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Sib spacing- encouragement from a 2IF grad

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When I was on this board during my years struggling with 2IF, one of my biggest concerns/regrets/fears/sadnesses was the fact that my kids would be a lot farther apart than I wanted. Now that I have a 5 year old and a newborn, I just wanted to encourage anyone who is worried about that: it works out just great. The adjustment has been easier than I thought (and far easier than for my friends with kids close together). DS1 loves his baby brother and has adjusted to him great. Just wanted to post this because I needed to hear it 3 years ago (and 2 years ago, a year ago, etc!). Hope you don't mind and lots of good luck to you on your journeys.
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  • Steph1673Steph1673 member
    I did need to hear this, thank you! And I heard similar news this past weekend from my friend with a newborn and one entering kindergarten so I might just believe you both now ;-)
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  • AprilDrew04AprilDrew04 member
    Agreed. Thanks for sharing! This has been a concern for me, as I wanted my children super close together, like a year to a year and a half apart.

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  • jlb902jlb902 member
    Thanks for posting this. One of my biggest mental struggles have been not being able to have my "ideal" age gap. I am now looking at 5 years minimum. Glad its working out for you!

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  • sailorgalsailorgal member
    I actually always wanted kids further apart than my friends for this reason. They all seem super stressed with kids 18-30 months apart. But I was thinking more like 3-4 years. But my main anxiety with kids 5+ years apart (which ours will be should we have another) is actually for the later years more so. I know a few friends who were spaced from their siblings and their parents have said it was tough when kids were in such different realms with activities, different schools, etc. Anyways that'll be our reality so I'm not stressing over it. It is what it is.
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