BITCH - and what i mean (so it is not taken out of context) by that is one day some one will say something just as disgusting to you as you said to all these ladies!!
I pretty much never respond to these types of posts, but OP, you have clearly never suffered the unbearable heartbreak that comes with losing a baby. The loss of my first baby sent me into such despair that I was actually hospitalized. It was the most painful thing that has ever happened to me and I still cry every time I hear about someone losing a baby. I know you won't come back here to apologize, but please understand that making light of something like miscarriage is very, very cruel and hurtful to many of us. I hope that you didn't mean what you said and just typed that out of a fit of anger.
She won't come back to apologize but I want to do it for her - I'm sorry you had to see this and I'm really sorry there are evil people in the world that would say such things. I really hope you have also found support and love on the bump and elsewhere. ((Creepy Internet Hugs))
In memory of the baby Hufflepuff and all the angel babies of D14
I truly have never been so angry in all of my four years on tb. Not to mention in tears. My m/c was one of the worst things that ever happened to me and that's saying something. Good job hitting us where it really hurts OP. hope you feel great about it.
I can't just can't. PPs have covered what a horrible person you are. So as to keep myself from being banned I'll leave it at that. Words cannot describe my dislike of you. Get off our board and site.
I've been trying to put this out of my head, but I just can't. My loss was seven years ago and I think about my baby every day. The pain isn't as sharp, but it is still there. There is nothing fortunate about losing a baby. I cannot stop crying for all the mothers that experienced loss and are reading this. There is nothing more cruel. At least we're part of a community that will love and uplift us through these times. The women here are wonderful and supportive. That's what you're missing. Not snarky bitches, but wonderfully supportive women who care about you and the health of your baby even if you disagree on other things.
Edited because I really just can't grasp the English language today.
This is probably the worst thread I have ever come across on TB. My m/c was not fortunate, it was the worst experience of my life. How dare you say otherwise. You should be ashamed of yourself for posting that.
I came here to get information on being a FTM, and discussing things that go on, and getting answers to my stupid pregnancy questions, and just vent about little things that happen. Forgive me, if I have stupid questions, or have a duplicate question, or wanting to know the GENDER of my baby, or the SEX of my child. To me, its all the same. To each their own.
Today, I found out that I can't do any of that. Some (not all), of the women on this board either have been here WAY too long due to (unfortunate, or maybe fortunate in their sake) miscarriages, or just have nothing else better to do than sit in front of their computers all day and rack up 'The Bump Points.' You women are absolutely rude. You feel as if you own this board, as if you are a 'regular' so you get higher priority, you have 'friends' on this board who back you up. I mean, Its like I'm in a real life game of The Sims. Simulated friends, backing up other simulated friends on bullying. This is ridiculous.
Here I get called out for being a White Knight. I mean, I can only guess what that is, but call it what you want, call yourself what you want, being rude to others who just have silly questions and who don't read other posts (as some of you claim not to do either) isn't a way to act.
I read posts, I rarely post anything, but today's postings from other members really bugs me, and I hope the moderators actually care about the site, and not just here to be a part of the snarkyness.
FUCK YOU, OP.
I'm not full of snark, yet will call out bullshit and also sympathize with those struggling for whatever the reason may be. Yet you have the nerve to bitch about people being snarky and ganging up on others??
YOU DO REALIZE WHAT YOU POSTED, RIGHT???? You crossed a very fine line and in my opinion, is far worse than anything else I've seen on this board. I pray that you never have to experience a loss at some point, but I hope you eventually realize what an incredibly fucking rude thing you just said.
I can't believe what a piece of shit person you are. How could you even conceive a freakn thought like that and then type it out to post it. I come from a board ( N14) that has experienced so many losses in the past few months and nobody has ever had the nerve to disrespect a loss the way you have. Don't apologize because you've already made the asshole hall of fame. D14 ladies, sorry you guys had to deal with this piece of scum.
Edit: to include: I apologize for crashing your board but someone mentioned this on N14 and I came over to lurk and I was in
@gradschoolmom1234, you wrote what was on my mind and 'hug' that you didn't get a chance to hear your baby's HB today at the OB office. PgAL brain is tough.
As a woman that struggled with infertility for many years and lost my first baby at 29 weeks last year, I can't believe @briewong would say that miscarriage is fortunate. I know you won't come back to read these posts, but you're an awful person.
Wow, this has been my first chance to check the board today, and I'm shocked at this mess. Fortunately that terrible woman was already banned by the time I got here, and good on all of you wonderful ladies for taking her down for those truly insensitive comments. I have never experienced a loss personally, but I have very close friends who have. And my heart breaks every time I read about a loss on our board. I am so sad for the pain this post has caused so many great women. ***Hugs to all of you*** ---Except for the cockroach that is @briewong of course.
I found her on Facebook immediately and her profile isn't even really private.
As someone who has suffered a miscarriage, her comments were very hurtful. I'm sorry to all the ladies who had to read those nasty words, from a hateful person.
I just don't understand how or why you post a GBCB post, just fucking leave. I'm so happy she is gone. I think you ladies are awesome and I'm happy to go through this crazy ride with all of you!
I was thinking the two wongs don't make a right. I chuckled quite hard about pp two wongs comment. On another note this post made me very sad. I've never had a miscarriage but I cannot imagine even in my worst hatred of someone saying I hope you have a miscarriage or that it is fortunate you did. I feel bad and angry for everyone this comment cut through.
So I couldn't read thru all these post without tearing up, Brie for all you said I hope you can learn from your mistakes. You make thing that these women are mean, thankfully I have not experienced this meanness that you talk of. But you never bring up miscarriages in that way. I thankfully have never dealt with a miscarriage, but I do have two friends who have thankfully they have a good support group of friends to help them thru that unfortunate experience. One is 20 weeks pregnant now and I'm so happy for her.
I just hope the rest of us don't make the same mistakes that Brie has made and learn from it. And that we are all here for one reason- that little person inside of us growing, and sharing everything with other fellow mommies-to-be who are due in December.
Now after reading six pages ... OP - you will never see this but I hate you. I'm a good person and nothing I did made me "deserve" to have my baby die. Grow the fuck up.
I love you. Hi. I was really really hoping you wouldn't read this. I hope you're okay. She is a bitch and you're right. You're a wonderful person. I'm sorry in her behalf. I couldn't make it through the six pages without crying and I can only assume the same for you. If you need a smile I'll cheer you up with a gif or something. Just let me know.
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a good support group. Because it seems like you've really burned a bridge to some of the best ladies who would've been there for you.
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Word.
N14 here to represent.
I just lost my son Brody to trisomy 18 and I promise you, nobody deserves to go through that horrible emotional and physical pain. Where you can literally feel your heart break.
Hugs to D14 mamas who have experienced a loss and had to stumble upon this vile bullshit.
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy (and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!
And another thing - I have not suffered a loss - but there is not a that goes by that it does not sit in my mind - i am only 11 weeks along and do not have another appointment until next thursday! I am terrified of a miscarraige and I will admit that when I see other ladies post about miscarriages I tear up a little as well - because of the fear and the potential hurt. I try to respect those women who have because I can not imagine the pain. Again - it does not matter how you meant it - it was a horrible and disgusting thing to say!
Do not be a martyr then turn around and say something like that.
Remember KARMA IS A BITCH - and what i mean (so it is not taken out of context) by that is one day some one will say something just as disgusting to you as you said to all these ladies!!
I'm really sorry there are evil people in the world that would say such things. I really hope you have also found support and love on the bump and elsewhere. ((Creepy Internet Hugs))
**creepy interweb hugs**
Edited because I really just can't grasp the English language today.
FUCK YOU, OP.
I'm not full of snark, yet will call out bullshit and also sympathize with those struggling for whatever the reason may be. Yet you have the nerve to bitch about people being snarky and ganging up on others??
YOU DO REALIZE WHAT YOU POSTED, RIGHT???? You crossed a very fine line and in my opinion, is far worse than anything else I've seen on this board. I pray that you never have to experience a loss at some point, but I hope you eventually realize what an incredibly fucking rude thing you just said.
You're done? GREAT. LEAVE!
And kudos to @riansmommie and @katehgee for the QFP. Bravo.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
D14 ladies, sorry you guys had to deal with this piece of scum.
Edit: to include: I apologize for crashing your board but someone mentioned this on N14 and I came over to lurk and I was in
fuck you. and good job with your screen name and avatar - i'm sure no one will be able to find you on google.
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As someone who has suffered a miscarriage, her comments were very hurtful. I'm sorry to all the ladies who had to read those nasty words, from a hateful person.
I just don't understand how or why you post a GBCB post, just fucking leave. I'm so happy she is gone. I think you ladies are awesome and I'm happy to go through this crazy ride with all of you!