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KariB509 · June 2014

Am I allowed to start the bitchfest? Because I really need to bitch!

KariB509 · June 2014

I woke up with the absolute worst neck and upper back pain I've ever experienced! Almost every movement hurts. I can't move my head in either direction or up and down without agonizing pain shooting down my back. I don't know how I'm going to get through this day taking care of two kids when I can move. :-q

mfarmer0811 · June 2014

I have to go up to the school and finish cleaning out my classroom. I spent 4 hours up there Saturday. Today, I'm taking DS and I really, really hope he does well, and people don't bother me cause I just want to get it done!!!

I don't guess this is much of a bitch...I guess my BF is I really don't want to go up there, but I need to get it done!!!

ProudMommy030614 · June 2014

My bf is that I will be 32 in 15 days. How did time go by so fast?

@ShellsBells1980‌ what kind of cd are you using? Maybe you need a doubler, Colton needs one at night or he leaks.

@KariB509‌ I hope you feel better

BethRN1987 · June 2014

My bitch is I hate when people are passive aggressive. If your mad then own it .

pepperedmoth · June 2014

My SIL still hasn't come to meet LO, and it's starting to hurt MH's feelings.

I was laughing over it until I realized he was upset, and now I am upset for him.

His sister lives maybe 5 hours away by car. My parents, who live 4 hours away, and his parents, who live over 8 hours away, have both visited multiple times. One of my sisters flew in from across the country to meet her nephew; my other sister flew in from CHINA to meet him.

Last night she texted him back after he had invited her YET AGAIN to come visit, and she said she didn't have a long weekend coming up for a while, she had a lot of other plans, and didn't know when she would make it. :-/

ETA: She did say we could drop by on our way to spend a week with her parents, so we probably will (or might not---she just moved to a new apartment over the winter, and this spring it hatched out with a MASSIVE CROP OF FLEAS left by the prior renters, so I am less than enthusiastic about visiting) but either way that doesn't really help MH's hurt feelings.

Of all my in laws she's the one with whom my relationship is most strained, so I don't think there is a tactful way I can directly intervene here....maybe call my MIL? I dunno. WWM14 do? MH has sad puppy eyes. :-(

kimberpoo · June 2014

lo is sleeping like shit since we transitioned from pnp to crib a few days ago. I was getting some good 4 hr stretches in the pnp but now lo is back to waking every 2 hrs. te worst is that he wakes an stays upbnow from 6am-7am, then sleeps for 1 hr and is back up for 30 mins, then might maybe nap after that. ughhhh. I want to stick him back in the pnp bc I need some sleep when I start work again in a few weeks, but our pnp is going to dh's grandmas house bc she is watching him while I'm at work and I really dont want to take this heavy thing home every night (easily portable my ass) and dh doesnt want to buy another for our house. I need to find a safe bassinet thing to stick in the crib before I die of exhaustion.

cierravictoria · June 2014

So many things...We have been in the hospital since Friday and zoey was diagnosed with failure to thrive. We have struggled with weight gain since day one. We EBF and I feed her on demand. When we first got here the on call doctor (who never met us or took the time to find out her history) put in orders to only formula feed her. No pumped breastmilk or breastfeeding. When I objected he threatened to call Dcf on us. Seriously?! I continued to fight it and he finally agreed to let me pump and feed her 3oz every 3 hours. She has gained 8 oz since Friday night and they still aren't letting us go home. No one can tell us a goal or why we are still here. False information has been documented on our charts several times since we have been here. I'm over it.

We took her to an ent a month ago to see if a lip/tongue tie was causing her slow weight gain. The doc looked at her for about 5 seconds and said she was fine. Fast forward to yesterday and a LC examined her and immediately could tell she has a deep posterior tongue tie and lip tie. I'm so mad. If the ent would have taken the time to thoroughly examine her we could have avoided all of this in the first place.

One more thing. My younger sister rarely sees zoey even though we live 10 mins apart. When she does see her (usually for very short periods of time) she always posts a picture of herself holding z with a caption that makes it sound like she spends so much time with her. She hasn't contacted me at all since we have been in the hospital. Yesterday she drove right past the hospital and didn't come see z. Then I see on FB that she went to a grad party last night. Seriously you couldn't come see your niece for 10 minutes?! My parents drove back 2.5 hours from their vacation to come see her and you drove right by the hospital and couldn't stop in??

kimberpoo · June 2014

oh and I have another.

Dear company: we love seeing our friends and family. you have all been a huge wonderful help. BUT:

1. I' like at least one day a week with just dh, lo, and myself.

2. lo has begun to establish a 'bedtime' for himself that begins between 9 and 9:30 pm. also, you know that we have a new baby and we dont get any sleep and dh gets up at 4 am for work, so when 8:30/9pm roll around GTFO. yes, lo is screaming unconsolably because there is too much stimulation and he is overtired and fights sleep when you are here, gtfo. yes, dh almost died several times falling asleep driving to work bc he didnt get to bed on time, gtfo. so gtfo.

we love you dearly but please don't stay so damn late all the time.

cierravictoria · June 2014

@babycaps‌ our pediatrician is calling today and looking at her charts to see what's really going on. If they say we have to stay longer we are going to request to be transferred to a children's hospital. I just can't believe he was going to call Dcf on us without even meeting us! Absurd. I am a great mom and have done everything in my power to try to get z to gain weight while still breastfeeding. It is my right to refuse formula and if i can pump and provide food for my baby then that's what I'm going to do. And btw if I was truly neglecting my child then I wouldn't have brought her to the hospital on my own terms in the first place!!!

PerkyErky · June 2014

@ProudMommy030614‌ I'll be 33 on the 16th and DS1 will be 6. How did that happen?

myfriendscallmemeg · June 2014

I'm supposed to have my baby & I packed up, ready for a day of work, and at work in an hour. Instead I'm still in bed bumping.

Another—I can't find Holland's favorite binky (the one with the dogs teeth marks in it.) I consoled her with it before bed but didn't put it to bed with her.

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ETA: Boss just texted me and said we're postponing until tomorrow!

PerkyErky · June 2014

I adopted DS1, but he still has regular skype visits with his biological maternal grandparents. Since DS2 was born he has been curious if he grew in my belly too and we have been honest with him. I told him he grew in another woman's tummy but that she couldn't be the mommy he needed and couldn't take care of him so I get to be his mommy. And even though he didn't grow in my body he grew in my heart. He has no recollection of bio mom and it was a bad situation so I am thankful for that. I have been mom to him since he was 2.5. He will be 6 in two weeks. Bio mom hasn't seen or spoken to DS1 since Halloween 2011 and she now lives in a separate state.

Saturday he was skyping with them and grandma mentioned she was sending him a package full of baby pictures of him. "And there are even a few pictures of you when you were still in your mommy's tummy!"

I am pissed. He didn't understand and afterwards kept asking if he grew in my tummy. Bio mom is NOT his mommy. Her rights were terminated because she failed so completely at being his mother. She loved her drugs and herself more than him and he was the defenseless baby. I take him to his therapies to counteract her neglect and drug exposure, I tuck him into bed at night, I scare away the monsters in his room, I held his hand and walked him into his first day of school.

We skype through fb and right after the skype she posts a picture she took of him through the computer. Next thing I know biomom comments "that shirt is awful". He was wearing a shirt with a picture of a tie. He picked that shirt out when he saw it at the store and it is one of his favorites. She doesn't know anything about him. She can only bitch about his clothes because she has nothing else. She knows he is happy and healthy.

I am angry. There are so many things I want to say, but I know it's not worth it. I am still trying to decide if I want to address grandma's comment or not. Honestly I think she made it innocently and that she doesn't know how to refer to her daughter in regards to DS1. But that shit is not cool.

kaking78 · June 2014

Yesterday's anniversary dinner turned into take out on the couch. The 13 lb. dictator wasn't having it.

myfriendscallmemeg · June 2014

@PerkyErky‌ That makes me sad for you. ((Hugs)) But it also makes my heart swell because I hate to see little kids in bad situations. Kudos to you for stepping up and taking care of him! You'll always be his Mommy. I'm sending you all my love today!

Sanibel21 · June 2014

The right side of my breast is sore. I don't feel any lumps. Both sides are pretty full right now because LO hasn't seemed as hungry this am. I am hoping it's not the beginning of mastitis. I am going to a breastfeeding group so will probably be feeding soon. But I'm not liking how this is feeling.

angelsnight · June 2014

I go back to work on Friday, enough said.

wildhoney4508 · June 2014

Jennibeanjld said:
@PerkyErky‌ Hugs!! I'm so sorry that you're frustrated. You ARE his mommy and he knows that - regardless of any other confusion, you're the one that has been and continues to be there for him.

I would still address the comment with bio grandma so she doesn't continue to make comments. Let her know how much it confuses him. Don't pay any attention to what bio mom says or the comments she makes. She's insignificant and her comments mean nothing.

Lost of hugs to you!

I agree with you @Jennibeanjld‌ couldn't have said it better. I'm sad and mad for you, @PerkyErky‌

Definitely speak to the grandma about this in private. What does your DH say? I'm sure he supports you, but maybe having him with you when you do so will be good for you. I hope that nonsense stops and you can move on with your beautiful family.

nkrone08 · June 2014

@mndynitetragdy‌ are you saying your unpaid taxes are $48 for the quarter!? I'm sorry that that happened. The mortgage company should absolutely be taking care of that for you!

nlane0723 · June 2014

That bitch Aunt Flo made her appearance this weekend.

LittlePigeon · June 2014

I go back to work (just for a week) on Monday and I am feeling emotional about how fast time is passing.

Also, Scarlett still doesn't go to sleep well at night and I am jealous of people who want advice on longer sleeps and have LOs sleeping longer than mine! She is a great napper, but once I go back to work I will miss out on those nice naps and still dealing with a never-ending bedtime routine.

novelblessings · June 2014

Mine is about my MIL. Since the beginning she has been somewhat of a pain and does not understand boundaries. When we brought DD home she asked every day the first week if she could come hold and rock her. We let her come twice that week to bring us food and see her. She then got upset that she wasn't seeing DD enough, in her mind. She lives 5 minutes from us and my parents live almost an hour away. Anyways since then we have tried to bring her over once a week but that still does not make her happy.

She doesn't like that when we stop by I have to feed her sometimes (I EBF) and she will just go in the other room and ignore us if I do feed her there. I usually just sit out my DH and my FIL and we will chat. She also asks all the time if she can watch her. For one I have no reason to drop DD off, I currently stay at home and two, I did ask her several weeks ago if she could come watch her and she gave me the run around before saying yes a couple days later.

Not to mention she will passively talk to me through talking to DD. She also thinks she is taking my infant camping with her this summer. And she asks if DD can spend the night, as well. She's a baby lady!

Getting to the point. Last week when we took DD over we were all in the living room and she took DD in the other room the whole time. Then when I said we needed to get going and I was getting things together, she took DD out in the back yard and asked if she wanted to take a walk. Then she called DH crying on Thursday night saying she doesn't feel like she is involved enough in DD's life and she wants to just stop by our house to see her whenever she wants, without calling.

DH thinks I should let her just stop by whenever and that I should drop DD off for like an hour a week. Yea, I'd appreciate a call before someone comes by. Also she sees her enough, I shouldn't have to drop DD off just to make grandma happy. She sees her more than my mom does.

cierravictoria · June 2014

@babycaps‌ when I said all that above it was completely and totally directed towards the asshole doctor, not in any way towards you

we are being discharged now!

linzerd · June 2014

I have a huge zit starting just inside, right at the bottom of my right nostril. Hurts like a bitch!

jennybean80 · June 2014

The only way the babies will stop screaming today is if they're nursing. Not sure why, but it's making today suck. I'd be willing to sit around topless and just let them go to town if I didn't also have to deal with DS1. He's been super cute right now though, I can hear him talking in a robot voice to his toys. My bitch is really just that twins +1 is hard.

natsmama · June 2014

I go back to work two weeks from today, and recently got my first daycare bill for two kids. Daycare is going to cost about $500/month more than my take-home pay. Since DH is self-employed, I was planning to keep working for the insurance. I knew I'd be working for a loss, but this was more than I expected. I'm paid monthly and forgot to account for the fact that daycare charges by the week and some months have 4 weeks where others have 5. My BF is the financial loss, but also my poor math skills.

And, @PerkyErky, I'm frustrated for you! I hope you're able to clear things up with his bio g'ma quickly.

ProudMommy030614 · June 2014

@PerkyErky‌ I am pissed for you, but nog the beginning of you post made me teary (in a happy way). Also we are birthday buddies

angelsnight · June 2014

I have another....damn, I forgot it. Oh yeah, I started my pill yesterday but I was hoping to get a PP period first (I'm almost 11 weeks PP). I don't know if we'll try for another, but I have PCOS and dealt with infertility previously so I was really hoping to see a few periods before I started the pill to see if my body is working correctly (it did after my loss which is how we conceived this LO).

On top of that, it feels like my period has been coming for weeks now. I have almost constant mild cramping so I kept putting off the pill thinking my period was right around the corner, but now I'm wondering if the cramping is just my ute still contracting and shrinking, not sure how long that takes. We finally had sex for the first time the other day and I regrettably let MH talk me into no condom since he hates them. After a minute he realized there was no way he could pull out in time so he agreed to the condom, so everything is fine, but I'm not chancing that again, SO not ready to get pregnant again, so I said screw it and started the pill yesterday.

YankeePeach08 · June 2014

@PerkyErky‌ can you change setting inFB so that bio mom can't see any pics???

natsmama · June 2014

Thanks @babycaps, you're right. We're starting to look at other options, I just hate to have to have one more thing to think about.

I forgot - I have one more B to add. DD has been fabulous since DS arrived but, over the weekend, decided she is no longer potty trained. I know this is something some older sibs go through, but it was a long, wet, messy weekend.

acdiaz11 · June 2014

My BF is that I am sick. Fever, body aches, stuffy nose, etc. MH decided to sleep in this morning instead of getting up to help me with LO and when he finally did get up, just out her in her swing. I can't even pick her up without major pain and now he is leaving to go to football practice!

I really want him to stay home and help me!

cierravictoria · June 2014

@babycaps I'm pumping and feeding her 3.5oz every 2-3 hours. She has to get 28oz per day. Taking her to our pedi 2x a week for a weight check. And we are on our way to the ent now to check her lip/tongue tie. I feel like I have a good hold on the plan and so far she has gained 8oz since Friday night so it must be working!

PerkyErky · June 2014

DH is even more pissed about bio grandma's comment about him being in his mommy's tummy. There is a lot of hostility between him and that whole family. He would cut them out in a heartbeat, but DS1 does have a relationship with them and I don't want to cause him another loss. For the most part grandma is very respectful and refers to me as mom, so I really do think her comment was unintentional. I am working on how to word an email to her regarding the tummy comment.

As for bio mom...ugh. She actually can't see anything of mine on fb, but her mom is the one who posted the picture so she saw it on her mom's page.

jennybean80 · June 2014

@PerkyErky‌ In your email to bio-grandma I'd mention that your son was very confused by the mention of him growing in 'mommy's tummy' since you are mommy and you were recently talking about how he grew in another tummy. Then ask if she can please only refer to bio-mom as "______" when it's necessary to bring her up at all. Good luck!

PerkyErky · June 2014

Jenstwins said:
@PerkyErky‌ In your email to bio-grandma I'd mention that your son was very confused by the mention of him growing in 'mommy's tummy' since you are mommy and you were recently talking about how he grew in another tummy. Then ask if she can please only refer to bio-mom as "______" when it's necessary to bring her up at all. Good luck!

Too bad "bitchface" probably wouldn't be acceptable. O:-)

kare_bear_12 · June 2014

My Husband is a jerk sometimes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PerkyErky · June 2014

@WisconsinCheese12‌ I plan to go through all those pictures first and remove any with bio mom and any others I feel he doesn't need to see right now.

kaking78 · June 2014

Glad to know I'm not alone on the failed anniversary plans! J was just having a fussy, gassy day yesterday. We did manage to go to lunch today though and J slept the whole time.

ntdane · June 2014

@PerkyErky‌, hugs! I'm sorry you have to work through that.

@Jenstwins‌, those days are hard! Hopefully DS1 cooperates with you. It's tough when you're outnumbered.

mfarmer0811 · June 2014

CHPhotoMama said:
I'm glad it's bf Monday.

DH is doing yard work today. His parents saw him outside and decided to stop and 'help'. Sophie woke up from her nap because the lawn mower was loud, so she's nursing while I edit photos at my desk in the kitchen. MIL barged in to find an extension cord or something so I scrambled and threw a blanket over myself and the baby. After she prowled through my living room for a while she came and pulled the blanket back!

Her: Oh, I thought she was just sleeping.
Me: No, she's eating. Why were you trying to wake her up?
Her: I just wanted to take a little peek.
Me: Don't peek at my boobs.

She then tried to take the mouse out of my hand so she could scroll through the pictures I'm editing.

Me: I'm working on these. No. Stop. No. Don't click on anything. No, don't click that. Crap. Here give that back. Let me fix it.

She then proceeded to aggravate the crap out of my cat two feet away from me for ten minutes. He's really jealous of the baby and is misbehaving and acting aggressive, so we're trying not to play rough with him or make him hyper. She was tossing him around and pissing him off all while saying 'You all don't know how to handle cats. I've always been around cats. This cat loves me. He's never tried to scratch me at all.'.... All while he was trying to scratch and bite her. Now he's running around hyper and crazy and keeps trying to bite my feet.

She does irritating things to try to get a rise out of me, so I'm mostly just acting like she doesn't exist at this point. But the next time DH is outside doing lawn work I'm locking the door behind him.

I need alcohol. I don't even drink. But I need ALL the alcohol.

Wow. Just wow. I would have slapped her!!!

jennybean80 · June 2014

@ntdane‌ Thanks, he was a bit of a handful this morning but we had a talk and he's settled down (and having a nap!).

@CHPhotoMama‌ Wow. Just wow. That woman is something else, and you're a saint for not banning her from your house way before this point!

Eta: apparently I'm echoing @mfarmer0811‌ today!

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