I came here to get information on being a FTM, and discussing things that go on, and getting answers to my stupid pregnancy questions, and just vent about little things that happen. Forgive me, if I have stupid questions, or have a duplicate question, or wanting to know the GENDER of my baby, or the SEX of my child. To me, its all the same. To each their own.
Today, I found out that I can't do any of that. Some (not all), of the women on this board either have been here WAY too long due to (unfortunate, or maybe fortunate in their sake) miscarriages, or just have nothing else better to do than sit in front of their computers all day and rack up 'The Bump Points.' You women are absolutely rude. You feel as if you own this board, as if you are a 'regular' so you get higher priority, you have 'friends' on this board who back you up. I mean, Its like I'm in a real life game of The Sims. Simulated friends, backing up other simulated friends on bullying. This is ridiculous.
Here I get called out for being a White Knight. I mean, I can only guess what that is, but call it what you want, call yourself what you want, being rude to others who just have silly questions and who don't read other posts (as some of you claim not to do either) isn't a way to act.
I read posts, I rarely post anything, but today's postings from other members really bugs me, and I hope the moderators actually care about the site, and not just here to be a part of the snarkyness.
I came here to get information on being a FTM, and discussing things that go on, and getting answers to my stupid pregnancy questions, and just vent about little things that happen. Forgive me, if I have stupid questions, or have a duplicate question, or wanting to know the GENDER of my baby, or the SEX of my child. To me, its all the same. To each their own.
Today, I found out that I can't do any of that. Some (not all), of the women on this board either have been here WAY too long due to (unfortunate, or maybe fortunate in their sake) miscarriages, or just have nothing else better to do than sit in front of their computers all day and rack up 'The Bump Points.' You women are absolutely rude. You feel as if you own this board, as if you are a 'regular' so you get higher priority, you have 'friends' on this board who back you up. I mean, Its like I'm in a real life game of The Sims. Simulated friends, backing up other simulated friends on bullying. This is ridiculous.
Here I get called out for being a White Knight. I mean, I can only guess what that is, but call it what you want, call yourself what you want, being rude to others who just have silly questions and who don't read other posts (as some of you claim not to do either) isn't a way to act.
I read posts, I rarely post anything, but today's postings from other members really bugs me, and I hope the moderators actually care about the site, and not just here to be a part of the snarkyness.
WTMF to the bolded?!?!?!?! Please let me be reading that wrong.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38 Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
I AM SO DISGUSTED BY YOU. how dare you say a loss of child is fortunate. You are sick. I can't even fathom the type of cruel that you must be made up of. I can hate a person to my very core and would NEVER wish for them to lose their child. I've lost two and it haunts me to this day. Am I allowed to say go to hell? Because you most certainly can.
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HOW DARE YOU! I joke around a lot, but believe me when I say that suggesting anyone is fortunate to have a miscarriage is far worse than ANYTHING we snarky bitches have EVER said. As a FTM I understand you can't possibly understand the depths of misery and ache that accompany a miscarriage, but here's some little life advice, Think before you speak.
We will not miss you, I am glad you are not planning on sticking around.
@twolittledogs might want to keep an eye on this thread. For real.
I gotta pee but I'll be right back to look at this. Is this referencing something else from today?
White knight in another thread comes over to talk about it was fortunate that some women have had miscarriages. Not sure if there is. TOS violation yet, but obviously she is going in a unwanted direction.
Listen, I understand it can be difficult to go through old posts when you have a question. Sometimes you just want to ask it in your own way, and that's fine. You may get called out due to it being a repeat post, you may not. Even if you do, people will still either A. Offer you advice, or B. Refer you to a relatable post. I have been a part of the D14 bump group since about 3/31 and I too am a FTM and I have both read and received a lot of help and advice from many of these ladies. The good of this group most certainly outweighs the bad. You shouldn't let such a little thing upset you. Now, I am trying to be understanding and nice, because some personalities can handle only certain other personality types. But for you to say, that a miscarriage for an individual could either be misfortunate (which it ALWAYS IS) or fortunate is just plain rude and makes you a pretty terrible person. I know a lot of people close to me that have had a miscarriage, and how dare you say that a miscarriage is EVER a fortunate event?! Now you go around saying everyone else is mean, eat your words lady. Grow up.
Edit: my keyboard is a jerk.
DH and I: Dating: 08/2008, Engaged: 02/2012, and Married: 03/13!
I came here to get information on being a FTM, and discussing things that go on, and getting answers to my stupid pregnancy questions, and just vent about little things that happen. Forgive me, if I have stupid questions, or have a duplicate question, or wanting to know the GENDER of my baby, or the SEX of my child. To me, its all the same. To each their own.
Today, I found out that I can't do any of that. Some (not all), of the women on this board either have been here WAY too long due to (unfortunate, or maybe fortunate in their sake) miscarriages, or just have nothing else better to do than sit in front of their computers all day and rack up 'The Bump Points.' You women are absolutely rude. You feel as if you own this board, as if you are a 'regular' so you get higher priority, you have 'friends' on this board who back you up. I mean, Its like I'm in a real life game of The Sims. Simulated friends, backing up other simulated friends on bullying. This is ridiculous.
Here I get called out for being a White Knight. I mean, I can only guess what that is, but call it what you want, call yourself what you want, being rude to others who just have silly questions and who don't read other posts (as some of you claim not to do either) isn't a way to act.
I read posts, I rarely post anything, but today's postings from other members really bugs me, and I hope the moderators actually care about the site, and not just here to be a part of the snarkyness.
WE'RE RUDE??????? WE SHOULD BE REMOVED BY MODS? ugh I can't even, you have said such profoundly disgusting thins in this post that I can't even imagine how you dare call us anything.
Omg - I don't post as much as some people either and don't really have "friends" on here yet, but you've really pissed me off with that comment - for every single woman on here who has experienced a loss. Who says something like that? Who thinks that kind of comment is okay?
You don't need to be here with that kind of attitude. Don't let the virtual door hit you on the ass on your way out. Bye.
Oh! So the snarky people actually have hearts?! Miscarriages are not fortunate at all. No, I have never been through one, as clearly stated above im a FTM.
I wont come back. I don't need any of you.
And, to your LGBT friends, and mine, I care about the community, but Gender or Sex is the same in my book. Feel how you want, and I will feel how I want.
Oh! So the snarky people actually have hearts?! Miscarriages are not fortunate at all. No, I have never been through one, as clearly stated above im a FTM.
I wont come back. I don't need any of you.
And, to your LGBT friends, and mine, I care about the community, but Gender or Sex is the same in my book. Feel how you want, and I will feel how I want.
Get the fuck out you heartless witch.
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Oh! So the snarky people actually have hearts?! Miscarriages are not fortunate at all. No, I have never been through one, as clearly stated above im a FTM.
I wont come back. I don't need any of you.
And, to your LGBT friends, and mine, I care about the community, but Gender or Sex is the same in my book. Feel how you want, and I will feel how I want.
I can't even. Just please leave.
It is like saying comments are racist because you have a black friend. Go educate yourself in your time away from this site. The only one without a heart here is you.
Oh! So the snarky people actually have hearts?! Miscarriages are not fortunate at all. No, I have never been through one, as clearly stated above im a FTM.
I wont come back. I don't need any of you.
And, to your LGBT friends, and mine, I care about the community, but Gender or Sex is the same in my book. Feel how you want, and I will feel how I want.
Oh! So the snarky people actually have hearts?! Miscarriages are not fortunate at all. No, I have never been through one, as clearly stated above im a FTM.
I wont come back. I don't need any of you.
And, to your LGBT friends, and mine, I care about the community, but Gender or Sex is the same in my book. Feel how you want, and I will feel how I want.
Based on your comments and as someone who identifies as 'Q' I personally feel like the LGBTQ 'community' probably thinks you're an ignorant fool.
TTC since 2008 Dh:34, no issues. Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion. 4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary. 6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN, 1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized. 2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP. Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection. 2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!! 5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP! Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9 Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2 Beta 3 14dp5dt: 497 Please be our sticky rainbow baby!
First I am quite shocked that she made such a comment about miscarraiges. I agree with eveyone else here that was uncalled for regardless of what she meant by it.
Secondly, I also agree to an extent that if you are going to participate in online forums for anything you will always experience some sort discomfort about other people posts/replies. I am not saying that I always agree with what I read but I do agree with the fact that you just have to take it with "a grain of salt". I don't know why some people really let things bother them. I think in reality by posting this you just made it that much worse for yourself and you have to expect everyone here to jump on that. I also think the "grown women" statement goes both ways.
Meaning - it does not only apply to the other people posting but also to the person reading the post or who may be offended. YOu too must grow up and understand people are allowed to post opinions and/or feelings. Its life - its why we live in America!
My thoughts exactly. Just wow, there are no words.
Actually I do have words... OP, would you ever say to someone's face that it was "fortunate" they had a miscarriage? You are preaching about how others should act but I think you need to take a good hard look in the mirror before making such comments.
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Seriously, I hope you grow some thicker skin and some actual compassion (to replace the unwarranted righteous indignation). You have a lot of growing up to do and I feel very sorry for anyone who has to deal with you in real life. Please do not come back here. Let me be clear, you are not welcome here.
I a third time mom by your definition because I had two miscarriages which apparently I deserved. You are very lucky that I would never wish a miscarriage on anyone including someone so ignorant as yourself.
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Started dating in 2008 and married November 10, 2012
I came here to get information on being a FTM, and discussing things that go on, and getting answers to my stupid pregnancy questions, and just vent about little things that happen. Forgive me, if I have stupid questions, or have a duplicate question, or wanting to know the GENDER of my baby, or the SEX of my child. To me, its all the same. To each their own.
Today, I found out that I can't do any of that. Some (not all), of the women on this board either have been here WAY too long due to (unfortunate, or maybe fortunate in their sake) miscarriages, or just have nothing else better to do than sit in front of their computers all day and rack up 'The Bump Points.' You women are absolutely rude. You feel as if you own this board, as if you are a 'regular' so you get higher priority, you have 'friends' on this board who back you up. I mean, Its like I'm in a real life game of The Sims. Simulated friends, backing up other simulated friends on bullying. This is ridiculous.
Here I get called out for being a White Knight. I mean, I can only guess what that is, but call it what you want, call yourself what you want, being rude to others who just have silly questions and who don't read other posts (as some of you claim not to do either) isn't a way to act.
I read posts, I rarely post anything, but today's postings from other members really bugs me, and I hope the moderators actually care about the site, and not just here to be a part of the snarkyness.
First off, let me apologize to the awesome D14 ladies for crashing your board. I'm from N14, but have been enjoying your banter on the sex scans this morning (boring work day). I've never done this before, but I could not in good conscience not post a response after reading OPs statement. Mostly, the bolded part.
Did you REALLY just say it was a good thing some of these women had miscarriages? Like, I truly cannot even fathom someone who would make such a heartless, horrible statement. That is pretty much the rudest, most effed up thing ever. Our board has gone through several 2nd tri losses as of late and I will tell you its the most gut wrenching thing ever and the ladies of our BMB have stood by one another and offered support to one another. What the hell is wrong with you?
May you never experience a loss, but if you do, I hope you can find a good support group. Because it seems like you've really burned a bridge to some of the best ladies who would've been there for you.
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Aug. - Sept. 2013 - dIUIs = BFNs
January 2014 - IVF = 3 freezer babies
March 2014 - FET of AA and AB blast = BFP! Twins!
Nov. 7, 2014 - Wilhelmina "Willa" Suzanne (4lb 14oz) and Ari Jose (6lb 4oz) were born via CS
How sad that you call our miscarriages fortunate. I have experienced two and I dont think I can handle another. If you have never experienced one... You don't understand what you just said and how hurtful that was. I hope you never experience a loss.. Really. I wish nothing bad upon people. But I hope you realize how badly you have hurt those of us who have experienced a loss. And you still have the balls to say that this board is full of mean women??? Well you are number ONE on my list of cruel women.. Smh
Oh! So the snarky people actually have hearts?! Miscarriages are not fortunate at all. No, I have never been through one, as clearly stated above im a FTM.
I wont come back. I don't need any of you.
And, to your LGBT friends, and mine, I care about the community, but Gender or Sex is the same in my book. Feel how you want, and I will feel how I want.
There is a big difference between being an snarky and not having a heart. Clearly you are of the not having a heart side. Glad you don't need us, because we certainly don't want you here. Please do let the virtual door hit you on the ass on your way out. I hope it hurts.
You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
Probably not smart being a complete douche using your real name and previously disclosing personal information. You should really just leave and delete your account. Your personal info is wide open across the internet.
This. I found her FB page and personal info in two seconds.
someone just delete this whole damn thread. I don't want any more loss moms reading this garbage. What a horrible disgusting thing to say.
And angry, wannabe badasses, please I beg you, insult me all you want, fear for my children, call me any name in the book, but don't ever insinuate that any of these ladies deserves a miscarriage. They would never wish that on you. No one in their right mind would ever wish that on anyone. I can take all your anger and insults but I can't take you hurting these women and reminding them of something no one should have to go through.
Re: Done.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
You're a disgusting person hiding behind a veil of pretend niceness.
HOW DARE YOU! I joke around a lot, but believe me when I say that suggesting anyone is fortunate to have a miscarriage is far worse than ANYTHING we snarky bitches have EVER said. As a FTM I understand you can't possibly understand the depths of misery and ache that accompany a miscarriage, but here's some little life advice, Think before you speak.
We will not miss you, I am glad you are not planning on sticking around.
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And you're an asshole for the miscarriage comment.
I've been on here for a long time struggling with infertility and then a second tri loss. There is -nothing- NOTHING fortunate about any of that.
God forbid you go through a loss and have someone tell you you're fortunate for having endured it.
TTC since 2008
Dh:34, no issues. Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion.
4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN
Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized. 2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!! 5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP! Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9 Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2 Beta 3 14dp5dt: 497 Please be our sticky rainbow baby!
White knight in another thread comes over to talk about it was fortunate that some women have had miscarriages. Not sure if there is. TOS violation yet, but obviously she is going in a unwanted direction.
Baby 2: EDD: 8/06/14 CP: 11/13
Edit: my keyboard is a jerk.
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I wont come back. I don't need any of you.
And, to your LGBT friends, and mine, I care about the community, but Gender or Sex is the same in my book. Feel how you want, and I will feel how I want.
I can't believe that I just read this. I wouldn't say that to my worst enemy. You are a truly an awful person! Please leave and don't ever come back.
DS1: 12/17/2014
DS2: born sleeping at 26 weeks on 8/8/2016 due to chromosomal deletion
Pregnant with baby 3 - EDD 9/14/2017
It is like saying comments are racist because you have a black friend. Go educate yourself in your time away from this site. The only one without a heart here is you.
TTC since 2008
Dh:34, no issues. Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion.
4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN
Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized. 2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!! 5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP! Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9 Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2 Beta 3 14dp5dt: 497 Please be our sticky rainbow baby!
First I am quite shocked that she made such a comment about miscarraiges. I agree with eveyone else here that was uncalled for regardless of what she meant by it.
Secondly, I also agree to an extent that if you are going to participate in online forums for anything you will always experience some sort discomfort about other people posts/replies. I am not saying that I always agree with what I read but I do agree with the fact that you just have to take it with "a grain of salt". I don't know why some people really let things bother them. I think in reality by posting this you just made it that much worse for yourself and you have to expect everyone here to jump on that. I also think the "grown women" statement goes both ways.
Meaning - it does not only apply to the other people posting but also to the person reading the post or who may be offended. YOu too must grow up and understand people are allowed to post opinions and/or feelings. Its life - its why we live in America!
**Apologies for any mispelled words/grammer!
Mom to DD(4), DS(2) and # 3 Due 12/14/14
Started dating in 2008 and married November 10, 2012
TTC#1 Since Oct 2012
MC#1 5/30/2013 ~ EDD 1/4/2014 natural @ 9 weeks
MC#2 8/12/2013 ~ EDD 4/13/2014 natural @ 5 weeks 5 days
BFP #3 EDD 12/9/2014
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ETA: GFY, for both ignorant comments
someone just delete this whole damn thread. I don't want any more loss moms reading this garbage. What a horrible disgusting thing to say.
And angry, wannabe badasses, please I beg you, insult me all you want, fear for my children, call me any name in the book, but don't ever insinuate that any of these ladies deserves a miscarriage. They would never wish that on you. No one in their right mind would ever wish that on anyone. I can take all your anger and insults but I can't take you hurting these women and reminding them of something no one should have to go through.
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