Excuses?

snooks721 · June 2014

So, at this point, I really don't want to tell our friends we're expecting yet. It's still super early and I would at least like to wait until after our first prenatal.

Anyways, this weekend we're going over our friend's to just hang out and most likely drink. Now, I am never one to turn down a glass of wine or beer. I don't know what I should say as my excuse for not drinking. I really don't want to make it obvious. Not feeling well? Drank too much the night before?

What excuses will you guys use to get out of drinking?

amt0312 · June 2014

I will usually have one drink and then say I'm exhausted. But I'm one of those people who still drink while pregnant but never more than one drink or maybe two very spaced out drinks. Good luck!

megj2013 · June 2014

I've been telling people that DD is going through a growth spurt and has been needing extra nursing sessions...last pregnancy I told my family I had a headache, and everyone was super suspicious (probably more so because I wasn't drinking coffee).

Maybe try the "I'm on antibiotics and can't drink" excuse?

boxerrrmama85 · June 2014

"I'm on a 30 day cleanse" but then you may have to stick with healthy foods and not maw a plate of nachos

mands1125 · June 2014

The 30-day cleanse thing will work but then you have to eat super healthy. I am struggling with this as well. I already got called out by one of DH's friends last week because we were at our favorite brew pub and I was drinking ginger ale. He knows I love the beer there so he was suspicious. We just said I was the DD and decided to be super good about it.

MrsPinkPeony · June 2014

I'm going to be in the same situation soon- was thinking if bringing a larger bag so I could smuggle a bottle of n/a wine in and pour it in the bathroom, lol. My friend would def know if I'm not joining in on the "wining" haha.

Snickerdoodle24 · June 2014

If we're with DH's friends, I usually say I'm the DD and I feel really strongly about not having even one.

If we're with my friends, I have a harder time. I've used the antibiotic excuse, as well as "I drank way too much last night and had a wicked hangover this morning, I'm too old for drinking a lot, I can't even look at alcohol today." I've also caved and told friends I was pregnant because they weren't buying the excuse, but it wasn't my preference.

plutoisaplanet · June 2014

Bring your own non-alcoholic wine or beer and be discreet (pour the beer into a glass). If you and DH drink the same thing, "sipping" then dumping works well too.

snooks721 · June 2014

Thanks ladies. These are all great suggestions.

I also just thought of one; just telling them I had a headache all day and I know drinking will just make it worse.

I'm going to have to use a few excuses here and there so I will definitely be stealing some of yours

Sparkling wine or something is a great idea too. Thanks again!

mishka29 · June 2014

Driving? Makes me sleepy? Carry a glass around and do the tiny sips and pour out some when no one is looking lol

jmcgra06 · June 2014

In the past, I have taken a dark brown beer bottle into the bathroom, poured out the beer and refilled it with water. Works great, plus you stay hydrated

I'm always surprised that people don't actually pay that much attention, especially if you are holding a glass and periodically move it to your face - you don't even have to drink from it.

dreemkin84 · June 2014

Those are good suggestions. Also if they know you are trying you could say "well we don't know if I'm pregnant but want to play it safe since we've been trying." I'm gonna use that if it comes up. Any other excuse i use my friends would see right through it. Good luck!

LimaD · June 2014

You can always say you don't feel well, take a glass of wine, pretend to be taking sips and then ultimately say yeah this isn't helping. I'm really not feeling well. And stop "drinking" it.

alleycat39 · June 2014

dreemkin84 said:

Those are good suggestions. Also if they know you are trying you could say "well we don't know if I'm pregnant but want to play it safe since we've been trying." I'm gonna use that if it comes up. Any other excuse i use my friends would see right through it. Good luck!

This. If I am with close friends who know we are trying, I am planning on just saying that I can test in the next day or two and rather be safe. Also, that gives me room to either ask them to please not ask about the testing results, or maybe they'll just get the hint that it wouldn't be polite to ask the outcome of my test.

suzieq9980 · June 2014

I'm in the same boat this weekend. My brother is coming over and they will all expect to see me have a glass or 5 of wine;-) So I plan on picking up some of that Fre wine that they have in the super market. Then getting DH to get me an empty bottle of wine and refill it. Hopefully it works.

DjinnaG · June 2014

I stopped drinking between O and AF every month since I had the IUD removed; no one ever said anything, even though I was the most fond of drinking of our social group. Though apparently H had been telling the whole world that we were trying, so maybe anyone who gave it a second thought gave it a third thought and realized I was being cautious. I was staying away from everyone that's smoking during the preconception months, too, so there's nothing new for anyone to notice. Though I don't know a lot of nosy people, currently, maybe they're just not saying anything. There's so many reasons for not drinking at any given time, including driving, I wouldn't give it a second thought if someone mentioned that they weren't drinking that night, even with pregnancy being so prominent in my mind.

Now coming up for an excuse for giving up being a goalie, I'm lost. Probably going to have to cave and spill soon to my old teammates.

Maple403 · June 2014

With my friends, if I say I have a headache or not feeling well it always leads to more questions about what's wrong. I am a really bad liar, so several months ago we told close friends that we weren't using birth control anymore and wouldn't be drinking. This was a little (1 mo or so) before we actually started trying. Other people we aren't close to i just said i was the DD every time. I've been basically dry since Feb, except for AF days. Now people don't ask or notice anymore. I know other people who fake-drinked all through the first tri by switching with DH, bringing NA beverages, and ordering sprite and calling it a gin and tonic.

Jessicaj703 · June 2014

I have a told a couple close friends and between my husband and them they will keep me with a mock tail in hand at all times.

HerHighness · June 2014

It usually works to get a cranberry juice with a lime or a virgin daquri. Make friends with the bartender. They are usually good at keeping it looking like you're drinking when you arent. I used to bartend and this would happen frequently. also tell people that i am on antibiotics for some random reason and its dangerous to drink on them.

maltwin1 · June 2014

If they have beer I'd just take a beer can or bottle to the bathroom and pour the beer out and refill it with water. You can do that all night and no one would be the wiser!

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