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November 2013 Moms
fitmama418
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UOT
fitmama418
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I'm on a roll with starting these things...because I actually HAVE stuff and need to get it down before I forget.
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Re: UOT
It annoys the ever loving crap out of me when people say 'merica or 'murica. I think it's disrespectful. It's not the United States of 'merica. You don't see other countries acting a fool and dropping letters, lest we live in a world with 'razil, 'anada, 'exico, 'rance, as countries (I could go on for days).
Poor 'ichtenstein, they'd have it pretty rough.
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DH bought me an AP Pink Vikings jersey our first X-mas together...two things, pink...and my boobs didn't fit in it...I feel a bit bad that it's still hanging in my closet with the tags five years later.
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I want to flame myself.
I think men who watch porn, especially married men, are extremely disrespectful. I also think the fact that some wives aren't bothered by the fact that their husbands watch porn is insane. I literally cannot fathom that. Porn kills love. (I'm fully aware that a few husbands of ladies on here watch porn. Flame away. Those are my unshakable thoughts on the matter.)
This is super weird to me. It wouldn't even cross my mind to paint an infant's nails. Not only that, if they're sitting quietly enough to tolerate this activity I'm doing dishes, laundry, reading, or something else with my time rather than whipping out nail polish.
Maybe, maybe, maybe I can see doing toenails, but never fingers.
Add this to the very bottom of the list of things I would ever bother to waste any precious time on at all.
I'm not interested in porn, I've never watched one. H isn't into either, but if he were it wouldn't bother me. Unless we're talking about an obsession with it or an interest in demeaning, violent varieties them I just don't see an issue.
1. Porn watchers' brains eventually adapt to whatever they're watching, making them want more sex acts, more graphics, more extremity, more domination, more violence. You get to a point while watching porn where none of it compares to what real sex is like. It's fantasy sex--sex that doesn't exist in real life. The more you watch this kind of porn, the more your brain normalizes it, making you think it's what real sex should be like. Once you get there, sex with your partner--real, love-making sex--becomes boring and undesirable.
2. On that same note, the more you watch violent sex, the more your brain convinces you that it's okay. If you think violent sex is okay, you're more likely to do things like rape and have a general disrespect for women.
3. A surprising amount of people in pornos are threatened into performing, oftentimes with abuse of one kind or another, and are sometimes held at gunpoint (off camera, of course) while they're performing. People who watch porn are oftentimes supporting this abuse, even if they don't know it.
This is generally speaking, of course. Not everyone who watches porn will become a rapist, not everyone who watches porn is a horrible person. But that's why I think porn kills love.
You can read more about it here. I think all the facts I mentioned are sited here, too.
https://www.fightthenewdrug.org/get-the-facts#porn-affects-your-behavior
Edited for grammar.
If my husband were watching it 24/7/365? Yes. Some of those things, I can see. But being away on business and not having me there and wanting a little visual? *shrugs* Whatever. Would you rather him call a hooker?
I'm sincerely offended by your "porn kills love" remark.
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Maybe this is because I live in a military community and I have been around it my entire life. It is a show of solidarity and support, and it is appreciated by those that serve (which is the overall purpose!) As are welcome home ceremonies. I am not sure if you have ever experienced a welcome home ceremony for a unit returning from a war zone, but it is an incredibly powerful experience for everyone involved. The show of support and pride that the soldier's Command, loved ones, and friends exhibit help make the last year+ that someone was deployed, and sacrificed for, seem more "worth it."
If we do not vocally/visually support our troops in public, then I think we do them a great disservice. If a sticker helps me let a soldier know that I appreciate what they do, then that is fine by me.
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Back seat, windows up??
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I prefer the 50 yard line, but whatever floats your boat @fitmama418 ;-)
The effects of pornography, whether violent or non-violent, on sexual aggression have been debated for decades. The current review examines evidence about the influence of pornography on sexual aggression in correlational and experimental studies and in real world violent crime data. Evidence for a causal relationship between exposure to pornography and sexual aggression is slim and may, at certain times, have been exaggerated by politicians, pressure groups and some social scientists. Some of the debate has focused on violent pornography, but evidence of any negative effects is inconsistent, and violent pornography is comparatively rare in the real world. Victimization rates for rape in the United States demonstrate an inverse relationship between pornography consumption and rape rates. Data from other nations have suggested similar relationships. Although these data cannot be used to determine that pornography has a cathartic effect on rape behavior, combined with the weak evidence in support of negative causal hypotheses from the scientific literature, it is concluded that it is time to discard the hypothesis that pornography contributes to increased sexual assault behavior. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2012 APA, all rights reserved)
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A lot of what you guys are saying is definitely making me think, and you have really good points. I would like to defend a few of my points, though.
1. I don't care that you and your husband watch porn, or that you do it alone, or that your husband does it alone. I do think it's weird and disrespectful, but if you both have some sort of agreement, then maybe my disrespectful comment should be void. What really bugs me about it though is the fact that A LOT of porn performers do NOT do it willingly. And there's no way to find out who does and who doesn't do it willingly. For all you know, you could be watching that shiz. That would make me sick inside.
2. When I said "Porn kills love," yes, I was referring to love in a romantic relationship, but I was mostly referring to general love. The love that would prevent someone from getting abused. I guess that's my biggest problem with porn: the abuse that happens on the other side.
I worked with abused children for 3 years while in college, and the stories I heard made my stomach turn. I can't just say nothing about it, even if what I do say is unpopular.
So that website wasn't a good reference. I apologize. But I do agree with the things posted there. You don't have to, but I definitely do.
I'm trying to think of more comments from you guys I was going to address. I'll post again if I have more to say.
I truly didn't mean to offend anyone, especially you, @LJGS1010. I'm sorry you went through that.
Edited for wrong word.
Also...do you know how lucrative that industry is? While I'm sure there are many actors/actresses forced into it, do you know how many others do it for the money?? If you're making bold claims, I need you to provide legit sources.
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Also...do you know how lucrative that industry is? While I'm sure there are many actors/actresses forced into it, do you know how many others do it for the money?? If you're making bold claims, I need you to provide legit sources.
That's why I said that maybe my comment about it being disrespectful if both parties are okay with it should be void.
I would love to provide you with a statistic of what percentage of performers are forced into it, but there isn't one. Why would the people who illegally force them into it provide that information? All we can go off of are the numbers of the survivors who speak out about it. You can google it and lots of links come up. The number is alarming. And to think that there are still people being abused that we don't know about on top of the ones who speak out!