At what point do you call it quits?

Nugget28 · May 2014

My husband and I have been TTC #2 for 20 months now. We have been trying since my 1st post-partum check after having our son. Since then, I have had 2 miscarriages. I have had 2 IUIs. The first IUI resulted in a pregnancy but ended in a mmc at 11 weeks 2 days. I just had another IUI that appears to have failed after I had to wait for my cycle to return after the miscarriage (which took forever and had to be induced by Provera). Now my husband and I are planning a consult with the RE on the next step next week. Not sure if trying more Clomid, injectables or Femara would help. Financially, this is all getting so costly and we can't even do IVF because of the cost. Guess I don't know where to go from here. Time is not on my side either....I'm about to be 39 in a couple months.

pettycrocker · May 2014

I think you call it quits when you just can't go any further. That is totally relative.

Good luck.

Bananappeal145 · May 2014

I'm so sorry for your losses.

I can't speak for everyone but I know I've thought several times about throwing in the towel. We have completely ruled out IVF as well b/c of cost. I set an evaluation date. If we are still doing this New Years 2015 (2 years total) we will step back and see if we want to continue treatments. It sort of gives me an end point to have in mind. It's not really an end but at least a designated time to step back and re-evaluate.

MrsAtch · May 2014

I will say enough when our money runs out, we reach the end of the line with surgery and my body, my husband says no more, or I get to the point where the heartache of continuing to try outweighs the heartache of not trying.

sailorgal · May 2014

I've set a rough deadline of the last cycle that would give us a 2015 baby. My new RE says the aim is for 9 months from first seeing him but we're out a few cycles for various reasons (trips, unrelated surgery, etc.), I've given a little buffer.

My original deadline was my birthday this year but with seeing this RE and my family doctor who is optimistic, I decided that we'd give it a bit more time. A large reason for me is the age gap for siblings. They will be minimum 5 years apart, not more than 6 this way. We're really enjoying our son now at 4 years old and it's allowing us to do so much with him and ourselves. I don't want to extend that to be much more. He's growing up so well and so quickly and while I want more kids, the baby stage was never a thrill for me.