FFFC!

desertmouse39 · May 2014

my confession is that twice this week, including today, i have wished that i was NOT a mom, at least for the moment. my toddler has been a real as**ole lately and lo#2 must be in a growth spurt because all she has done today is scream, eat and then spit up. no sleeping. no cooing. just scream, eat, spit up. i can't do a single thing other than attend to her which increases shitty behavior from the toddler. in between, i have to pump. DH is insisting he *has to work*. i feel frustrated, defeated, angry and selfish.

angelsnight · May 2014

FFwifey said:

Ok I have one more thing to say about tummy time bc I am stewing about it. I guess it's one thing to not do it because you don't believe it is important for development, but to not do it because your baby "doesn't like it" seems silly. Children often don't like to learn new things because they're hard at first (and adults too!). However, with practice the task becomes easier and enjoyable! If your child didn't like reading, would you just dismiss it and not make them do it? I'm not advocating to let your baby scream while on his tummy, but if you do it for the small time that they tolerate it, they will get better and maybe get to the point of enjoying it. I feel that I have to keep trying because I believe it's important for development. Maybe you guys have tried this, but I'm just throwing it out there as encouragement to stick with it!

I agree with this 100%. There will be a lot of things our LOs don't like to do but need to, we cannot just not let them do it because it makes them cry.

My dad made me do a lot of things I protested about (getting a summer job, being an acolyte in church, driving at night) but he made me do them and I can only thank him for it now because I eventually excelled at them and even liked doing some of the stuff and would never have known if he hadn't made me. I can only hope I am as strong as him when my child begs and pleads to not have to do something. I guess tummy time is a good place to start because like others, I don't do it as much because she cries. Off to do tummy time!

angelsnight · May 2014

I have two more....my MIL so kindly bought some more clothes for LO today, one being a blue dress with an orange stripe around the waist, and she informed me that it matches the white sweater with the orange trim she got for her a month ago. Confession....I returned the sweater for a plain white sweater so it would go with more things. I guess LO will just never wear that dress around her.

Second, I spent way too much money today. I went to BBB for ONE thing and came out with way more. Being off work is bad for my wallet. I'm also sitting here bumping when I should be putting said purchases away.

jennybean80 · May 2014

@LoveatCowles‌ Would your DH be willing to talk to someone (doctor, therapist). Some of the things he is saying sound a little more troubling to me than just being part of a panic attack (especially things like 'nothing is ever going to be okay' and 'everyone would be better off with me dead).

It reminds me of bi-polar disorder with the fact it happens every 2 - 4 weeks. Does he have periods where he seems really happy, excitable, outgoing, generous/irresponsible with money? My MIL and an aunt have bi-polar and some of the things your DH says/does seem quite similar.

Good luck.
Eta spelling

rockopera · May 2014

I think it is ridiculous, and a little mean, to begrudge grandparents holding the baby for petty reasons. OMG, offering to let you eat while they get to hold the baby that they love very very much? The nerve. Maybe it's irritating in the way they "ask," but come on.

I agree with not disrupting sleep or things that will cause more stress to baby. But dang, I would love my LO to be a source of joy to the people who love him. And not just by being able to watch from the outside or feel left out.

BethRN1987 · May 2014

Here's one.

I really honestly don't mind that Sloan isn't sleeping through the night. I enjoy getting up with her.

clo1982 · May 2014

@WisconsinCheese12‌ that article about Victoria's Secret cracked me up!! @babylimas‌ my fffc was not at all in regard to medical circumstances. It had to do with comparatively unimportant things that come up that people make a huge fuss over. @ffwifey to play off of what you said...I don't do tummy time to avoid crying because it hurts me to hear my kids cry. They cry when they get shots...they are still getting shots. They have both cried in their car seats but they are still riding in them. I don't see that the benefit outweighs the cost with tummy time.If I laid my kids on their backs all day that would be an issue as they wouldn't gain strength. But really that would probably point to a bigger issue anyway. Both of mine have gained neck strength when I carry them front facing in my arms, when they are up on my shoulder holding up their head, when I position them so they are sitting on my lap without leaning against me. Overall my point is there are a lot of effective ways to build strength without making your baby lay face down if they hate it.

memo9 · May 2014

rockopera said:

I think it is ridiculous, and a little mean, to begrudge grandparents holding the baby for petty reasons. OMG, offering to let you eat while they get to hold the baby that they love very very much? The nerve. Maybe it's irritating in the way they "ask," but come on. I agree with not disrupting sleep or things that will cause more stress to baby. But dang, I would love my LO to be a source of joy to the people who love him. And not just by being able to watch from the outside or feel left out.

It took baby #2 for me to really appreciate that extra help with my kids. It's good to let others love your babies

rockopera · May 2014

clo1982 said:
When I read about the 'crazy', rule breaking things parents or grandparents suggest I don't think 'how did we ever survive?' Instead I think it shows that the 'rules' we are told to go by now are just total overkill....and it's obvious BECAUSE we all not only survived, but thrived even though we belly slept, had rice cereal, and ate cake at 3 months (exaggeration for effect). If you follow everything that is recommended you may as well lock yourself in a sterile bubble during pregnancy, then pop your kid in that bubble once they are born cause, if not, they are pretty much fucked.

For some things, yes. But for others, there were more babies who did not survive. Since the "back is best" campaign was launched, it is reported that there was a 50% decrease in deaths from SIDS. Car safety also wasn't that big of a deal in the past and more babies died. But hey, the ones who survived may have kids now. Why should they want to use car seats?

Is important to know WHY things are recommended and then make your choices. Not just dismiss things because "well, we survived."

babylimas · May 2014

@clo1982‌ - I was trying to say that because I have had a medical situation and a major one I am more concerned about the little things. I have seen why changes matter on a large scale. And things that might not be that significant to a typical kid, like tummy time, are hugely beneficial to my son with low tone. It could make a huge difference in when he learns to crawl or even walk. So my opinion has changed so much on the minor things since my first.

wildhoney4508 · May 2014

bunnyfungo said:
I have no idea how old my baby is.

I lol-ed you, @bunnyfungo‌ as I usually do....but then I realized I told two strangers today that C was the wrong age! Pfsh, they don't know, but still
:-SS

And then I lol-ed myself.

And on a side note, I think you should get a M14 award for "Funniest One-Liners." Just sayin'

ProudMommy030614 · May 2014

@CaseAndDave‌ sometimes walking away is the best thing you can do. When I get like that I take a shower or bath with my LO and we both are in better moods.

ProudMommy030614 · May 2014

WisconsinCheese12 said:

CHPhotoMama said:

bunnyfungo said:
I have no idea how old my baby is.
I forgot my baby's name for a full minute today and called her my little sister's name...
I almost call her my nieces name AtLEaST once a week.... I don't even see her regularly but I still do it.

I get all of my boys names mixed up including my husband! We are dorky name trend people and all of the boys and MHs name end in -an, or -on. Gets confusing at times!

ladyglittersparkles · May 2014

Obvi LO is named Fallyn well our fur baby is phoebe...
Both me and my H switch the names up all the time

pepperedmoth · May 2014

rockopera said:

clo1982 said:
When I read about the 'crazy', rule breaking things parents or grandparents suggest I don't think 'how did we ever survive?' Instead I think it shows that the 'rules' we are told to go by now are just total overkill....and it's obvious BECAUSE we all not only survived, but thrived even though we belly slept, had rice cereal, and ate cake at 3 months (exaggeration for effect). If you follow everything that is recommended you may as well lock yourself in a sterile bubble during pregnancy, then pop your kid in that bubble once they are born cause, if not, they are pretty much fucked.
For some things, yes. But for others, there were more babies who did not survive. Since the "back is best" campaign was launched, it is reported that there was a 50% decrease in deaths from SIDS. Car safety also wasn't that big of a deal in the past and more babies died. But hey, the ones who survived may have kids now. Why should they want to use car seats?

Is important to know WHY things are recommended and then make your choices. Not just dismiss things because "well, we survived."

I totally agree with BOTH of you.

That's why I'm meticulous about things like car seat and sleep safety, but "whatevs" about things like rice cereal and tummy time.

Oh and FTR we actually did have some fun prone play today! He likes mirrors and that's the best way for him to enjoy them right now. (And no, we don't do rice cereal.)

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kimberpoo · May 2014

I always have so many during the week and forget about them when fffc rolls around! here's my best shot:

I soooo badly wish I hadn't gone to law school. although I enjoy being an attorney, if I didn't have the student loans I could be a stay at home mom

. I really wish I could be a stay at home mom. so badly.

I let lo fuss and cry out a few times before getting up with him at night. not like full-on cry, just those pre-cry cries. It makes me hurt inside to hear him cry at all, but sometimes he goes back to sleep. and I need the extra sleep.

I don't get much done around the house. I know Dh wants me to do more, but darn it, lo doesn't like to be put down for long periods and he needs a lot of attention and care. dh forgets how much work lo is. any tiny bits of free time in there I like to spend on me! sure I'd love to plant the garden or paint the laundry room but that takes more time than lo will let me put him down for. I keep the house pretty clean, cook, and even pack his lunch so he can stfu.

I've spent more money than I saved for my maternity leave, although it's only maybe a few hundred dollars over so far. I don't even care too much because I know dh can cover it and we have plenty of money in our joint account (we have a joint and then individual accts), and most of it was necessities like gas and groceries. but I am so totally going to go to the spa before going back to work. sounds selfish, but dh has spent a ton of money on toys recently (jeep stuff, new kayak etc.) and I know he wants me to spend some on myself. I feel a bit guilty doing it though.

DH's grandma, who will be taking care of lo while I'm at work, has made comments on lo being fat, eating too often, etc. (WTF? he's 6 weeks old. no such thing). but now I'm even more afraid of leaving him with her. If she doesn't feed him when he's hungry and lets him cry I might actually cause her physical harm....this momma bear might flip. oh boy.

Kewii · May 2014

I think that 20-30 years down the line we're all going to become that annoying mother/MIL that we bitch about now. But we'll think we're not because we're not crazy, we just know best.

ProudMommy030614 · May 2014

CaseAndDave said:

ProudMommy030614 said:

@CaseAndDave‌ sometimes walking away is the best thing you can do. When I get like that I take a shower or bath with my LO and we both are in better moods.

That's a great idea, I haven't done that yet. How does the shower work?

I lay him down on the bottom of the shower on a towel and he kicks around naked. For some reason all of my boys have loved it. He isn't under the spraying water but the towel gets wet and keeps him warm. He loves it.

Eta: during the toddler years it was the only way to keep an eye on my older boys and make sure they weren't causing trouble!

babylimas · May 2014

ProudMommy030614 said:

CaseAndDave said:

ProudMommy030614 said:

@CaseAndDave‌ sometimes walking away is the best thing you can do. When I get like that I take a shower or bath with my LO and we both are in better moods.

That's a great idea, I haven't done that yet. How does the shower work?

I lay him down on the bottom of the shower on a towel and he kicks around naked. For some reason all of my boys have loved it. He isn't under the spraying water but the towel gets wet and keeps him warm. He loves it.

I take my kids in the shower with me under the sprayer. I just hold him and scrub him down. Some people do the family bed, we do the family shower.

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lazyreader · May 2014

mndynitetragdy said:
We're going to the farmer's market this morning and I just looked up the vendors to see if my favorite cake maker lady has a booth there again this year. She does not. That's a pisser. That's right, I dont go to the farmer's market for produce or crafty stuff. Just cupcakes. I would just not go now, but we promised the kids they could see the ferris wheel that just opened up down there.

I only go for a special taco truck and ice cream bars. At least the ice cream is made local...

pepperedmoth · May 2014

Kacie said:

mndynitetragdy said:
We're going to the farmer's market this morning and I just looked up the vendors to see if my favorite cake maker lady has a booth there again this year. She does not. That's a pisser. That's right, I dont go to the farmer's market for produce or crafty stuff. Just cupcakes. I would just not go now, but we promised the kids they could see the ferris wheel that just opened up down there.
I only go for a special taco truck and ice cream bars. At least the ice cream is made local...

But.....the produce! How can you go to a farmer's market and not love on the amazing vegetables? ::cries sad tears for the neglected lettuces::

lazyreader · May 2014

pepperedmoth said:

Kacie said:

I only go for a special taco truck and ice cream bars. At least the ice cream is made local...
But.....the produce! How can you go to a farmer's market and not love on the amazing vegetables? ::cries sad tears for the neglected lettuces::

Our Safeway sells local only produce as much as possible.

it tells me where from... With a picture of the farmer. If I'm getting food from the farmers market it's fish (this is always "local") or beef or bread... Or ice cream. Lol bonus of living in WA.

ProudMommy030614 · May 2014

I love shopping for meat and veggies at the farm swap! 1st and 3rd Saturday of every month, all local too

and there is a pastry lady there too. I can't wait for next Saturday!

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AriaAmante143 · May 2014

CHPhotoMama said:

bunnyfungo said:
I have no idea how old my baby is.
I forgot my baby's name for a full minute today and called her my little sister's name...

I called my baby by my dogs name this morning.

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